My partner has left home with our son

damsidebear

sjc3 wrote: »

That is such good news. I am so pleased for you as it is obvious from your posts how much your son means to you. Maybe alot of what you said to your ex the other night did go in. After some time to think maybe she is seeing things in a different light.

Hope the lines of communication will stay open and you can resolve this with as little upset as possible. I would still go the legal route and get it all set up properly though for your own peace of mind.

Thankyou,

I will be informing my lawyer today of the situation. at least we are talking about our son and we have agreed whats to happen in the mean time.

pupsicola

Has anyone recommended mediation for yourself and your partner. Its not counselling exactly but may help you resolve problems and worries in a calm, controlled environment. The more able you both are to work together on things the less time and expense with solicitors/courts etc which is in everyones best interest really. Just an idea.

damsidebear

pupsicola wrote: »

Has anyone recommended mediation for yourself and your partner. Its not counselling exactly but may help you resolve problems and worries in a calm, controlled environment. The more able you both are to work together on things the less time and expense with solicitors/courts etc which is in everyones best interest really. Just an idea.

My lawyer did mention that it might be worth looking into, i have yet to mention it to my Ex but i will next time we speak.

damsidebear

little update, as things stand 'we' are getting along as best as we can right now but we are not going to agree about here our son is to be schooled, my question is as harsh as it may sound; do i instruct my lawyer to apply for full residency' or do i wait until my ex does this, like i say we are not going to agree on this issue so what are peoples thoughts?

Atom

damsidebear glad you got there - i read the start of the thread and you reminded me of when i went through the same thing, was really hard but you always get there, took me 2 years in courts to get my court order fixed for my daughter.

Love is a drug mate it fades in time..

Good Luck

make_me_wise

I have been reading this thread. Wow you have had some ups and downs haven't you. I am not a parent yet and this kind of situation ever occuring would really upset me and tear me apart. I think you have handled things very well OP.

I will be completely honest and advise that I dont know what your best approach is regarding applying for residency. If you cant communicate and reach a mutually agreeable decision with your ex about shared access/responsibility then I guess it is a route you may have to take. On such an important issue I would take legal advice from your solicitor. Eventually I am guessing, who applies for residency first, wont alter the final decision.

Whatever happens I am sure your little boy knows he has 2 parents who love him dearly and want the best for him

damsidebear

bump. well what do people think?

clearingout

don't know! that's an honest answer rather than a cop out.

Schooling. What's the issue? Is it to do with location (which is why you're considering residency?)

damsidebear

clearingout wrote: »

don't know! that's an honest answer rather than a cop out.

Schooling. What's the issue? Is it to do with location (which is why you're considering residency?)

sorry for the delay with my reply, my home internet is faulty, the schooling issue comes down to location, i 'selfishly' would rather he goes to the school where he attends nursery right now, my ex woudl prefer our son was schooled where she resides (40 miles) from myself, she proposes our son attends school there and i get to see him at the weekends!

jackieglasgow

So then, the issue isn't really about schooling, its about where you son will live, and in that case if I were in your position I would be applying for residency.