Macgirl's "I Can Do Anything....If I Put My Mind to it" Diary

taxi73

What Hypno says

macgirl

Thanks. DH has warned me not to spend any money on things for the house, as he reckons a new boiler will be firs

I don't know whether it's got 2 systems because the house is too big for one... but when we run the bath or shower it sounds like the QE2 is coming into dock :rotfl::o

taxi73

you may be as well getting a plumber in to explain the system to you

macgirl

Hello, another Monday survived and one week until Payday - yeeha!

A busy day with a 50 mile round trip at lunchtime to school as little DD had another episode. I was really upset when I got the call, as I just didn't know what to do next.
Anyway, on the way back, I had time to think and decided on a plan of Zero tolerance. It may sound harsh, but she can control at, as she doesn't do it at home. She did try once, but we just stopped her and she never tried it again.
If she were causing trouble at school in some other way, the teachers wouldn't tolerate it and I think I owe it to her, to find a way to stop it happening. She gets really upset and it's not fair on her or the staff who have to clean her up. The Headteacher was fab and said if we can stop it at home, then they can at school. DD is the sort of child who responds well to rules, so I think a firmer approach might work best....

So, I've asked them to not make a big deal of it and be quite "brisk" (for want of a better word) and not pay it any attention. I know it won't go away overnight, but all things considered, I think it's the best plan for now.

Anyway, didn't manage a NSD, but better luck tomorrow! Hope everyone's had a better day

gilligansyle

Oh your poor little one! As you say, she can control it, even though its not actually deliberate.

Can't really offer any advice as its not something I ever had to deal with.

hypno06

Sounds like the school are taking a sensible approach. ((hugs)) to you x

Keeping_Motivated

Macgirl, is she making herself sick just when its time to eat at school?

Karmacat

Hi there - concerned for you both, of course - like KM, I'm wondering if its sickness or a refusal to talk/eat thats escalating into an open power struggle ...

macgirl

It's ok Gill - she's just a bit of a psycho! :rotfl: I *am* joking. You'd have to know her...

Yes, KM it's only at lunchtime. I think it started (at nursery) by accident, as toddlers have a sensitive gag reflex to stop them choking. They took her plate away before she'd finished and she had a massive tantrum (Can't WAIT for puberty)
Anyway, she worked herself up so much that she was sick. Of course, the staff looked after her and fussed over her and she liked that - not that we don't fuss over her, she is the baby after all and gets lots of attention. So that evening when she felt sick at home, she instructed me on how to hold her hair and rub her back and was clearly putting it on....:cool: That's when I nipped it in the bud.

She does have a weak stomach, as I did at that age. If I saw someone eating, with food around their mouth, I'd start to gip. For instance, she can't watch me brushing my teeth on a morning, or her eyes water and she starts to wretch! So I understand that. But the vomiting at lunchtime has become a habit and it's disruptive, so has to stop.

As I said, I'm determined to stop it, for her sake as much as anything. I really want it to be a short sharp shock, so it doesn't turn into a major issue. I'm telling myself it is just a phase

God, should have called this diary "Macgirl and her Nutjob daughter"

macgirl

Karmacat wrote: »

Hi there - concerned for you both, of course - like KM, I'm wondering if its sickness or a refusal to talk/eat thats escalating into an open power struggle ...

Hi KC, thanks I missed your post due to my longwinded typing!

She does talk - just when *she's* ready to. So I would know if it was something deeper.
My friend shares a birthday with DD and is a similar character - ie, tough. She roars with laughter when I talk about DD and can completely understand her.

She absolutely likes her own way and if she doesn't want to do something she refuses POINT BLANK. They are Taureans and are both like bulls!!! So, I guess in a school environment, where she can't scream her head off, it might be a way of her having some control and "say".

This evening, she was very happy and relaxed and was telling me that the other children can eat lunch, while she goes out to play, then she'll eat while they play out! I explained that at school everyone eats together, then plays together.

She paused and said "No.... (as if you say "You didn't hear me right") I've just told you what will happen" :wall:
You see what I'm up against?!.......she would be a great politician....