Hospital wouldn't reveal sex of baby at 20 week scan

hitchins

Christmas is coming up, do you not have any generous relatives who could club together as a nice present for you both?;):)

inkie

Now I know what interests the public isn't always in the public interest, but I can't help but feel a wee bit angry and dismayed at this. We pay for the service through our tax, and I feel as though that had it been a private healthcare company, they would be able to tell us at our request as we have paid for it.

The service that you 'pay through for your tax' is a 20 week scan for fetal anomaly and placental localisation - not sexing. I am am midwife had have delivered babies who have been scanned as a different sex to what they have turned out to be.

Money_maker

ricey420 wrote: »

I think that would probably soften their stance to tell us the sex if we had said "can't you just show us between it's legs?"

There's something about that statement that I can't figure out - whether its disturbing or hilarious! Bit like having a puppy sexed :rotfl:

Good luck with the little one, try giving him/her a 'name' (think our firstborn was referred to as Og before birth) so you can think of 'it' as a real little baby person.

I agree with the neutrals - means you'll be able to reuse them if you have any more children in the future.

jillie1974

more and more hospitals are doing this as so many people are forgetting that the purpose of the 20wk scan is to find out how the baby is developing and not what sex the baby is.

clothes wise- but neutral colours at the moment. you will be surprised by how many clothes you will receive once the baby is born.

if you really want to know you will have to pay for a private scan

pimento

I had a scan at 37 weeks to find out if my baby was breech and the hospital wouldn't tell me the sex.

The scan was so good I could see the baby's facial features and could tell that it looked like my dad, so I was relieved when it was born and was a boy.

GlasweJen

My sisters 3 kids were also born in the Falkirk area (I always get this wrong, I think the first one was born in Stirling and the subsequent 2 in Falkirk because Stirling had closed its maternity unit or was it the other way round?)

She never asked the sex of the first 2, prefering to keep it as a surprise but she was dying to know the 3rd ones sex and the hospital wouldn't tell her. Thinking fair play she paid for private scans and after an obscene amount of time she had loads of lovely images but none would reveal the babys gender, she was crossed legged through a session of almost 2 hours!

izoomzoom

We didn't find out with DS1, but did with DS2 (went private).

Wanted to know with 3rd pregnancy but I was high risk for downs and after having amnio we found out baby was okay, but I no longer wanted to find out the sex.

It was a bit frustrating not knowing as I found there were very few neutral clothes compared to the aisles of pink and blue, but hey, we survived the next 19 weeks and were delighted by our pink baby

fantafan

My 20 week can is also next month and I am just happy we have an nhs to be able to tell me if there is anything medically wrong with my baby. I have been buying things for baby and regardless of sex, there is nothing more lovely than seeing a line of glowing white baby gros on a washing line.

Loved and Adored from Babies r Us, Lollipop Lane...they all have neutral colours. You won't care when the baby is born what it's wearing as you'll be too exhausted from lack of sleep and time spend cooing over it.

I sometimes feel disappointed for people when they rub their bumps and say ooo, she's restless. I want the excitement of them saying "it's a....." when I have a baby. That said, when it comes to scans I have booked a 3d/4d one and have already expressed NOT to know the sex of the baby and will have to reiterate it on the day too. Life is too short to worry about what it is....it's still coming whatever and there are more important things to get wound up about. I love going to the ante natal unit and seeing people coming out all happy with their scan photos. You want to enjoy going there not being upset they haven't shown you babies bits. Some people aren't so lucky to be in our position and every day I am grateful for getting pregnant in the first place.

RealButter

fantafan wrote: »

My 20 week can is also next month and I am just happy we have an nhs to be able to tell me if there is anything medically wrong with my baby. I have been buying things for baby and regardless of sex, there is nothing more lovely than seeing a line of glowing white baby gros on a washing line.

Loved and Adored from Babies r Us, Lollipop Lane...they all have neutral colours. You won't care when the baby is born what it's wearing as you'll be too exhausted from lack of sleep and time spend cooing over it.

I sometimes feel disappointed for people when they rub their bumps and say ooo, she's restless. I want the excitement of them saying "it's a....." when I have a baby. That said, when it comes to scans I have booked a 3d/4d one and have already expressed NOT to know the sex of the baby and will have to reiterate it on the day too. Life is too short to worry about what it is....it's still coming whatever and there are more important things to get wound up about. I love going to the ante natal unit and seeing people coming out all happy with their scan photos. You want to enjoy going there not being upset they haven't shown you babies bits. Some people aren't so lucky to be in our position and every day I am grateful for getting pregnant in the first place.

I included in my birth plan and reiterated when the time came that I wanted my husband to check the sex of the baby and for him to tell me. For him to see our baby being born and look to me and say "It's a boy" was really, really special.

pawpurrs

I just wanted to relitiarate to the OP that I really wanted to know too, so I do understand, the impatience of not knowing, but I can also see that it would be a wonderfull suprise on the day, especially the way fanta and realbutter have put it. Because of the problems I have had with my last pregnancy, if I am luckey enough to fall pregnant again, I will be having a CVS again, (uck) but that means I could find out the sex at 11 weeks, but I dont know if I will want to this time, I will just be estatic if they say healthy. Its such an exciting time.
Chakani you made me have a tear (they are never far away at the moment) bless you.
I cant believe in this country people who want a baby will abort a healthy baby based on gender, that is so, so sad.
Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy OP.