MSE Pregnancy Club 20

Chakani

Kataratarina wrote: »

ok so my waters broke at 11.45am and I went to the hospital at around 2pm as they kept going. i am nearly fully effaced and 1cm dilated. They have sent me home and now I am getting contractions every 3/4 mins lasting about 40 secs( i have an app on my iphone) I phoned the hospital and she said i sound ok on the phone and to wait until it unbearable but i am finding it unbearable. I am sitting on my rocking chair and i am in agony. she said because it is my 1st it could take ages....

should i be at the hospital?

If you are not happy and confident at home, and you would be happier in hospital, then go back and don't take no for an answer. They really do seem to just keep sending you away until you can't bear it any longer, more so if they are busy. If you are finding it unbearable, get back there and tell them so, they don't know everything. Get whoever's with you to back you up as well.

I did this when I was having DS, and had to be very determined, but they did let me stay, even after telling me there were no beds and I had to go home. As he was born pretty quickly afterwards, it turned out to be a good thing!

gratefulforhelp_2

nic2075 wrote: »

Cat, I watch a few of these progs and the Americans seem to have no problem having inlaws etc at the birth. I was embarrassed enough having Oh and midwife.
They also seem to be lying flat on their backs the whole time and in stirrups for the pushing stage.
I couldn't stop pacing with DS and only stopped for contractions and a little monitoring.

I would rather die. And people should give birth in the way they feel comfortable, but upright is much better, as gravity helps.

Chakani wrote: »

Arrrgh, small rant coming :mad::eek::mad::eek::mad::eek:

This pregnancy was supposed to be calm and stress free after the last one, which was medically easy, but practically speaking, the most complicated and stressful time of our lives. I was so looking forward to it all being planned and calm. It seems I attract chaos when pregnant :rotfl:

The lovely house we found, and had an offer accepted on, and then spent 6 months while the seller messed around, only for it to go catastrophically wrong just before we exchanged contracts? Well, just as we were writing an email to our lovely solicitor to say there was nothing else to be done, could she just send us her enormous bill, we got an email from the estate agent, saying the seller has changed his mind, and is applying for retrospective planning permission after all. This was the issue that made us drop out.

So goodness knows where we are again. Could we be moving house before the baby arrives? Or with a brand new baby? Or just letting ourselves in for a whole world more heartache and brainache for nothing with this idiot of a man who sees no need to be honest with anyone about anything.

Plus, the overdue toddler group mum I was worrying about in the snow, gave birth with no-one except her hubby there (who did a brilliant job of catching apparently) - ambulance and midwife arrived after it was all over. Apparently the midwife had walked from the other side of the town to get through the snow to her. This has only made my (probably totally irrational) fears about that happening to me all the more real :rotfl: They, and their gorgeous son are all fine though, so maybe it should be a reassurance...

Two lots of exciting news. Time to renegotiate the price, I think as they have faffed you about.

Kataratarina wrote: »

ok so my waters broke at 11.45am and I went to the hospital at around 2pm as they kept going. i am nearly fully effaced and 1cm dilated. They have sent me home and now I am getting contractions every 3/4 mins lasting about 40 secs( i have an app on my iphone) I phoned the hospital and she said i sound ok on the phone and to wait until it unbearable but i am finding it unbearable. I am sitting on my rocking chair and i am in agony. she said because it is my 1st it could take ages....

should i be at the hospital?

You can take paracetamol, have you had some? If yes, and it hasn't helped, then go in. Good luck.

iceicebaby

Charlie1978 wrote: »

You say 'Oi, Ma, I know you mean well but labour is hard enough without more people looking at my foof. I'll let you know when bubs is born and when visiting hours are. Until then, do me a favour and leave me with whatever dignity I can muster during a rather personal time in labour'

Sorted!

PMSL cheered me up

ema_o

Ice, you could use my friend's method of letting your mum know:

Friend: hi dad, just phoning to let you know we're at the hospital.
Dad: oh good, and is it all going ok? We're very proud of you love.
Friend: yes going very well thanks, I'm actually holding your granddaughter at the moment, we should be home in a couple of hours!!!

OH did have the cheek to suggest I take my mum instead of him, he thought she'd be better in a crisis! I told him in no uncertain terms that I want him and him alone there, he's cool with the idea now though, I just keep drip feeding him bits of info about what I want and seems to be working so far.

I'm so bored revising, does anyone fancy doing it for me?

Ooh twinny, have another spooky twin moment with passing driving tests, I passed 7th time!! Only admitted that to OH recently!!

gratefulforhelp_2

DH passed ninth time.

hngrymummy

Chakani wrote: »

Thanks for the ideas, Susan and Fanta, and Eje, but our mortgage company and solicitor have both said no way without proper planning permission, as the permission needed is for change of use - they split the house off from a shop, so the other half of the building is a business. Apparently that makes it more complicated. The current owners have that insurance, despite claiming never to have known there was a problem... they were the ones that did the splitting. I have no idea if we're going to carry on - I'm so tempted to tell them to go stuff it after all the problems we've had, but it is a lovely house

How desperate are they to sell and move? Ever heard of gazundering? Probably not morally nice, but could save you a few pounds, especially if the sale might be delayed until after Christmas when VAT rates go up, which would cost you money.

Our planning application for our extension took about 8 weeks as far as I can remember.

gizmodo_2

@kataratarina - no advice I'm afraid, but good luck Hope to see you back here soon with piccies

At what stage does the baby not turn anymore?

I'm trying my best not to slouch on the sofa, but it's so hard. I'm doing well sleeping on my left though (not too difficult though as I normally do anyway). Just want to do what I can to have baby in a good position...

SusanC_2

Chakani wrote: »

Normally I'm pretty good at DIY type stuff, but even though the instructions say it should take 1 person 30 minutes to do, I cannot make the bits stay together long enough to get the wretched screws in. Having a 2 year old "helping" isn't making it any better.

I think it'd be pretty impressive for anyone to do it on their own with a two year old helping.

gizmodo_2

ema_o wrote: »

Ice, you could use my friend's method of letting your mum know:

Friend: hi dad, just phoning to let you know we're at the hospital.
Dad: oh good, and is it all going ok? We're very proud of you love.
Friend: yes going very well thanks, I'm actually holding your granddaughter at the moment, we should be home in a couple of hours!!!

OMG My parents would kill me if I did that :eek: I _think_ my mum knows it's just me and OH at the birth My hubby is convinced that my mum will expect to be there. OF course she can come as soon a baby is born (if allowed) but I hope she doesn't think she'll be waiting in reception!

Rockinbikergal

Evening lady bumps

Ok I have a question and it's quite a personal one so possibly TMI coming up :S

I was in work this morning and started getting uncomfy down below so when I came home I visited the bathroom and realised I must be having a little outbreak of thrush, common during pregnancy I know. My problem is that I am swollen and it is really uncomfy now but am not sure what else I can do other than applying a little cream to the area??? Is the fact I am swollen anything to worry about??? I would be prone to thrush anyways but have never got so sore and never so swollen :S