My partner has left home with our son

damsidebear

daska wrote: »

I hope you're compiling a detailed diary and getting as much evidence as possible to back up those claims.

e.g. you may know he missed an appt on x date but if she says, yes but I rearranged it and took him on y date you need to be able to say "I spoke with xyz and the hospital have no record of any other appt being made" pref with evidence in writing.

We completely turned round a hearing during a recess by providing evidence to DSD's mum's barrister of exactly what the events were that lead to DSD being taken into care. The judge wouldn't allow those documents as new evidence so was unaware of the contents but her barrister immediately changed his tune from "DSD should be going home to mum" to concentrating on getting as much contact as possible. Just because they're working for a client doesn't mean that they don't have the best interests of the child at the forefront - there was no doubt in our barrister's mind that they would have won the day if we'd been unable to do this.

Re schools, I thought you said she had applied? In England it can a couple of weeks or so for the application for a school place to go through and the child to start attending.

Yes! I do keep a diary of dates and times, in relation to the hospital appointment all she said was simply there was no point taking him to it as he will be transferring to her area!

And she simply told me that she would be registering our son at a school near her thats all i know, like i say i speak to my son very briefly and don't get much from her apart from how she is going to make it very difficult indeed for me to see my son, the true words of a reasonable mother? i think not!

GotToChange

She would do well to consider this quote (can't credit it as I can't remember where I read it):

"Children should never be the rope in a tug of war."

Best wishes my friend.

daska

damsidebear wrote: »

Yes! I do keep a diary of dates and times, in relation to the hospital appointment all she said was simply there was no point taking him to it as he will be transferring to her area!

And she simply told me that she would be registering our son at a school near her thats all i know, like i say i speak to my son very briefly and don't get much from her apart from how she is going to make it very difficult indeed for me to see my son, the true words of a reasonable mother? i think not!

Without reading through I can't remember if you said you have parental responsibility but AFAIK all school applications have a part where you have to confirm that everyone else has been informed of the application going in. Assuming you do have PR you can check whether there's an application in with the local authority for a school place.

Idiot woman for not attending the hospital appt though, has she registered him with a new GP or started the process of transferring treatment to a different hospital? If not then that won't put her in the best light either.

damsidebear

daska wrote: »

Without reading through I can't remember if you said you have parental responsibility but AFAIK all school applications have a part where you have to confirm that everyone else has been informed of the application going in. Assuming you do have PR you can check whether there's an application in with the local authority for a school place.

Idiot woman for not attending the hospital appt though, has she registered him with a new GP or started the process of transferring treatment to a different hospital? If not then that won't put her in the best light either.

Yes I do have parental responsibilities, i was planning to contact my sons school Monday morning to enquire again if his records have been transfered yet to another school, i am now making a point of contacting them as on Friday i discover that my friends child who is in the same class as my son came home from school to inform their mum and dad that they had been informed that my son has moved to another school! now what i am shocked at is that if this is the case then why on earth have i not been informed! and yet they find it acceptable to announce it to the classroom!! :mad: .

All my ex has told me is that she would be transferring our son to a GP/Hospital in her area

It is Three weeks tomorrow since i will have seen my son, and i am in bits as is his grandmother who has been his main carer since birth! my Ex has until the 27th to enter an action after the writ was delivered. I just want my son home where he belongs!

I miss you dearly Son, i hope to see you soon.

damsidebear

Right quick update, She submitted an action at the last minute so it now goes to a childrens welfare hearing! whats the waiting time on these things(scotland) anyone know?

he was due to be with me over easter 1st week of holiday and 2nd week with his mum! i also have a holiday booked for July which im fearful he wont be with me, i'm at my wits ends.

flutterby_lil

The timescale is the same length as a piece of string, depends on urgency, number of other cases etc. Good luck, must be hard.

clearingout

is he in school yet?

damsidebear

clearingout wrote: »

is he in school yet?

Hi Clearingout, yes he is now in School, but she's lying about how long she's had him in school, My question about this though is that can she put him in another school without me agreeing? (scotland)

Hopelass

Hello
I've read through your whole thread and I really feel for you, you are obviously a caring, well adjusted dad who I think any son would be proud of. I can't offer much advice as I don't have kids myself (Yet!) my parents got divorced when I was two and my dad didn't even turn up to the court hearing! Humph!

Anyway, all I can offer is that in my job I deal with kids everyday, particularly those who are in such situations and for what it might be worth, missing school AND missing hospital appointments will go against your ex. I work on the medical side of things and failing to attend a hospital appointment (or more than one) in my experience does not look good for the parent caring for the child at the time; in fact many missed appointments can be considered as "neglect".

I wish you lots of luck OP.

rpc

You may have already done this, but why not write to the new school and have them tell you when he started and also why they accepted the registration without your permission. You could also get a letter from the old school with the date he was removed and the way that was done.

If your ex tries to lie, those letters should reveal the lie and, in any case, should reflect that she withdrew him from education.

My kids aren't in school yet, but I don't think it needs both parents signatures. The forms I have seen just have a space for "Parent/Carer" There may be a declaration she has signed untruthfully. You should be entitled to a copy of that form.

I can't imagine how much it hurts, but use the time from now until the hearing to build your case. You need to be patient and keep your dignity, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't walk in with enough ammunition to blast her into orbit.