Seperating over a dog ?

deedardingle

RacyRed,I couldn't agree with you more.

Mojisola, The OP's first post on this thread doesn't sound very enthusiastic but she reads very differently by her first post on her other thread: http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/...ght=weimaraner

Although I don't doubt that the OP is finding it difficult to cope with things at the moment, it won't be easy for her husband either, especially if she has as yet undiagnosed bi-polar disorder, as she won't be on the correct medication to control it properly. She probably has periods of feeling very low and inadequate and unable to cope with anything and then periods of feeling on top of the world and able to deal with everything. That is one of the reasons why I think she shouldn't get rid of the new pup yet because what if in a few weeks time she decides she is able to cope after all and wants to get another one?

I dare say the OP's husband gives into her wishes and demands frequently and I personally don't think he really would walk away from the marriage simply over the issue with the puppy. What I think is probably more likely to be the case is that she has told him she can't cope and the pup has got to go and he has retaliated out of anger and frustration and told her that if the pup goes, he does too. She has then (probably due to her state of mind) blown this out of proportion and feels that he loves the dogs more than her and their daughter.

I'm sure they could sit down and resolve this through talking and some practical help for the OP during the day, when her husband is at work. Most of us understand that it must be hard work for her with two boisterous dogs and a demanding three year old child, plus her illness to deal with. It wouldn't be fair to leave the dogs crated all day and it's not just a matter of just opening the door and shoving them out into the garden, especially with winter nearing - they need more than that. I do feel though that a warm, dry shelter or kennel inside a dog run so that she could place them there for a while when they get too much for her indoors, would be a great help to her.

Caroline_a

I am a little concerned that some of the OPs previous posts imply that she has had a lot of dogs before. What happened to these dogs, did they live long and happy lives, or were they re-homed when they became too much? If they were rehomed due to becoming too much work, then the mistake is being repeated again and again. Apologies if I am assuming here, but I've had 5 dogs in 30 years, and 2 at a time most of the time. I guess the OP is a lot younger than me, so lots of dogs at a young age rings big warning bells with me...