Broken down and very scared

wookiebob

Hi, Just read through the whole thread, don't have any advice to give, but just wanted to give you a hug and let you know people care. It is hard enough dealing with your feelings over your hospitalisation without him adding to your difficulties. The advice on here is brilliant and so is the mutual support, use it, it sounds like you need to right now. Take care. xx

dollybeads

Hey LMT

Just read your thread, sorry to hear of your recent ill health and all of your other many troubles. I think you are amazing, to be so strong and coping with this at 23. Although it may at some points feel insurmountable, you will get there and you will be 10 x stronger at the end of it.

I have had a not dissimilar experience, I can only say that good family and friends are an essential and all the love and support you get from the DFWers will work wonders for you at each stage (and all of their expert knowledge). Re your OH texting you, you could just turn your phone off, delete txt without reading, or get an injuction if this continues. I sent a letter to my ex when he was doing this, usually when drunk and being very abusive and threatening, it was a polite but firm letter stating that this type of contact i found intimidating and upsetting and that it needed to stop. Surprisingly it worked and don't get them anymore.

I wish you every bit of good luck in getting back to tip top health and sorting out all of these problems. You have done amazingly well so far. Will keep up with you on your thread. Big hugs all round :grouphug: Ps :rotfl:at the suggestion from someone about sending Porno mags to his parents address in his name (i would never be brave enough to do it, but made me LOL Ha Ha

little_miss_T

i was thinking about asking my brothers friend who is a solicitor to give me some advice, but it would have to go through my brother, and he would want to know, and he would snap Hs scrawny little neck.. although that would be lots of fun to watch, my brotherwould get into lots of trouble for it, so i dont want that.. as long as i know that he is just spouting !!!! about the debt thing, trying to scare me, he can get lost.. i live eith 2 wonderful boys who will protect me to the death, so i know he will not turn up at my door.. and ignoring the texts just makes him text more.. i cant change my number because it will cost a fortune and i cant get out of my contract to change it to another one.

elaine12022

Solicitors are bound by confidentiality so anything discussed with him in his professional capacity should not be discussed outside - if this helps.

You need to do what you can to avoid nasty/abusive calls/texts if you are getting them.I'm surprised you can't change your number? Can they send you a new Sim card with the same contract? My sister only recently changed her phone number after years of abusive messages & calls from her ex husband (they have children so situation more complicated). The emotional toll this has taken on her has been appalling.

I hope you are feeling better now.

this is a website about legal aid - there may be something on here to help. http://www.communitylegaladvice.org.uk/

[Deleted User]

Contact you phone company and ask them to barr his number so that he cannot contact you. I know this can be done on landline phones so I have assumed that this can be done on mobile phones too. But asking won't hurt.

Explain that you are having nuisance texts and calls.

joeblack066

I had trouble by text from an abusive ex, my mobile provider was excellent, I gave them the dates & times of the texts, they contacted the police who paid him a visit and warned him that one more text and he would be arrested and charged with threatening behaviour and harrassment. They also gave me a new number free of charge. It's worth calling them. X

tealady

Hi
This man sounds like a bully and the less contact you have with him the better.
Are you in a union, if so they can often offer legal advice, if not just keep posting and think of Hawaii.
You can do it, you know you can.

little_miss_T

the reason my brother would find out is because i would have to ask him to ask his friend as a favour to him.. of course my brother would want to know what was wrong and i would have to tell him..

i already got my number changed once before we split so the mobile phone company will not change it again for free.. i work for a mobile phone company and i know that specific numbers cannot be barred at network level.. so im screwed there too.

i wanted this to be as amicable as possible, he has ruined that, even though the scumbag has caused all of this.

Shoe_Gal

Just sending you lots of love - stay strong :A

honeybear68

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Given him 24 hours to return this or you will report it to the police (assuming you can prove it is yours).

If the flat is in joint names, when is the tenancy up, please?

Was he working? Does he have any sort of habit?

Get all accounts that he can access closed. Assume that since he has the lap-top everything is compromised.

Get a CIFAS preventative warning on your credit record urgently http://www.cifas.org.uk/default.asp?edit_id=565-85, other wise he may be able to use the information on your lap-top to open accounts or get goods delivered at your expense.

This v.v.v good advice and the sooner the better you can also put a password attached so only you can access it.