Child would like unsuitable game for christmas HELP!

uolypool

suited-aces wrote: »

Do you really want to end up looking like the bad guy, uolypool?

To be honest i'm not bothered if he thinks that for a while, he is only 14 and If I can help it I would rather he didn't have it.He had already asked me for it and I had said no so he knows my feelings about it.Once he is old enough to purchase the items himself then of course he can have it but until then the answer will stay the same.

Eton_Rifle

The fact is, the images you see have a profound effect on your subconscious, your decision making and your motivation.

Why else do you suppose services and manufacturers spend vast amounts and enlist marketing companies to produce not just moving images such as television adverts but a single page in a magazine.

It's because they know that one single image can have such an impact on the people who see it, it can make the difference between success and failure of a new product or service.

That this one image, or set of images has such impact on a human being is absolutely proven and undeniable.

Now someone tell me why a child, a human being who is particularly impressionable by very definition, would be exempt from this universal proven concept?

kelloggs36

My son is 7 and loves Spongebob and Lego - so guess what he has got for christmas?? I want him to enjoy being a young child for as long as he can - he will only be young for a short time, I don't want him being exposed to such violence at his age - he will get plenty of time for that sort of exposure as he grows up and can handle it.

stumpycat

kelloggs36 wrote: »

My son is 7 and loves Spongebob and Lego - so guess what he has got for christmas?? I want him to enjoy being a young child for as long as he can - he will only be young for a short time, I don't want him being exposed to such violence at his age - he will get plenty of time for that sort of exposure as he grows up and can handle it.

Exactly! I know that there's a range of maturity, but my son still cries his eyes out at Charlotte's Web, and gets me to hold his hand at the sad parts. I find the 'can tell the difference between reality and fantasy' argument quite disturbing, as I think it is still blurred at 8 or 9, or even older.

Caroline73_2

stumpycat wrote: »

Exactly! I know that there's a range of maturity, but my son still cries his eyes out at Charlotte's Web, and gets me to hold his hand at the sad parts. I find the 'can tell the difference between reality and fantasy' argument quite disturbing, as I think it is still blurred at 8 or 9, or even older.

Just because someone cries at fantasy, it doesn't mean they can't tell it's not real. My husband cried at the sad part of UP. He is perfectly aware it isn't real.

stumpycat

Caroline73 wrote: »

Just because someone cries at fantasy, it doesn't mean they can't tell it's not real. My husband cried at the sad part of UP. He is perfectly aware it isn't real.

Good on your husband - the sad part of Up is incredibly moving. My 7 year old is still at the stage where he will play 'childish' games and I will encourage this for as long as possible. He finds anything violent very disturbing, and often has nightmares about it. He's getting to the stage where other children in his class are saying they watch adult films and games, but he's very wary as he knows things make him upset.
The thought of a game where you had to shoot people - he would be horrified.

Toomuchdebt

My partner has this game.I have played it too(very badly I must admit as I'm not too coordinated).My children(aged from 15 down to 7 months) have watched me play it a few times.The older 2(girls) have tried it but were even more uncoordinated than me and prefer facebook.The younger 2 girls haven't tried it or wanted to and have laughed at how badly I play.The youngest 2 don't even watch tv much so are totally not interested in it.Would I let my 8 year old play it?Probably not but then she is a girl and not interested.I must add I have only played in the free for all multiplayer mode so have no idea about what is in the rest of it,but the multiplayer thing really isn't as graphic as some people seem to think it is.You certainly can't go back and look at people's heads that have been blown off as the bodies disappear.The language is an issue but you can mute every player's mics.I would never buy any kind of game for the kids without seeing and trying it first though.
It's a shame they don't do a milder version for kids(so they would still have the coolness factor of playing Black Ops).

Jamz

You do realise that the age rating is only for the single part of the game, the online part of the game is unrated...

It's no different really to letting them watch Tom and Jerry for instance, have you seen the violence that happens in that program?

hitchins

suited-aces wrote: »

Do you really want to end up looking like the bad guy, uolypool?

Think this is the problem! Parents nowadays want their children to be friends and not dislike them, the old excuse "well little Fred down the road has it....", they don't want to be meany mum and dad or in some instances, just don't give a sh*t. Children need boundaries, in fact we all do, that's why we have laws.

LadyGooGoo_2

When I was a little kid I had a best friend who was the funniest, sweetest, cleverest boy ever. He grew into the most gorgeous amazing young man, and I loved him. Whenever anybody speaks about "the best and the brightest" I immediately think of him. When we were teenagers we were boyfriend and girlfriend for a while, and we were always part of the family in each other's houses..

Last year, when we were both 28, I went to his funeral.

I spent the whole time holding his weeping mother up whilst simultaneously wanting to punch her in the face.

When he was dying from HIV complications she would go to horrible dangerous places and meet with horrible dangerous people to score heroin for him "If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somewhere". He was supposed to be on methadone, and he eventually died of an overdose.

She used to say the same thing about giving him money to pay for heroin for years before this:

"If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somewhere".

She said the same thing about dope and booze when we were 14:

"If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somewhere".

Similarly about cigarettes a couple of years earlier:

"If I don't give them to him he'll get hold of them somewhere".

She said much the same thing about playing his older brother's games and watching his videos from about age 11:

"If I don't give it to him he'll get hold of it somehow".

My Mum used to say "If he said he wanted to jump off a cliff that woman would walk him to the edge and hold his coat for him!"

This thread has reminded me of him, and made me feel so sad.