Frightened of my lodger - help???

DVardysShadow

sugarbabe-47 wrote: »

Yes I fully intend to have all his stuff packed but to be honest I might just put it all on the drive before 8pm- rather than near my front door - I am also tempted to keep £500 worth of his stuff, but that is just anger talking - I am so grateful for all the support here and really without it I wouldn't have got through this difficult time. Another hard lesson learnt!!!
Sugar x

Probably no bad thing you can feel angry. But if you do this, then you will give him every excuse - or reason, even, to try and contact you again and again...

sugarbabe-47

Thank you. I have just been on the phone to the police again as I know he is trying to mentally abuse me with comments left on a social site last night by him and his family, I have deleted and refuse to be intimidated by him or his family.
What I asked the police was can I put his stuff on the drive? They have advised me not to as landlord/tenant law is very complex? I could get accused of breaking his stuff etc....I told the police I am not going to break anything, what would be the point? I am not that small minded to, even though I am getting angrier by the day over this and his behaviour towards me. All I want is his stuff out of my house and thats an end to it...do I need to be seeking a solicitor for this?? Just concerned about the what if's? I am trying to cover myself as best as I can within the law! Thanks again
sugar x

sugarbabe-47

because he also has furniture, I am worried that he may want to keep coming back. I told the officer yesterday I want it all out in one trip and the officer agreed. Can I legally put his furniture on my drive on Friday??

sugarbabe-47

bumping for advice thanks x

Gwhiz

The police are wrong because it's not a landlord/tenant situation. He was a lodger.

As long as the stuff is kept safe outside (protected from the weather, for example) I cannot see any issue with this at all. You can always say you were doing it as you were afraid for your safety.

pimento

sugarbabe-47 wrote: »

Thank you. I have just been on the phone to the police again as I know he is trying to mentally abuse me with comments left on a social site last night by him and his family, I have deleted and refuse to be intimidated by him or his family.

So he does have family who he's in touch with?

Let them put him up if they're so quick to jump to his defence and if it's Facebook we're talking about, get him/them off your friends list toute de suite and make your profile private.

Gwhiz

I would also make the police aware of the online stuff. The guy is digging a big hole for himself.

The good news is that if he can only resort to online bullying then you have him beaten. Not only does that mean he's not doing it to you face to face, it also means you have an audit trail of his abuse for the Police to use.

sugarbabe-47

Gwhiz wrote: »

I would also make the police aware of the online stuff. The guy is digging a big hole for himself.

I mentioned this to police and its just mind games he is trying to play, and not exactly threats the police really have just advised that I need to get his stuff to him neatly and in one swoop so all ties/contact are broken immediatly. Online mind games etc did upset me last night, but as the police said I dont have to read them etc...I understand that and deleted asap.

I really want him to be able to take his stuff at once with no negotiations for further collections ever! Like someone said here I owe him nothing.

I also found some of my mail in the room last night that he has took!! ,:eek: if I was to complain to the police then they would have to respond and the officer I spoke to suggested also to get a solicitor- to to be honest I am not getting involved in any legal wrangle with this lodger - I want all ties broken by Friday the very latest. Quickly and quietly.

blue_monkey_2

Sugar, you can block him and his family so they cannot leave ny more comments - they'll soon get bored if they cannot contact you and move on to someone else. If a comment comes up, delete it and block that person too!

You do not need a solicitor but if it helps set your mind at rest then why not call one for advice? He was a lodger, not a tenant and the paperwork means nothing. Have all of his furniture ready for him to take. Ask your son to help you if it is big furnure, but he has had his chance and he has to come back Friday and take it, if he leaves it in your house on Friday tell him it will be going on the drive, under a tarpaulin, ready for collection.

You are doing the right thing.

sugarbabe-47

pimento wrote: »

So he does have family who he's in touch with?

Let them put him up if they're so quick to jump to his defence and if it's Facebook we're talking about, get him/them off your friends list toute de suite and make your profile private.

Done and deleted -did that after reading:(, when I realised what him and his family were trying to do.

And yes he does have family - he told the officer that he was going to stay at his mums. Now he is out he is no longer my concern. My guilt is dying by the hour:)
I am getting angry now that I didnt do this sooner and being out of the controlling enviroment - I can see what pathetic, mind controlling games he has tried on me, and very nearly broke me:(