Broken down and very scared

catkin1508

Hi Hun,

Just wanted to say you are coping really well and the advice given is fantastic. I do think that you should take some very large men round to his parents- he may be the blue eyed boy but sorry this is life you dont just get up and walk out! I think you need to make it clear that unless he returns at least 50% of the stuff your instructing a solicitor. You may not be able to afford it but they dont know that. Plus if you go to HIS parents house the message is bound to get thru to him as i dont think they will like having that sort of thing happening on their doorstep. He may be the blue eyed boy but dont think they would be very happy having you plus 2 large blokes on the door step. Politely advise them that he has 1 week to return 50% of the stuff or you will take it to court. Might be a shot to get something back as because your married you are entitled to 50% of the stuff unless either of you can prove full ownership- by reciepts/documents etc.
Please dont give up ive been in this situation and it feels soooo much better to fight back. BIG HUGS and keep smiling xxxx

little_miss_T

Morning guys.

Well I have just woke up and I feel so so low. I can't face the thought of doing anything today. Eventhough I know I have to I am just no up to it. I cried myself to sleep last night and I'm still
crying now, I just can't see an end to this pain xx

[Deleted User]

Hi Miss T,
Just read your thread. You are doing brilliantly, and don't let him get the better off you now.
Just make a list of what needs done imminantly, and work your way through it. There are many people on here who will give you excellent advice.
Stay strong and it will all be worth it in the end.

January20

little_miss_T wrote: »

this would be based on if i stayed in the flat.. i wouldnt have any of the bills if i didnt.. no EDF sky rent insurance.. only TV (which i really do want to keep cos its my pride and joy)

so it looks like moving back in with mammy and daddy is a good option.

I notice you are based in the north east and you mentioned bus and metro so perhaps what I'm going to tell will be helpful. One of my friends has just rented a room in a big house in Newcastle for £260 a month with all bills included. So if you decide to give up the flat you will certainly be able to find somewhere cheaper to live, and the added bonus is that your ex will not be able to find you should he decide to start hassling you.

If you want more info, pm me.

dearbarbie

aww babe, stick with it! ^^^ advice is great, and i think moving back in with your folks could be really good for you. break-ups can be horrible but soon you will see that you are better off without this loser. as for not allowing you friends, what a joke?!? if anyone told me i couldnt have friends, i would kick them out and make sure the door hit them in the butt on the way!!

this will be the making of you. i was thinking, maybe long-term, look to move into a houseshare...that way you can meet new people, make some new friends, this will really help you get your life back on track xxx

dancingfairy

Sorry for any misunderstandings- I was trying to point out that moving out was not necessarily the only option and that the OP could probably afford to stay IF she wanted (despite what her husband might think).



Little Miss T- even though you are clearly shaken up and distraught you will come through this - your inner strength is evident - and you sound like you have a fab family around you.
Take Care
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teabythesea

Keep going! Stay positive, you are a very strong lady. Things will start to look up, you're only 23! I'm only 20! These are the things you can get over and in years time you will look back and laugh in the face of that coward! x

dottydee854

Hi,
I couldnt read and run.
I really feel for you being in a similar position a year ago, i know how painful it can be. You are so lucky to have supportive family Your in a better position than i was though, i never knew this site exsisted, and because i was so low, i left my bills ect just sat at home with my baby boy mopping around. I am now paying off my debt bit by bit Thanks to the lovely people on here
It's real difficult love and hard as it might be to hear, it's a start of a new adventure! Believe me, i thought i wouldn't be able to live or cope. But here i am, 2 year old son who is my pride and joy, a new amazing partner and expecting our second in april next year
Time is a great healer, youve had some great advice so far from everyone here and the people here really are lovely
Take it a day at a time, some days are worser than others but just remember things can only get better from here.
Regards to the other ost about two men to his family door, do it! They might say its intimidation but hey, you want your stuff back and you dont want to be ganged up against by his family if you go on your own.
Take care love
x

dearbarbie

p.s. he is your husband so he can't ignore you forever...what a !!!!!!! :mad::money:

Oompa_Loompa_2

Hi

Sorry to hear about what's happened. Big positive is that your survival instinct kicked in straight away and you want to sort things out for yourself - good for you!! Glad to hear your family are being supportive and once you get through this tough time, think of what you want to do next -you have the rest of your life ahead of you! Thinking of you, you can do it xx