Such awful news

sassyblue

jenny bless you l cannot imagine how you must feel, it must be unbearable. I hope you get some good news tomorrow.

One thing to add, from my own experience (nothing as bad as yours) if they lose this precious baby, it will NOT be a consolation to be told they're young or can try again, (not getting at you here phythian just a general observation) nor will they 'get over it', they need to grieve for this baby and learn to live with this awful news. In time l'm sure things will be brighter but for now they need to go with their feelings whether it's good or bad, also can l suggest getting them a keepsake box too should the worst happen so they can keep some memories in there.

I really, really hope it doesn't come to that though and (((HUGS))) to you too jenny...... despite this news this is a very special baby to be born into such a loving family as yours.

xxx

RacyRed

((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry.

GlasweJen

*hugs*

encourage the couple to have counselling, they may not feel up to it now but it does help in the long run. You just need to be strong for them when they are around (by all means grieve for the baby, he/she is still your grandchild).

If the baby's condition is compatible with life and they decide to go ahead any offers of helping out would likely be really appreciated. Baby may be in hospital for a long time and having someone there to look after the house, sort out the post, get in bread and milk so that the parents aren't having to worry about the small stuff when they just want to be in hospital with baby would be a godsend.

All the best Jenny, fingers crossed for tomorrow.

top_drawer_2

jennyjelly wrote: »

Hi, I hope you will forgive me if I unload on you a little, I'm really finding it hard to come to terms with today's news.

DS & his GF went for their 20 week scan today, excited and expecting to come away with news that the baby was fine, and whether it was a boy or a girl.

Instead they found out that the baby has a malformed cerebellum and physical deformities. Tomorrow they are having an amniocentesis to determine the scale of the problem, but from what we were told at the hospital we all have to prepare for the worst.

As you can imagine they are absolutely devastated, and as for me, I just can't stop crying.

Sorry, just needed to let that out.

I'm so sorry for you. A huge hug for you.

My sister and brother in law had the same happen to them this time last year. Feel free to offload anytime (pm me if you like) xx

TD

MatyMoo

So sorry you have had this news and sincerely hope that you all get better news tomorrow.

Whatever happens I will be thinking of you and sending hugs.

annie_d

So sorry to hear your sad sad news

jennyjelly

You really are all very kind and supportive people, and I am so grateful for your thoughts, thank you so much.

At the moment we are in complete turmoil, but hopefully we will be able to think more clearly once we get the results from tomorrow's tests. Whatever decision has to be made will be next to impossible, but we hope they make it with their heads as well as their hearts, thinking of the child's quality of life as much as their own need to hold on to it. We will support them whatever they decide, that's all we can do.

I'll update when I know more.

nearlyrich

Really sorry to hear this, it's horrible to go from the excitement of expecting a baby to dreading what the future might hold. I'm guessing this is your first grandchild and it's such a shock for you all. I hope the tests tomorrow are not as bad as they might be and whatever the outcome I hope you can all look after each other and get the support you need to get through this horrible time. xx

madelaine

Sorry to hear your news, hope things go as well as they can for you all tomorrow.

mollypolly

So sorry.
Wishing you all the best.

xx