My partner has left home with our son

damsidebear

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

I know quite a lot about residency orders/contact orders but this is in England..
My ex didn't want to be a father but changed his mind when our child was 3, he was awarded 3 hours of contact per month minimum..It is at my descretion, he has been offered the children for half of each school holiday..

We got back together a few years ago and have another baby but he left me when I was pregnant, he has parental responsibilty for both children but with the eldest he cannot remove her from my care as I have a residency order, if he takes her again he will be arrested..

Judges don't usually look at small details like hospital appointments, unless it's a life threatening condition they look at the bigger picture..
They look at who has raised the child, who has been the main caregiver..
Also not sure if I read this right but did you say your child is 4 ?? if so in England a child is not obliged to attend any form of education until the term after their 5th birthday..so nursery attendance wouldn't count..
It could also be argued that her Mums house is permanant and that she's intending to settle their which basically puts her equal to your residence, that's how they see it..

If a child is settled and she's deemed to be a fit parent then they will not take the child off her, she has to be deemed a 'good enough parent' for the child..

I know you are upset and miss your child but perhaps offering to support her instead of getting ready for a fight may help..
She must be upset too, perhaps telling her you will support her and help her resettle would help your son..

I appreciate what your are saying, however read through the whole thread and you may start to build up a picture of the kind of 'mother' she is, she walked out on her son, i didn't!

kelpie35

Hi Damsidebear

I have no advice I can offer you but I have you in my thoughts most days.

I know it is so difficult for you at the moment but I trust you have the strength to remain dignified and faith to believe that things will sort themselves out to your satisfaction.

Take care :A

damsidebear

kelpie35 wrote: »

Hi Damsidebear

I have no advice I can offer you but I have you in my thoughts most days.

I know it is so difficult for you at the moment but I trust you have the strength to remain dignified and faith to believe that things will sort themselves out to your satisfaction.

Take care :A

Thank you so much for your kind words, it's little things like this that help me keep going and count down the days to hopefully resolution for all involved. I miss my son so much it hurts.

kelpie35

Hi Damsidebear :wave:

Have been thinking of you a lot and wondering if things have improved for you.

Hope this finds you and your wee boy well :beer:

damsidebear

kelpie35 wrote: »

Hi Damsidebear :wave:

Have been thinking of you a lot and wondering if things have improved for you.

Hope this finds you and your wee boy well :beer:

Thanks Kelpie, just to give the forum an update of where i am right now,

A child welfare hearing took place on Tuesday 24th, her lawyer was not present as they got their dates mixed up!

however my son's mother agreed to be present at the hearing, due to her lawyer not being there and no defence entered they were given another 14 days to produce their defence! and another case set for end of may.

I have been granted an interim order where i get my son from Friday after school to Sunday afternoon, it's a start but not what i fully want. I'm still pursuing residency of my son as is his mother. There is a possibility of a Barr report being ordered depending on legal aid being granted!

rpc

It isn't what you want, and it's a shame this is being dragged out, but at least you now get to see your son. If she tries to mess with a court order, that will only count against her. Enjoy your weekend!

daska

They do like to give the errant parent every opportunity to hang themselves...

have a lovely weekend

kelpie35

I know it was not the outcome you want but at least you are having time with your son.

Please try to keep a positive attitude and enjoy the weekend with your son.

Mrs_Imp

I'm so pleased that you get to spend some time with your son I hope you have lots of trips that you 'owe' him from the time you haven't been able to see him. Make sure he knows that you saved them all up for him and didn't go on them without him.

CH27

Enjoy your weekend xx