4 Weeks pregnant can I survive

jellyhead

I agree, Abby's made a decision and sounds like she's thought things through. Her mother and grandmother are on-side.

Jox

MrsCrafty wrote: »

Abby, I have read this thread and I think you should consider a termination. It goes against everything I now believe in but I believe that there are too many children in this world whose parents haven't actually thought about before they had them.

You sound like a lovely girl, but you have so many issues and problems. Why start your very young life off by complicating your life to this extent.

Whatever you decide, good luck, your child will need it.

You don't know abby at all. You can't really have any say in whether her baby lives or not. Her child will need the same luck that every child will need and as long as it has its mother's love then it is off to a good enough start in life.
Abby came here to share her problem as she didn't have anyone to talk to initially and was scared and wanted some guidance. Now she has made her decision she should be supported and respected.

ceridwen

abby1234519 wrote: »

To be fair I don't expect him to be financially responsible, what can he contribute? He will only have just graduated when the little one is born and even then he's off to Japan for a year. I won't take Japan away from him and he'll have no money to contribute.

Well - kudos to you for that at any rate. That is "doing the honourable thing" to accept that you dont want his life plans changed or expect him to contribute - in view of the fact that he had no say as to whether the pregnancy continues or no. So that is one Responsibility Point in your favour then - that you accept that its your doing to continue with the pregnancy and therefore your doing to fund his/her upbringing. So - good for you for that one anyway - there will be lots of people (amend that - make that "women") who will put pressure on you (indeed they already are:cool:) to try and get him to pay towards the child - but that makes you a better person than they are if you accept the fact that "I decided on my own means I pay on my own".

dizzybuff

To be honest the OP has made her decision with the love and support of her family . Well done you on a huge step to mother hood. Telling the daddy is the next stage , you dont know his reaction , but I hope he takes the adult one . You may not want to take japan away from him , well done to you for that , but wether he stays or goes when he sees his bundle of joy and sees what love it brings you will be the biggest and hardest ( and silliest if he goes IMO ) he could ever do .

Good luck in your journey , the first trimester is a tiring and long one , get as much rest as you can eat right and take some preganancy supliments during this time . Im 32 weeks eeek yesterday with our second. It can work out , you never know what his decision will be when he sees his baby. they cant speak or expess much but they are certainly powerful little human beings.

I think the comment of a termination is inapproriate , the decision is ultimatly yours , and you have made that . You are a strong young woman good luck .

jellyhead

He can still see the baby occasionally if he chooses to, and could build a relationship with him/her after Japan.

My eldest's father has never contributed money, and that's fine. It's the total lack of interest that upsets my child slightly (and perhaps if he didn't have my husband he'd be more than slightly upset).

Dave101t

if you were a 12 year old, i could say...dont worry, your not the 1st in this situation, but your 21! grow up and wise up.

dizzybuff

Dave101t wrote: »

if you were a 12 year old, i could say...dont worry, your not the 1st in this situation, but your 21! grow up and wise up.

HMMMMMM Not a nice person really , someone get out of bed on the wrong side me thinks :eek:

KittyKate

Well done on coming to a reasoned decision Abby and now you can look forward to the future with your little one

I lived in Leeds for years and know it very very well, I have no doubt you'll be able to find reasonably priced accommodation for your new family and eat healthily and cheaply too (go to the market at about 4pm on a Saturday - they're practically giving the fruit and veg away ) there are also lots of shops which sell very reasonably priced baby goods too.

As for people 'telling' Abby to have an abortion AFTER she has made her decision, shame on you. She's committed to looking after her child and continuing her education. She's a brave woman.

As for spinach and banana smoothies...well they sound a bit gross but I will be trying one tomorrow!!

NickyBat

dizzybuff wrote: »

To be honest the OP has made her decision with the love and support of her family . Well done you on a huge step to mother hood. Telling the daddy is the next stage , you dont know his reaction , but I hope he takes the adult one . You may not want to take japan away from him , well done to you for that , but wether he stays or goes when he sees his bundle of joy and sees what love it brings you will be the biggest and hardest ( and silliest if he goes IMO ) he could ever do .

Good luck in your journey , the first trimester is a tiring and long one , get as much rest as you can eat right and take some preganancy supliments during this time . Im 32 weeks eeek yesterday with our second. It can work out , you never know what his decision will be when he sees his baby. they cant speak or expess much but they are certainly powerful little human beings.

I think the comment of a termination is inapproriate , the decision is ultimatly yours , and you have made that . You are a strong young woman good luck .

Couldn't have put it better myself, i too wish you all the luck in the world, i have every faith you will do ok.
xx

abby1234519

Well most of you have been wonderful! I'm looking forward to this. Will be a long hard slog for a wholes but at the end of the day it will be worth it. I'll be one of those who fall instantly in love with their sprog. When my little sister was born I couldn't put her down I was besotted!

To the person above who told me to grow up?!?! On what basis are you insulting me?