Struggling mum of 2 - where do I turn for help??

demir2424

Blue monkey knows my address!!!!

Juicyloo

Will have googled sols and street names, maybe need to edit them in case your ex comes on here.

That solicitor is the first one I went to then changed very quickly as a lady from the council in one of my distraught calls early on told me she had a bad experience with them. Mind you, the ones I moved to were no better!

Are you on legal aid? Are solicitors advising any better? Let me just have a read.

We grew up within a few hundred yards of each other!

demir2424

Will delete those 2 last posts with personal details on.

Juicyloo

Well, I knew as I was reading the thread that things rang a bell, but did not know your parents live in the house which was owned by my Great Aunt and Uncle, and then by my Dad for years, and just across the road from my parents!

As I jumped to the end of the thread and have not read the advice given by others more knowledgeable than me, I will go back and re-read, and put myself in your situation, look at the figures, and advise you from my experience.

Just bear with me whilst I get my head around it.

demir2424

I am on legal aid, but still getting same old advise - sell up and move or declare yourself bankrupt and get your name on free housing list.
I am very surprised that I am being made homeless and being told to quit my job by so many different sources.

Juicyloo

Yes that is difficult- was in exact same position.

To change when on legal aid is a faff which just adds to the stress, and the only decent one I found eventually, after everything had gone through is nr Manchester.

She is a partner and brilliant, and I will go to her in future if need be.

A positive part of having no equity and selling is that you will not then have a charge from legal aid against your house.

If you wanted me to come along to your solicitor at some point with you as a 'friend' would be happy to do so, but once again have been waylayed and not read the whole thread.

Am starting to think you may be better off renting, but know your options round here as son and girlfriend have just moved home after renting for a while and there isn't a lot around.

I have a very nice 4 berth caravan on my drive if you get desperate for a short term solution!

Juicyloo

Do you feel it is a serious threat that he will try to get you/the kids to Turkey? If so it may be an idea to contact the local bobbies or councillor (who is very good) for advice.

I really feel you should be entitled to council tax benefit- my income is similar and I get it. Could help you with that and drive you down there to help you claim- nightmare- have been there.

Just to make a point- there is no way I could/can afford this place on my own, and it is a big house, but I have managed on income support, maintenance, and tax credits, as well as carers allowance. I'm sure you could manage somehow. It may be a case that you are better off tweeking your options. I knowI would have to go back to work full time and still only be £48 a week better off- and I have only one dependant at 17.

I may be wrong but something still does not seem right about you moving. That takes your 'trump card' away- wrong words I know, but he wants you out as he probably knows you are in a much stronger position.

I'm trawling through the thread trying to find the facts, may just pm you some basic questions- bear with me.

Are you on your own trying to get the kids settled?

Would you like me to call you?

Just wonder if any other posters could help me in what best help I can offer.

Juicyloo

Well quite a day for me- just found out I'm going to be a grandmother for the first time in September- sorry to hijack thread with this post.

Something to look forward to.

demir2424

Congratulations on the grandmother news - it that the 23 year old?

Yes I am own my own 24/7 with my 2 babies, the only break I get is work or caring for my elderly neighbour. I am at Lytham hospital tomorrow finishing my phlebotomy training and coursework, which will be another bit of a break.

I know as I have been looking about 6 months now that there is nothing in the area to rent, my worst case was the little 2 bed terrace at the top of preston street.

My mum has just walked down as there is a fire on preston street with nappies, baby food, bread, milk and cereal for the morning as I explain my cancelled tesco's order and no money until next week. She also gave me my train fare to get to lytham tomorrow.

I have sat in the one stop shop in lytham twice enquiring about ctb and been told not entitled. I have the paperwork here which I have filled in today - so will send off again for the 4th time. I remember sitting there 8 months pregnant for about 3 hours, I was paranoid that my waters would break - had spare trousers in my bag and everything - only to be told no.

The turkey thing does bother me when he has them - like tomorrow all day as turkey is only 4 hours away on a plane.

blue_monkey_2

You sound like you are going to be a great help loo, even if just someone to help with forms and the like. Fate has a funny way of showing it's hand. D, I know you'll find the offer strange but maybe this ;ady can help get you sorted and will be your guardian angel - even if just for a little while.