Frightened of my lodger - help???

WhiteHorse

sugarbabe-47 wrote: »

I wish I was a tougher person than I am sometimes but I cant change the way I am

These things are never easy. Evidently you are stronger than you thought. You just needed a bit of encouragement, that's all.

sugarbabe-47

WhiteHorse wrote: »

These things are never easy. Evidently you are stronger than you thought. You just needed a bit of encouragement, that's all.

but i feel so awful.....broken even

Caroline_a

You have no need to feel bad, this man could have hurt you or your dog. How much worse would that have been... just enjoy the peace xx

blue_monkey_2

sugarbabe-47 wrote: »

but i feel so awful.....broken even

But this time next week, when you finally feel free in your own home and are not tip toeing around and your dog is not cowering from anyone, you will not feel this way. You will be free from all of this. He has his chance and he pushed it roo far and abused your trust.

Remeber the feeling when you finally got away from your husband? This is the same because you thougt this man was a friend - it is natural to be feeling the same way, you trusted this man and he abused you. He is not worthy of the hurt you are feeling.

You WILL be fine but it is not going to be today or tomorrow but you WILL not feel like this in a few weeks time.

ih8stress

Sugar, don't feel awful. You were put in a very difficult situation by this person. Your only 'crime' was being too caring and helpful and he took advantage of this when his 'illness' worsened.

Just believe that you have done the right thing, not only for you and your dog and family but also for this 'friend' as maybe now he will be forced to get the professional help he obviously needs.

You are NOT broken, you have in fact just fixed a huge problem that was weighing you down. (It is the fact that you are a good person that you are now feeling misplaced guilt about it all. This is natural and will subside).

Think of all the support you have received from here and take this forward, along with the fact that you have conquered alot in recent times.

As always, take care.

sharnad

really pleased he is out of it is someone going to be there for you on friday apart from the police

TubbyFunster_2

I hope you are going to have his stuff packed up and ready for him to take. The police are right they wont stay long. If everything that belongs to him is packed up neatly close to the front door, there will be no dawdling and no need for confrontation. He will be in and out, the police will supervise, it will make it final for him and you will feel you have closure. If he has to start packing up his stuff the police won't hang about for that and it may result in him needing to return again. Take care x

sugarbabe-47

Yes I fully intend to have all his stuff packed but to be honest I might just put it all on the drive before 8pm- rather than near my front door - I am also tempted to keep £500 worth of his stuff, but that is just anger talking - I am so grateful for all the support here and really without it I wouldn't have got through this difficult time. Another hard lesson learnt!!!
Sugar x

blue_monkey_2

Suga, while it is tempting, do not give him a reason to knock on your front door so make sure everything is there. I would do the same and have it all on the drive as well then everything is done, let him in to check you have put everything in and then close the door behind him.

You have done the right thing, imagine the nice peaceful Xmas you are going to have now.

MrsE_2

blue_monkey wrote: »

Suga, while it is tempting, do not give him a reason to knock on your front door so make sure everything is there. I would do the same and have it all on the drive as well then everything is done, let him in to check you have put everything in and then close the door behind him.

You have done the right thing, imagine the nice peaceful Xmas you are going to have now.

I agree with blue monkey, give him all his stuff & be well rid.