MSE Parents Club Part 15

Sami_Bee

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

Two things have cheered me up today. Firstly my VBF is 10 weeks pregnant :j and secondly I came home to a thank you card from the neo-natal babies at the local hospital, for donating 1 litre of breast milk. It gave me a little dust in the eye.
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:j:j:j for Pg friends! I'm a bit excited because my friend who's been ttc for a while has hinted at cravings on FB! I'm dying of curiosity just in case!
:T:T:T:T Its funny I was just thinking I should ask you about the donating milk, I wasn't sure if you'd actually signed up or not. You are absolutely fabulous for helping lots of lovely little babies :T:T:T

MichelleM wrote: »

Ive not had chance to read back but im guessing something has happened regarding A's comp as I had like a million friend requests so thank you.

I may have utilised the 'suggest friends for..' feature on FB today

Weezl - did you managed to eat your way out of the pie ok? :rotfl:

Glad

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

:rotfl:I was trying to avoid using the word cliquey!

so was I

no one should take this personally, the rules are written by the team with a lot of thought for the safety of their members

so please just carry on with your mutual help, support and advice which is what makes the parent thread what it is

searching_me

SB we are lovely honest i do miss hearing about you and little ones x

Tigsteroonie

I think Glad feels that the Secret Squirrel idea falls foul of this rule:

Why can't I give something to/buy something from someone on the forum?
The safety of our forum users is paramount and for this reason we can't allow anyone to exchange their personal details either on the open forum or via PM, however honourable the intention.
This means we don't allow selling/trading/exchanging/swapping or giving as gifts, nor links to your ebay auctions, or other forms of advertising.

in that it encourages you to exchange personal details & gifts.

I don't believe that organising a Meet falls foul of any forum rule. That's why you've not been stopped from discussing PT meets in various playcentres.

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Personally, I do feel Glad has over-stepped the mark this time with today's posts. Just my opinion.

And I don't feel excluded from being a squirrel.

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JAM1376

But we didn't need secret codes til we got policed?

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Originally Posted by JAM1376
Surely it would be easier just to respond if and when anyone complained than to spend all your time reading the waffle? It must drive you mad too!

basically that's what I do

Have people complained about this new thread then???

pinknico

Hello September Baby.I want our lovely thread back too. xx

searching_me

CAFC ... LOVE YOU .... dont go .. come back and talk to us x

got-it-spend-it

This might come out a bit soppy, but what the hell....

The parent thread has been here to help many of us through the greatest transition we will ever face- that of becoming a parent. Many of us have no 'real life' network of parent friends and so we come here to ask questions, about money saving of course, but also questions about emotional well being, relationship managing and, frankly, at times just surviving when you've had no sleep and it feels like no-one in the world understands.

The reason that emotions sometimes run high is that parenting is an emotive issue, and it is bloomin' tough. That is also why such strong relationships are built on this board and I can completely see why, to a newcomer or an irregular poster, this might appear cliquey. IT IS NOT. It is simply that regular posters are generally socially and emotionally aware enough to remember details about others, and to brighten other people's day by remembering to ask about Flossy's nappy rash or Joe's first day at school. This does not mean we are excluding anyone who posts less regularly, and is simply the nature of a thread about parenting.

We do not judge (well, occasionally we judge the chavs, but whatever) and we try and be as supportive as possible to those in need. We all have different parenting styles, and operate to different degrees of our styles but overall we just try and offer a bit of support and a bit of friendship.

Secret Santa was just an extension of that friendship and that day brightening.

I find it incredibly frustrating that micro-managing of posts and deletions are really damaging the supportive nature of the thread, at a time when there are people very much in need of that support.

That is all.

SugarSpun

Glad wrote: »

but the posts were deleted because they were against MSE rules
it's the 'secret code' thing that may make some posters feel excluded

And when they ask no one is excluded. It feels like a difference between the spirit and the letter of the law to me - the actual exchange was always taking place on FB where there is a group set up for it, and the discussion on here was a means of passing on the information to everyone precisely so it wasn't confined to those of us who know each other in real life or are friends on Facebook. It's like saying, I have a post on the comps board where you can click to vote for me to win this competition. The information is here, but the actual stuff is happening somewhere where it's allowed.

I don't envy you your job at all Glad and although I find it frustrating to have to watch what I say I think you mostly do a good job. Tonight I'm mostly worried and annoyed because one particular poster's having a terrible day and the tone of your comment made her feel worse, and because it comes across that you're accusing us of being cliquey when we appear that way because of the way the BGs (have to) operate.

searching_me

jam i was just thinking that x