Broken down and very scared

Shoe_Gal

I was going to suggest ACAS too - they were brilliant with helping a friend of mine

Fingers crossed for you :A

little_miss_T

Thanks for the advice guys. I went to see my union rep yesterday and he was brilliant, said he would be delighted to take on my case and he will rip the company apart for this. I have wrote my letter and it is really good so I'm hopeful.

Ref H... he has started being nasty again because he wanted to come and get some things from my house but I had already made plans to go out.. He started going on about how he is never a priority to me and that im selfish etc.. It all just went over my head and I had a lovely night out. Xx

Snugglebunny8

little_miss_T wrote: »

Thanks for the advice guys. I went to see my union rep yesterday and he was brilliant, said he would be delighted to take on my case and he will rip the company apart for this. I have wrote my letter and it is really good so I'm hopeful.

Ref H... he has started being nasty again because he wanted to come and get some things from my house but I had already made plans to go out.. He started going on about how he is never a priority to me and that im selfish etc.. It all just went over my head and I had a lovely night out. Xx

hey honey, I just wanted to say I really admire how you have dealt with a horrible situation, keep strong. Im glad to hear the union is taking on your case, it sounds dreadful that the company is even thinking of taking that action, so will be glad to see them get their backsides tanned for that by the union.

I just have to say - this 'man' is truly lower than worms, after all he's done, suddenly he wants to collect his stuff and to be a priority with you?? :mad: clearly his control issues over you not being allowed friends are still there, he clearly can't take you having been so strong and independent over your handling of the situation, a great way to get your revenge!

you have done exactly the right thing in letting it go over your head, another example of the strength you have, personally I'd be looking at a restraining order, or at least threaten him with one - if I he wants to come round to get his stuff, Id have your solicitor remind him he has items of yours, what a scumbag!

Did you get to speak to the solicitor who is your brother's friend? I would wonder if a restraining order to stop him harrassing or contacting you might not be worth a look, you are doing so well Id hate to see him being able to still cause you issues, it really seems to me that it's driving him crazy that you are so strong and have moved on and are coping so well, as he sounded somewhat like a control freak when you were married,and nothing upsets a control freak more than not having control!

Good luck and keep us posted, you have done brilliantly, lots of love x

little_miss_T

so.. i have come to the conclusion he is still not over this.. i tried to call him to get him to come and get his stuff and he ignored me. he knew thats what i wanted to talk about but he chose to ignore me. if he isnt careful i will just sell it all.. am i allowed to do that? xx

Harlowe

i just read through the whole thread, you have done so well so far, I would have sold his stuff a long time ago its more than he deserves and what ever you get spend it on yourself or put it towards your debt, if he can't be bothered to collect it then you have every right to do as you please with it, unless he can prove its his sell it.

Shoe_Gal

I would pack it up and store it away - garage, friends garage etc, depending how much there is and then just leave him too, just communicating through solicitors when the time comes for divorce

HTH, take care of you :A

cattyboo

Hi Little Miss T,

I'm fairly new and just found your thread, read the whole thing and I am in total awe of you, you're so amazingly strong and level headed, just...wow! You're a seriously special lady to cope with all this crap so brilliantly :beer: Stay strong and enjoy life without the dead weight of an husband that used to bring you down, can't believe he stopped you having friends. What an abusive bully.

Your ex is clearly a particularly disgusting nasty turd. You're well shot of him, don't give in inch he doesn't deserve it, and as for this...

little_miss_T wrote: »

He started going on about how he is never a priority to me and that im selfish etc.. It all just went over my head and I had a lovely night out. Xx

HA! As if you're the selfish unreasonable difficult one! He's a manchild. You're superwoman. Hope you can get some legal advice re the divorce soon, sounds like you've got your employer nailed to a cross regarding their appalling handling of your sickness, you'll be able to do the same to that scumbag ex-OH too, then off to Hawaii to soak up some sun! Hurrah! :T

Sending you so much love,

C xx

MFWannabe

little_miss_T wrote: »

so.. i have come to the conclusion he is still not over this.. i tried to call him to get him to come and get his stuff and he ignored me. he knew thats what i wanted to talk about but he chose to ignore me. if he isnt careful i will just sell it all.. am i allowed to do that? xx

Hi
Is there any member of his family or a friend of his that you could leave his stuff with? That way he doesn't have to bother you and you don't have to keep asking him to come and fetch it; just send him a message telling him where you've left it

satchmo1

Just leave his stuff in bin bags on his parents doorstep? Don't close the top of the bags and fingers crossed for rain!

little_miss_T

hi guys, just an update.

hubby has been amazing with me.. mam is very very poorly in hospital and he has been a total rock for me.. dunno how it happened, but he is just there. i have not forgot about what he has done to me, and i am still very anfgry, but right now i have more pressing matters to think about.

other than this, my stage 2 appel letter at work has been "lost" but i am not going to let it drop. i feel like it is time for people to stop walking over me, so i am going to send it again, by email and in the post, so i will know for a fact it has been received. xx