MSE Pregnancy Club 20

Chakani

Giz, I'd think the most likely thing, since it's only just changed, would be that baby has dropped down into your pelvis ready for labour? Did MW not suggest that that might be the case? Mine did that last time, and the measurements went down in the last couple of weeks. Not that that has happened this time, baby is STILL floating around freely, I can move her head easily

Honeypop - any help is better than none, and at least you're getting started in the right direction before the hormones hit - that's got to help. Big hugs to you anyway xx

wendz86

Honeypop - sorry to hear how you are feeling but at least you are taking steps to feel better, it is good that people know now.

Gizmodo - hope the rabbit is OK and that the consultant appointment goes ok.

I have had a busy day at work, time is going quick which is good. Met up with someone from uni for lunch which was nice too.

digitalphase

flower_72 wrote: »

Well, that's me at the maternity with a pessary in place. It has started to do something. I'm having proper backache and interesting cramping/ period pain.
The thing stays in for 24 hours unless I go into labour or have something go wrong with me. Then they assess if the cervix is in a good enough shape (3 to 4 cm) dilated to go into delivery suite where they put me on an hormone drip.
I just hope I manage to get some sleep tonight as I could be here for a long time!
All the staff I met today are really nice and friendly. Still a bit anxious but feeling well looked after.
Like they say, every little step or contraction is taking me closer to my wee baby!

Hope things start happening soon!

honeypop wrote: »

Hi everyone, been a weird day for me today, saw a consultant this afternoon and been diagnosed with ante-natal depression. Truthfully should have seen someone weeks ago but I thought everything I was feeling was normal pregnancy related types things and tried to 'get on with it' myself. They put in an urgent referral to see the counsellor and hope that I get an appointment by next week (am 38 weeks this week, so not much time left!).

Midwife referred me to the consultant after my routine appointment last week after I broke down in her room and felt a right idiot for saying I was constantly tired, highly emotional (tears several times a day, over everything and nothing), very miserable (again over nothing), no feelings of wanting to get dressed, do anything around the house, didn't leave the house for 5 days out of 7 for a good few weeks (weekends were spent pretending to be fine with DH so I got out), didn't want to see anyone, mood swings with DH who honestly couldn't be any more helpful around the house so really unwarranted. There's more but it still seems all so silly to mention as in my head these are all normal when pregnant, especially towards the end when feeling a right heavy lump. But apparently it's all a cause for concern for the midwife and consultant who say the level of everything I'm feeling and all at the same time needs addressing.

I want to say there's nothing wrong with me but if I'm honest to myself I know it isn't all ok and some days I feel like I'm thinking with someone elses brain and thinking things that I would never normally do, and having completely different reactions to things. It all feels really dark and scary, then when i have a 'good' day I can't believe some of the things I was thinking.

Reading this back, I make myself feel like it's all nothing and to carry on as I am, but I know when I get another bad day it could all be worse (last time I got a bag packed to leave DH and DS as I was sure they'd be better off without a moaning wife/mum all the time). Do I sound crazy to anyone else?

Bless you, no you do not sound crazy. I understand as I have had similar feelings on and off throughout. Some days you just sit and cry and can't be bothered to do anything. Have they said whether they are going to medicate or try therapy? I was feeling better, but now I have this SPD thing it has made me very down again. It's horrible. Hope you are able to get some help. Hugs to you x

VB: ohh exciting, please post some pics! I had my cot delivered today, will post some pics later. Very pleased with it. Still deciding what mattress to get though.

Giz, I can't say much about the measurement as not sure what the 'norm' measurement is for that stage, but hopefully it's just baby curled up tightly or something. If all your other ones were normal then surely this one should be OK.
Sorry to hear about your rabbit Bless its little heart. I hope s/he gets better, it's very worrying when they stop eating, and especially when you are worrying about other things. Have you rung the vets?

galvanizersbaby

honeypop wrote: »

Thanks EA, I know I don't have to have it but to be honest I'm a bit worried there isn't time to 'help' me before the baby comes and the midwife is concerned if it isn't addressed now then it may become worse as PND. Hopefully I get the counselling session and won't need the medication anyway.
I kind of (naively) thought that if people knew they weren't feeling 'right in the head' then they could maybe stop it themselves, now I know it's much more than that.

Edit: If you don't mind me asking, what other ways are helping you?

Hi Honeypop
Sorry to hear about the depression but it's good they are monitoring it now - I've had Post natal depression and prob had before DS was born too and I couldn't recognise it myself let alone stop the way I was feeling

Medication was the only thing that helped me but worth trying whatever is offered Take care

digitalphase

Here's my bargain cot

wendz86

Looks good digital!

Dipsy_2

Hi, I haven't posted on here for ages, but have been keeping an eye on the thread now and again. So many births recently! Hope you are all doing ok. I am now 31 weeks and looking forward to baby coming. SPD starting to get bad again, but taking it day by day.

Honeypop - good you have had the diagnosis as they will keep an eye on you now. I had PND with my DS and couldn't believe that thoughts I had. I had had depression previously also. I recovered though and now feel absolutely fine! It is just time that was the healer with me - that and getting plenty of fresh air, exercise and talking through how I was feeling. Routine also helped and my DH would ensure I washed and dressed every morning; sounds strange, but putting my 'face' on did help me feel a bit more normal and in touch with reality. Hugs x x

Evansangel

Fab cot! Its nice to put it up isn't it?

honeypop

digitalphase wrote: »

Have they said whether they are going to medicate or try therapy?

They are going to see if I can get a counselling session in the next week, if not the consultant will look at medication.

Feel a bit better by telling more people about it to be honest, even if you don't know me.

Had a nice long bath and DH has dinner in the oven for us so just resting left to do tonight!

GarnetLady

Just popping on, I'm watching Midsomer Murders on +1 (it's a glam life! :rotfl:)

honeypop, hope the counselling helps, and no you don't sound crazy.

Giz, I hope your rabbit is okay and that baby has just moved.

Ooh, cot looks fab DP.

Oh and Teenie, hope the ice cream helps!