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Frightened of my lodger - help???
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The OP posted at 4.30pm is still logged on but I hope that she's making plans at the same time0
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It must be horrible for her. At least there is a son and apparently some family to turn to.
I know it sounded harsh but nothing will change unless you act to change it. I'm sorry that you are facing some unpleasantness to change this situation you find yourself in, and that it is frightening for you. Going around and around will not help you. I know it is hard but all that a forum can do for you is give advice and encouragement that your not alone. Get someone alongside you, like your son and get this behind you. No one should have to live with the kind of anguish you are describing0 -
thank you all..I am at home waiting for my son to come round and then we can chat...hes here now...BSC member 328:TB/R Nov 08 - Nov 09:TLife is a lemon and I want my money back! (Meatloaf
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Good luck and be strong, Sugarbabe."If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." -- Red Adair0
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We're all rooting for you, angel!0
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Clearly OP has been abused in the past and is being abused now by this lodger. And we can see that she is more than squeamish about the consequences of seeing this through. I'll repeat myself another way here. I doubt that the police can be expected to be sensitive here - after all I have heard a serving police officer say that they love nothing more than being called out to a fight. Out of all the possible outcomes, one possibility which has to be taken seriously is that the police will provoke a fight - and the blow back could be that the OP feels guilty and wants to take the side of her lodger.BitterAndTwisted wrote: »It might be the worst outcome for the lodger but not for the terrified OP and her cowering dog.
I hope to God that she's getting practical and moral support from her friends and family and has been on the phone again to the police.Hi, we’ve had to remove your signature. If you’re not sure why please read the forum rules or email the forum team if you’re still unsure - MSE ForumTeam0 -
Good Luck sugarbabe-47!!
I really feel for you. I can understand that you are reluctant to do anything immediately as it can be quite frightening especially as its in your own home which is supposed to be your sanctuary & therefore very hard to cut this person off.
I think you need to take a step back & get your strength back. Then you can think things more clearly. Its a shame that you cant stay somewhere with your dog for a night or two. Getting away would really help with feeling like your old self again & feeling stronger.
Its much easier giving advice than actually being the situation & having to act.
Well sugarbabe-47, you've got my support0 -
Adding my best wishes too. Hope you can post from an empty home later
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From me too. Keep strong OP.0
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Sugarbabe47:
He is dangerous. Get rid of him immediately. Do not feel guilty."Never underestimate the mindless force of a government bureaucracyseeking to expand its power, dominion and budget"Jay Stanley, American Civil Liberties Union.0
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