Holiday without me?

thorsoak

Let him go on holiday ....let him come back to find his belongings on the doorstep in a binliner!

All he is doing to you is dragging you right down ... you and your baby deserve better!

Janey3

I feel so sorry for you, sweet. He is grinding you down bit by bit and this will be just the start, you'll be a wreck a few years down the line, if he continues.

And don't you be funding his holidays/ciggies etc., open your own bank account, or better still get rid of him.

Any

Janey3 wrote: »

I feel so sorry for you, sweet. He is grinding you down bit by bit and this will be just the start, you'll be a wreck a few years down the line, if he continues.

And don't you be funding his holidays/ciggies etc., open your own bank account, or better still get rid of him.

I don't think there is any OR about it...
He switches off her internet when they argue, god knows what would happen if she just changed her bank acc number...

sashadesade

Camber, as you know the holidays are just one of many problems here. Everything you've said is ringing major alarm bells - he has no respect or regard for you, he puts you down, he even gets annoyed by you mothering your sick baby. He won't tell you the exact nature of his mental illness despite the fact you're married and you're the mother of his child?! He sounds like a total waste of space! I'm afraid I think you've made a big mistake in marrying this guy.

Tish_P

Normally I'm all for talking things through to see whether a relationship can be salvaged, especially if there's kids involved, but if what you're telling us is true, leave. Chalk it up to the old "marry in haste" saying and build a life for yourself and your daughter before she's old enough to get the message that it's acceptable for men to treat her like this when she grows up.

Hotspur

Hi camber,

I don't usually reply to relationship topics however your 'man' has made my blood boil. There is absolutely no excuse for how he is treating you and sadly I don't see anything that indicates he will ever change so, I agree with the many that have said you should get out of this relationship.

My sensible male head however will tell you to plan your 'escape' so that you are clear where you will go, when and how everything will happen. I guess the best time to leave will be on the day after he goes on his hols which will give you plenty of time to settle before he returns.

Good luck and best wishes for your future.

H

pimento

camber wrote: »

I find it hard to talk to him about things - if we argue he cuts off the internet connection or something to punish me.

He what?

If he's not working, how is he paying for the holidays? I'd be changing the bank account my wages went into and not giving him access. Then I'd be changing the locks.

Get some cojones.

Pollycat

pimento wrote: »

He what?

If he's not working, how is he paying for the holidays? I'd be changing the bank account my wages went into and not giving him access. Then I'd be changing the locks.

Get some cojones.

Preferably HIS! :rotfl:

pinkshoes

Camber, life is too short to spend it with some guy who clearly doesn't have any respect for you.

A family is not 3 people living under the same roof. A family is people who actually love and care for each other, and treat each other with respect.

For the sake of your own sanity and your child, leave this selfish tw*t immediately!

Do you have the means to survive on your own? Whose house do you live in?

camber_2

I live in his house, I lived in a housing association place before, but gave it up. I also (stupidly) gave away everything I'd worked to get for years - all my furniture and bits that make a house a home. It breaks my heart that everything - everything- that I had in my home with my son has now gone. He wouldn't let me bring any of furniture here, and I'm terribly sentimental (to the point of hoarding). He has pictures of his son etc up. To be fair he did let me put pictures of my son up, but when he told me he didn't love me I took them down with the intention of staying in my own place (I hadn't handed my notice in & moved in with hubby at that point). I KNOW it's stupid - but I do miss my old life. I sit and cry (am doing so now) thinking of how it was just me and my son for years - everything I'd worked for - now I'm here with his furnishings, his choice of decorating etc. Where his son grew up and he lived with his first life. I'm so damned unhappy I feel like jumping out a window. I just really don't think we match... we disagree on everything - nothing wrong with either of us being different - but we're just too different. I was plannning on leaving him while he was on holiday (the fact that he switches off the internet connection when angry, makes me worry what he'd do if I upped and left). His first wife left him for another guy & he was a wreck - but he still had his son. He keeps saying how me & our baby are all he's got & I do worry that he'd do something silly without us. His son has moved away & he doesn't speak to his parents or sister (not quite sure why, I've never met them), so we are all he has