MSE Pregnancy Club 20

gizmodo_2

annibee wrote: »

Yeah I think if you let your birth partner know what it is you want from them then things should be fine. I have told oh that he is there to tell me im doing a good job and not to tell me how to give birth lol!

:rotfl:That is EXACTLY what I just told hubby just now

@Sammy - so weird someone saying that to me now! I remember saying that to the likes of fuzz and others

Can you use a hot water bottle to sooth your back? Maybe a cushion to support the back a bit?

I also want to know the end date of the asda event (if I haven't missed it). Last time in the last day or so they cut a lot of stuff by half again, so the stair gates were £7.50. I want the stair gate! Should have bought it then.

I'm going to try out my TENS machine tonight I read the instructions today and it recommends trying it out to become familiar with the buttons and also the sensation...so I assume it's safe to have a quick play.

annibee

gizmodo wrote: »

:rotfl:That is EXACTLY what I just told hubby just now

great minds..............;)

digitalphase

hitchins wrote: »

Tut! Well I hope the next fortnight flies by for you and take the painkillers if need be, no good been in pain. Hope you sleep well.

Thanks hun, so do I x

Rockinbikergal wrote: »

Can't sleep bubs has the hiccups and is also kicking away like merry crazy in between the BH also couldn't get comfy with the pain in my hip DP I advise the co-codamol for the night of your physio appt to say the least...I have just taken 2 (didn't want to but have had to give in ) Am absolutely knackered so going to let them settle in then try and go back to bed...just had me a nice hot chocolate so that might help too

MI3 she is beautiful and looks soooo contented Congratulations again

ok so Labour vibes to those who need them sticky vibes to those who want them and a big group hug whether you are feeling carppy or not xxxxx

Thanks hun, I saw that your physio was painful. What sort of things do they do? I find that especially my left hip is painful. It's been stiff all day As well as the groin pain. I had a long sleep though, despite several wee trips. Think the co-codomal must have helped.

Teenie_D wrote: »

Have just rang the hospital for GTT results from yesterday, so all fine :j

That's great!

SusanC_2

gizmodo wrote: »

I don't have a birth plan, but I don't want 5 people shouting at me to push. Just OH and the 2 midwives. I remember the OBEM the other week where the woman seemed to have loads of people shouting at her. I definitely don't want that.

Glad it's not just me. (Although I don't want anyone shouting at me to push.)

ema_o wrote: »

I totally agree giz & susan - I have briefed OH about the number of people, making sure that everyone isn't shouting at once and making sure I don't end up on my back (if at all possible). I just think I will have enough to cope with so OH will have to stand up to them for me!

See I hadn't anticipated my wishes being completely disregarded so I hadn't briefed OH on standing up for me. Although he wouldn't be good at that anyway which is one reason why I want a doula this time.

annibee wrote: »

Sorry susan but what exactly bothers you - the male midwife? and how on earth did you end up with 5 - were they mistaking your room for the bus stop? :rotfl:

I wasn't specifically commenting on the male midwife (although admittedly I don't really want people of the opposite sex present) but more on the fact that I did actually care about who was there whereas most people seem to say that when it gets to that point they don't give two hoots.

The reason I had five people there shouting is that the midwife went off for 2 1/2 hours during the second stage and then panicked when she came back and I hadn't progressed and called doctors. (There was no emergency - baby was not in distress and had agpars of 7 and 10 at one and five minutes.) This meant I had two midwives, registrar with accompanying SHO and a paediatrician all shouting at me. Although it wasn't all the time as the registrar and midwife also found time to argue over whose delivery it was and the registrar stopped to laugh at my husband because he was holding his breath when I pushed.

It's not so much the quantity of people that I objected to as the fact that they were there for no good reason. I'd be happy with five who were necessary and unhappy with three if only two were needed. Like if you're having a smear test, you don't mind the person doing it being there and don't mind say two people if one is a student being taught how to do it but if there were a couple of extra people there for no good reason you wouldn't be happy about it.

annibee

SusanC wrote: »

Glad it's not just me. (Although I don't want anyone shouting at me to push.)


See I hadn't anticipated my wishes being completely disregarded so I hadn't briefed OH on standing up for me. Although he wouldn't be good at that anyway which is one reason why I want a doula this time.


I wasn't specifically commenting on the male midwife (although admittedly I don't really want people of the opposite sex present) but more on the fact that I did actually care about who was there whereas most people seem to say that when it gets to that point they don't give two hoots.

The reason I had five people there shouting is that the midwife went off for 2 1/2 hours during the second stage and then panicked when she came back and I hadn't progressed and called doctors. (There was no emergency - baby was not in distress and had agpars of 7 and 10 at one and five minutes.) This meant I had two midwives, registrar with accompanying SHO and a paediatrician all shouting at me. Although it wasn't all the time as the registrar and midwife also found time to argue over whose delivery it was and the registrar stopped to laugh at my husband because he was holding his breath when I pushed.

It's not so much the quantity of people that I objected to as the fact that they were there for no good reason. I'd be happy with five who were necessary and unhappy with three if only two were needed. Like if you're having a smear test, you don't mind the person doing it being there and don't mind say two people if one is a student being taught how to do it but if there were a couple of extra people there for no good reason you wouldn't be happy about it.

