Coming to terms with a stillbirth

summerday

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. Tears are streaming down my face for you and the other ladies who have sadly experienced this. I had a miscarriage this year which was also sad but not anywhere near the extent it would have been if I'd gone closer to term.

Little Felix sounds perfect. Life can seem so cruel at times, and you must be gentle with yourself and work through it however helps you most. With my mc, it helped to go on long walks in the countryside listening to sad, melancholy music and writing down all my thoughts in a rambling diary. I put away the things I'd bought for the baby as having them out where I could see them made it harder.

Tale care, I'll be thinking of you. xx

Katgoddess

I am so very sorry for your loss. RIP to your beautiful angel Felix.

With regards to your facebook account, when you are ready, maybe you could set up a justgiving webpage in memory of Felix. When you break the news you could link to the page. A lot of people won't know what to say to you, but by donating to SANDS will feel like they are doing something positive.

Many, many hugs. You are in my thoughts. xxx

Accountant_Kerry

I'm so sorry. xxx

RedwoodBrook

Thank you to everyone who has posted. I'm sorry I've not commented for a few days.

Yesterday was Felix's funeral and from what I can remember the service was nice. It was without doubt the hardest thing I have ever had to do.

I really found comfort in the poem on the previous page. I have typed it out and am going to take it to Felix's grave and read it to him when I feel ready to go back there.

Katgoddess - the justgiving page in memory of Felix is a lovely idea. If donating to SANDS would help to stop even 1 other parent having to go through this it would be more than worth it.

Thank you again for your kind messages.

The_Next_Verse

I am so sorry for your loss.

I also think the justgiving site is a good idea.

I can't post more, I need to go and tell everyone that I care about how much I love them as your post has really made me appreciate everyone and everything in my life.

God bless you and your family. x

mumslave

Redwestbrook, I am so very sorry for the loss of Felix. Its tragedies like this that make me wish there were some words out there to even try comfort you in some small way. You were Felix's mummy from the moment you fell pregnant with him, he would have heard your voice and felt your touch from the inside. I dont know why such cruel things have to happen in life, its so very unfair. I wish you much strength to come through this as best you can. xxx

CathWales

My hugs, love and thoughts are with you and your OH and beautiful Felix Samuel. Thank You so much for sharing him with us. I hope it has helped you too.

Heaven has just gained another beautiful Angel xxx

abc1989

Hi Redwestbrook,

I understand what you are going through..I lost my baby at 23 weeks gesatation on the 2/09/2009 with no explation why I gave birth early. Time is a great healer, you will have your off days and your good days, there will never be a day where you dont think of your beautiful baby felix. Right now no advice is good for you, it sounds horrible to say that, but you have too deal with this in your own way
I completely shut down for at least 2 months, I didnt go out....didnt see my friends my family and I feel this was the best way for me to deal with it... As christmas approched I decided I wanted to decorate her "garden" as we call it, I bought a christmas tree etc
Now its coming up to Elsies first birthday and I feel a little lost again

Visit http://www.alexandrasangelgifts.co.uk/pages/Penpals.html

It really helped me to talk to other people over the few months since I have joined as we have all been through the same emotion, I run the chatroom on sunday nights it'd be great for you to share your feelings

God Bless


In my heart you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
x

cookiedough38

So sorry to read about your loss. After suffering a mmc at 8 weeks I can' begin to imagine what you must be feeling this far along, this world can be a cruel one at times.

Stay strong x

purplepardalis

My son has a grove of trees planted in his memory in the Caledonian forest. Friends and relatives could donate online and it will be always dedicated to him. They are lovely people to deal with aswell. This is my son's site which is still viewable almost 4 years on:

http://www.treesforlife.org.uk/groves/grovepage.php?id=996