So annoyed at school...am I over-reacting??

jcr16

omg that is truely awful. i'd be spitting tin tack's.

nearlyrich

That is really sad, I can remember being heartbroken when I wasn't chosen to be a rose queen attendant at school when I was about 6 or 7 it seemed that all my friends were chosen and I fellt so left out. I am sure as a mum you will find a way to make it up to her, my mum did all those years ago, but it was insensitive and the kind of thing that used to happen a lot, I for one feel that school is a better place now that it usually doesn't happen.

WhiteHorse

If the trip is a private venture, organised and paid for by the other families, then what on earth was the school playing at? It really was none of their business. Parading the children in this manner was also disgraceful.

A formal complaint direct to the LEA would be appropriate. Be aware however, that if you do, you will probably be hated in the village. As one of the parents concerned is a teacher at the school, you can forget confidentiality.

Lance

I would try and confirm what was actually said as far as possible and if confirmed I would certainly inform the Head that her behaviour was extremely tactless and tbh rather sad. Certainly stamp on it quickly or your DD will be stuck with the build up and then the photos and film of the trip..... the long Directors Cut.

jellyhead

timeou wrote: »

DD is totally wrapped up in the magic of Santa tho, her little face when she said 'Maybe next year I'll get chosen' almost broke my heart...

mine too, on behalf of your daughter! You've had some excellent suggestions for how to explain it to your daughter, I hope she feels okay about it soon.

Apricot

I would definitely complain to the school though. They are in effect, making your daughter and the other children feel that they are not special and have no right to do that. They should be pulled up on this.

ForumName_2

The headteacher could have chosen her words more carefully. It never ceases to amaze me at the amount of people in responsible positions who have a distinct lack of basic common sense and tact.

Console yourself with the thought that most of those holidays will probably have been paid for using a credit card which will have to be paid back in instalments.:)

galvanizersbaby

timeou wrote: »

Thanks for your replies. I did actually tell DD that it is a HOLIDAY and the parents have paid for the trip and although they will be seeing Santa, he didn't actually invite them. No doubt she probably went back to school and said this which may have burst the bubble of the kids who are going but tough, i'm not having my daughter think she's worth any less of them.

I'll quietly sound out 1 or 2 of the other parents and next time I see the head I'll have a quiet word about how upset DD was xx

Thanks x

It sounds as though you've dealt with this well OP - I would also point out that obviously these children won't be seeing the real Santa Claus in Lapland - just a stand in Santa like in the department store cos the real Santa is magical so he is never seen when delivering the presents so no point in staying up xmas eve waiting

Counting_Pennies_2

WhiteHorse wrote: »

If the trip is a private venture, organised and paid for by the other families, then what on earth was the school playing at? It really was none of their business. Parading the children in this manner was also disgraceful.

Sadly this kind of trip comes with these wretched letters.

I had the same issue last year when my son turned up to swimming, to find one of the mums loudly parading George's letter from Santa because he was so special.

Crass woman hadn't a clue the affect it had on my son and others around him.

Thankfully it was forgotten very quickly.

I wonder if the less said now might be better and it will fade into a bad memory to nothing.

I think one of them probably took it for show and tell and it spiralled from there.

timeou

Thanks all, I feel much better talking about it. DD (& DS who I think only believes to humour me!) will have a special letter from Santa, DD was happier when she knew that they weren't exactly 'chosen' by Santa.

She knows she's a special little girl to us anyway and that's all that really matters xx