Yeah thats pretty much what I was saying too. Your story is exactly the reason I wasnt having a hospital birth last time and wont be (if I can help it this time) I hate the way they have to make a problem as if to justify their time there. I think Im lucky in that Im quite a confident person and comfortable in saying no if I know its for the best. They wanted me to stay in labour ward because I started my labour in the hospital but I told them I wouldnt and the woman was still going on about how its less hassle whilst i was getting back in the car - Went home and had the birth I wanted - perfect!

but in all honestly im not comfortable with hospitals so I know full well if I had had to be in their it would have put my bp right up and been more dangerous for me and the baby.

Rockinbikergal

digitalphase wrote: »

Thanks hun, I saw that your physio was painful. What sort of things do they do? I find that especially my left hip is painful. It's been stiff all day As well as the groin pain. I had a long sleep though, despite several wee trips. Think the co-codomal must have helped.

I think it was the assessment that has made me sore although I am not in as much pain today.....your physio will have to do a full assessment of your hips and back to see exactly how out of alignment you are and to assess where the main pain is coming from to check that it is SPD....my physio was lovely and kept apologising ans saying she knew it was sore and then she gave me a lovely heat pack and the sexy belt with back support lol The co-codamol have probably helped you sleep too, I find when I take them I sleep a bit better but at the same time I have had to take them throughout my pregnancy so have had to cut them out so that bubs doesn't come out addicted......such a pity too as the part of the pain comes from my underlying condition

GarnetLady

Hey everyone.

I've been catching up when I can, but it was a busy but mostly good weekend. I had a lovely birthday (thanks Nic btw!), meal out to the Chinese on Saturday was amazing. Food was sooo good.

Congrats on Nina MI3.

I had physio yesterday, pelvis had dropped again. She pushed it back into place and I'm waiting on the right size of support belt to come in. Feel a bit like I've been kicked today, but worth it in the long run.

DP, I'm not RBG but what they do will depend on how yur pelvis is affected. But if possible try and move it back into place, provide support belts/tubigrips and give exercises as far as I'm aware.

Asda baby event is due to finish on the 5th.

And I'm not sure what else I remember.

Oooh, we've just had an H&M open, I went in yesterday and got a nice top and a trench coat/mac type jacket for £24.99 which I thought was a bit of a bargain. :T

Had my 22 week check today. All well, baby measuring fine. She was avoiding the doppler as usual and even gave it a kick at one point! :rotfl: That's me until 28 weeks when I get my first growth scan and consultant appointment afterwards.

GarnetLady

Rockinbikergal wrote: »

I think it was the assessment that has made me sore although I am not in as much pain today.....your physio will have to do a full assessment of your hips and back to see exactly how out of alignment you are and to assess where the main pain is coming from to check that it is SPD....my physio was lovely and kept apologising ans saying she knew it was sore and then she gave me a lovely heat pack and the sexy belt with back support lol The co-codamol have probably helped you sleep too, I find when I take them I sleep a bit better but at the same time I have had to take them throughout my pregnancy so have had to cut them out so that bubs doesn't come out addicted......such a pity too as the part of the pain comes from my underlying condition

Yeah, I was so pleased that she just had to do a quick check yesterday rather than the full thing. I was so sore in bed last night, but hoping tonight will be better.

SusanC_2

annibee wrote: »

Yeah thats pretty much what I was saying too. Your story is exactly the reason I wasnt having a hospital birth last time and wont be (if I can help it this time) I hate the way they have to make a problem as if to justify their time there. I think Im lucky in that Im quite a confident person and comfortable in saying no if I know its for the best. They wanted me to stay in labour ward because I started my labour in the hospital but I told them I wouldnt and the woman was still going on about how its less hassle whilst i was getting back in the car - Went home and had the birth I wanted - perfect!

This is why I'm going for a homebirth this time and I totally regret not going for one last time. The trouble is even if you do say no at the time (which I did in the case of giving birth on my back) you aren't really in a position where you can enforce it if they go against your wishes.

digitalphase

Rockinbikergal wrote: »

I think it was the assessment that has made me sore although I am not in as much pain today.....your physio will have to do a full assessment of your hips and back to see exactly how out of alignment you are and to assess where the main pain is coming from to check that it is SPD....my physio was lovely and kept apologising ans saying she knew it was sore and then she gave me a lovely heat pack and the sexy belt with back support lol The co-codamol have probably helped you sleep too, I find when I take them I sleep a bit better but at the same time I have had to take them throughout my pregnancy so have had to cut them out so that bubs doesn't come out addicted......such a pity too as the part of the pain comes from my underlying condition

GarnetLady wrote: »

I had physio yesterday, pelvis had dropped again. She pushed it back into place and I'm waiting on the right size of support belt to come in. Feel a bit like I've been kicked today, but worth it in the long run.

DP, I'm not RBG but what they do will depend on how yur pelvis is affected. But if possible try and move it back into place, provide support belts/tubigrips and give exercises as far as I'm aware.

Thanks ladies, helps to know what to expect. I am fully expecting to be sore, but hopefully it will all be worth it. The belt sounds interesting :rotfl: I saw that Mothercare do a sort of support belt thing for £35, expensive, does anyone have one?
My leg/hip really hurts and just want to stretch it out and try and get some relief but won't as scared I'll make it worse!

Glad baby's growing well GL