Can't afford Child Support Payments and Uni Fees

jm2926

BillTrac wrote: »

I assume that DMG was commenting on the poor spelling etc. so hardly nasty. Like DMG my first thought was that the poster wasn't very well educated. And like DMG, I don't search the forum to check on people's health status when commenting on a post. What next? Every post has to state how well the poster is?

Spelling and grammar are not necessarily indicative of intelligence or having attended university. I wouldn't judge you on the mistakes in your post.

I also feel it was a nasty post with neither justification nor relevance to the topic.

jackieglasgow

BillTrac wrote: »

I assume that DMG was commenting on the poor spelling etc. so hardly nasty. Like DMG my first thought was that the poster wasn't very well educated. And like DMG, I don't search the forum to check on people's health status when commenting on a post. What next? Every post has to state how well the poster is?

The point is, that there was no need to make that type of barbed comment about the poster's grammar or spelling, and that not everyone with rotten spelling is thick or uneducated but could be simply sick or suffering from, for example Dyslexia - or as in my case, a crap keyboard!! There's no need to mention it, particularly in that tone.

January20

BillTrac wrote: »

I assume that DMG was commenting on the poor spelling etc. so hardly nasty. Like DMG my first thought was that the poster wasn't very well educated. And like DMG, I don't search the forum to check on people's health status when commenting on a post. What next? Every post has to state how well the poster is?

So would you be so rude as to comment on a poster's spelling or grammar then? That would be ok? There are so many reasons why a poster could make mistakes! These mistakes weren't even the typical ones like "would of" that really show a lack of grammatical knowledge and understanding.

In any case, this particular poster (DMG) has a tendency to be unpleasant to others so... doesn't need a knight in shining armour. I hope they are as perfect as they obviously believe they are!

Sambucus_Nigra

Sometimes, people 'type' using voice recognition when they aren't able to actually type themselves. Would anyone accuse Stephen Hawking of being stupid just because the voice recognition wasn't putting his message across in 100% precise grammar?

halight

Hi all,

Id just like to say that there is no need for people to fall out over me and my bad spelling.:)
The op who started this post askd for advice,help and ideas.

The the OP,

How about having a chat you your DSD and say somthing about how things are hard for you at the moment.
but if she is willy to pay for herself to go to uni with loans and any grants that she can get then at some point in time you will help her out with paying part of the loans back.:) Could be win win.

jackieglasgow

Cool halight, and I'm sorry for sticking my nose in, but the grammar police get right up my nose.

Jinx

With regards to the step-daughter I would have another chat and reinforce that Uni is a while away and that you will be completely supportive of any decisions she makes. And that you will do whatever you can to help but that you need to look at the options, for example as others suggest a uni fund.

Things may change a lot over the coming years, promotion for you guys, lottery win, inheiritance or a change of heart for her!

My daughter has just gone to uni and much as I would have loved to foot the whole bill it wasnt doable. I dont know if its different in England (im Scottish) but its mine and my husbands income that was taken into account rather than mine and ex-hubbys... Unimpressed by that! Shes taken out a student loan and we've helped by paying for the years travel and some of her rent. Her dad no longer has to pay maintenance but he pays half what her maintenance was a week and I pay the same to pay her food. Maybe small amounts weekly or monthly would be more easily doable?

HTH
Jinx

halight

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Cool halight, and I'm sorry for sticking my nose in, but the grammar police get right up my nose.

Thanks Jack:kisses2:
Id do the same for you but it with be my foot that i stuck in not ny noise:D

spamalot

Hiya all,

Thanks to all for your input, really appreciate your thoughts. We have discussed it again and will let the dust settle to see if this idea sticks. She is still young and there is a long way to go before the crunch point. If she is determined then DH will do all he can to help her get through the loans/grants application maze and take her for interviews, etc. He will be supportive, we just won't be able to contribute financially. I doubt if our money situation will get much better as DH's contract is only for another 12 months and it is unlikely it will be renewed, so there are other crocodiles near the boat.

pennypusher

Hi, I think it would be a good idea if SD were to get a job so that she can save up and get a fund ready for university. It's a great idea wanting to go to Uni but as she is finding out there is a limit to how much money people have. If she had to start saving now it would help her decide if she really does want to go and therefore work hard now or whether it's not worth the effort. Perhaps either or both sets of parents could also start a saving fund for her even if it's only £10 per month each. It would all help.