MSE Parents Club Part 15

SusanC_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

Phew! We made it back safely and with a pair of wellies for Miss M so we're going to test drive them in the snow outside!!!

I recommend either tights plus trousers or two pairs of trousers with the first tucked into the socks and the outer pair outside the wellies. It reduces snow falling into the boots and snow to skin contact.

WinterDays

r.mac wrote: »

If said friend is you, then let me offer some hugs and say that my advice stands, and while none of us can offer to look after bubs for you, we can offer tea, sympathy, hugs, support and let you into the secret that many of us have been in a similra situation. :A

It is me but I am worried that my GP wouldn't count it as PND after miscarriage or that he won't take it seriously or that I'm just making it up.

CAFCGirl

r.mac wrote: »

I would offer her some tea/coffee/biscuits tell her that you are there if/when/however she needs you. I would suggest to her that she (I'm presuming its aa she) needs to speak to her HV or GP. IF baby is little, then HV is a good place to start. Perhaps booking an appointment with GP would also help - some health professionals in the same practice speak to each other

Also if she seems scaared/unwilling remind her that it could be many things making her feel this way and that medication isn't the only option. COuld you offer to be there when HV visits next to help prompt her or keep baby while she goes to GP? Practical support and getting 1/2 an hour to yourself can do amazing things.

All the above also goes for your friend even if said friend is a man. If said friend is you, then let me offer some hugs and say that my advice stands, and while none of us can offer to look after bubs for you, we can offer tea, sympathy, hugs, support and let you into the secret that many of us have been in a similra situation. :A

Can echo all of that, especially the bolded bit. I've opted for a non medication route and scored extremely high on my worst days, and on what I consider a good day, still high.....

Just be there, google some information perhaps and point her in the direction of some supportive online forums, and I think everyone pretty much covered anything else I'd suggest

bexta wrote: »

Always :j for Thomas walking!

CAFC for Gordon leaving. At least you know he's gone somewhere lovely though. Good luck for the house too!

I know.... in my heart of hearts i know it was best, and I'll see him again soon.... just feel like I failed him and it stirred up a lot of dormant feelings from when we first got him/reasons for getting him.... and Im on my own today so just a bit hard....

And thanks for the house vibes..... Im excited but dont wanna go getting my hopes up.....theres a limit as to how high we can go, and thats still considerably under the asking price so its highly unlikely...

Evansangel

I cannot wait to move house. I want to go next door and shove the boys loud CD player up his A.

redstararnie76

Hi WinterDays, please don't worry as I'm sure that your GP will take it seriously. I don't know if you have looked at the miscarriage support thread on this forum, but it is very good, and the ladies in their are very supportive (not that we're not, but you might find that they are also very helpful for you).

redstararnie76

Winterdays - you can find it here https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2236699

SugarSpun

WinterDays wrote: »

It is me but I am worried that my GP wouldn't count it as PND after miscarriage or that he won't take it seriously or that I'm just making it up.

Even if your GP doesn't recognise it as PND he should still recognise depression after a traumatic event. I really am sorry for your loss, WD, and would like to ask you to go and see your GP and explain that you need some help to feel better. It's really good that you're self-aware enough to know you need to do something and your GP should be able to point you in the right direction.

:grouphug: and I wish I could do it in the real world. I can't imagine how you feel and I hope it improves for you.

r.mac_2

WinterDays wrote: »

It is me but I am worried that my GP wouldn't count it as PND after miscarriage or that he won't take it seriously or that I'm just making it up.

hugs winterdays.
I think that you should talk to your GP. Is s/he aware of the situation? I would imagine that any GP would take you seriously.

I know some of the ladies have experience of miscarriage and they can probably advise you better than I can, but I offer you hugs, cups of tea and a friendly ear anytime you need one.

WinterDays

I'm too scared to speak to my GP about it.

ladybirdintheuk

Hugs CFAC and Winterdays.

WD, I know some people find talking to the doctors is difficutl, could you maybe write a letter to the doctor and take it with you, so he/she can read it? Then you don't need to talk as much? Or would taking someone with you help?

Evansangel wrote: »

I want to do a piercing course, not sure why though

I thought you wanted to be a HV Although if you get a job in a chavvy place you could probably combine the two :eek:.