My partner has left home with our son

clearingout

then you probably have no choice but to apply for residency. Out of interest, what 'grade' do the schools get in their latest Ofstead reports?

make_me_wise

damsidebear wrote: »

sorry for the delay with my reply, my home internet is faulty, the schooling issue comes down to location, i 'selfishly' would rather he goes to the school where he attends nursery right now, my ex woudl prefer our son was schooled where she resides (40 miles) from myself, she proposes our son attends school there and i get to see him at the weekends!

I dont think you are being selfish. Your son is settled at the nursery near you and so will also be familair with the school. Hopefully alot of the children who he is at nursery with would go up with him to the reception class. So by staying put with you he will know other children already which is bound to help him settle.

It is a big enough change when they start school. The more familiar things they have around them the easier the transition would be.

I wouldn't hesitate in applying for residency if I were you

jackieglasgow

Its HMiE up here for school reports Damsidebear if you are looking for them, they are online here

jackieglasgow

Just to give another viewpoint though, makemewise, my DS2 went to school with children who were complete strangers to him, the school was familiar as his older brother attended, but did not know inside the classrooms, or any of the teachers or children, and it had no adverse effect on him at all, lots of children go to a different school from their nursery, and settle quite happily and securely. I don't think this would have too much of an overall impact on Damsidebear's case for residency.

damsidebear

clearingout wrote: »

then you probably have no choice but to apply for residency. Out of interest, what 'grade' do the schools get in their latest Ofstead reports?

Ofsted don't cover schools north of the border and i can only find 'school performances' relating to secondary schools, if anyone could point me in the right direction to find this information (regarding primary schools in Scotland) out it would be appreciated.

jackieglasgow

Did you check the link I put on my post?

damsidebear

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Did you check the link I put on my post?

Yes thanks, there are two possible schools in my ex's area, one performs poorly (report 2010) the other is also below average however this was a report form 2004!

the school i hope to send our son to performs well!

if you want i can post the links via pm and you can judge for yourself and give me your opinion!?

rpc

Do you which which school is the catchment school? In some areas, it is nigh-on impossible to get an out-of-catchement place unless you live next door or already have a sibling there. If the catchment school was the poor one then, depending on how bad it really was, I'd do everything possible to get my son somewhere else. We went through HMIE reports when moving house and some are simply shocking.

Apply for sole residency. It sounds like the sooner the process is started, the better.

damsidebear

rpc wrote: »

Do you which which school is the catchment school? In some areas, it is nigh-on impossible to get an out-of-catchement place unless you live next door or already have a sibling there. If the catchment school was the poor one then, depending on how bad it really was, I'd do everything possible to get my son somewhere else. We went through HMIE reports when moving house and some are simply shocking.

Apply for sole residency. It sounds like the sooner the process is started, the better.

He attends the nursery connected to the school that i wish him to attend and he is already enrolled to attend here come Aug, it is the best performing school, my ex moved out of the family home (40 miles away) and wishes our son to reside with her and attend a primary school there (poor performing).

neneromanova

I would definately apply for sole custody/residency then. You don't want to uproot him really after a breakup. Good luck