4 Weeks pregnant can I survive

Mely

Abby....are you telling the father that you are going ahead with the pregnancy?

ceridwen

Mely wrote: »

Abby....are you telling the father that you are going ahead with the pregnancy?

What would be the point of doing so?

(He said before Abby even knew herself that he didnt want any children that might happen...).

Therefore its nothing whatsoever to do with him.

*Maya*

ceridwen wrote: »

What would be the point of doing so?

(He said before Abby even knew herself that he didnt want any children that might happen...).

Therefore its nothing whatsoever to do with him.

Whaaat???? She got pregnant all by herself did she? If he didn't want kiddies he shouldn't have done the deed. The OP took all the precautions she could bar not doing it so he's as responsible as her.

You do have some funny ideas on this subject dear. :rotfl:

Good luck OP. I'm desperately broody and wish you tonnes of luck.

Plans_all_plans

ceridwen wrote: »

What would be the point of doing so?

(He said before Abby even knew herself that he didnt want any children that might happen...).

Therefore its nothing whatsoever to do with him.

Yeah right! Unless he's an imbecile he knew pregnancy was a possible side effect of having sex. Abby, whether or not he wants to be part of the baby's life, he has created a child and as such is responsible for child maintenance. I hate the way some men pressure women to go for abortion, just as a get out of jail free card for themselves.

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Apricot

ceridwen wrote: »

What would be the point of doing so?

(He said before Abby even knew herself that he didnt want any children that might happen...).

Therefore its nothing whatsoever to do with him.

Would it be better for the child to knock on his front door in 18 years time? "surprise - im your son/daughter"

Regardless whether he wants children, he is going to have a child, he should at least be given the choice to decide whether he wants to be involved in the child's life - it's amazing how many people change their mind about having children once it is already happening.

Also if he doesn't want to be involved, he still has a financial responsibility towards the child he made.

Mely

ceridwen wrote: »

What would be the point of doing so?

(He said before Abby even knew herself that he didnt want any children that might happen...).

Therefore its nothing whatsoever to do with him.

I dont agree. As he is the babys father to be, i think that he has a right to know about the baby. Abby didnt make the baby by herself,it takes two! He would also be financially responsible for the child. Also there may be a possibility that the father may change his mind about wanting a child now there is one on the way,and it would be such a shame to deny the baby the chance of a relationship with its father.

jellyhead

I agree that he should be told, and given the choice over how involved to get.

My eldest doesn't know his father and I am having trouble locating him. His parents don't know where he is either, he's a 'free spirit'. At least we know that he knows where I live, he knows the child's name and age, and he could get in touch any time he wanted to. I've been hunting for him on social networking sites, not that I expected to find him but you never know, if he settled down with an ordinary girl who lived in a house, well, you never know.

It's been more than 12 years since he last made contact, and while it was fine not knowing him when my child was a baby as the child got older he wanted to know a few things, and I can't tell him the answers! This child is not just about me and my relationship with his father, he is a person in his own right and he deserves to his fathers name, and try to contact him when he gets older should he wish to.

My son has recently wondered if he has cousins or siblings that he could find on facebook. He doesn't want to visit them, he just wants to know if they exist, and maybe chat to them about music and books or whatever 14 year olds chat about. He has a large family on my side, and my husband's family treat him as a blood relative too, so he is not short of cousins but he sometimes just wonders about where he came from and if she shares any traits with that side of his family.

abby1234519

Well yes I will tell him, and am slowly doing so...for instance he said we should give up smoking together...and i said we'll I've given up for a different reason to you. I'm just trying to subconciously tell him before I hit him with the news. I had already told him I might.

I'm just trying not to put to much stress on him. To be fair I don't expect him to be financially responsible, what can he contribute? He will only have just graduated when the little one is born and even then he's off to Japan for a year. I won't take Japan away from him and he'll have no money to contribute. Maybe when he gets back he might, that is if he comes back for starters

MrsCrafty

Abby, I have read this thread and I think you should consider a termination. It goes against everything I now believe in but I believe that there are too many children in this world whose parents haven't actually thought about before they had them.

You sound like a lovely girl, but you have so many issues and problems. Why start your very young life off by complicating your life to this extent.

Whatever you decide, good luck, your child will need it.

Torry_Quine

MrsCrafty wrote: »

Abby, I have read this thread and I think you should consider a termination. It goes against everything I now believe in but I believe that there are too many children in this world whose parents haven't actually thought about before they had them.

You sound like a lovely girl, but you have so many issues and problems. Why start your very young life off by complicating your life to this extent.

Whatever you decide, good luck, your child will need it.

This is just not appropriate as Abby has made her decision. Yes there may will be problems ahead but an abortion could bring its own problems.