Macgirl's "I Can Do Anything....If I Put My Mind to it" Diary

Positive_Attitude

OH macgirl it is so difficult but I think you are doing a really great job but sometimes it is hard to get schools to feed you the information you need. A good idea to try and find something she would like to do and perhaps as se said something individual may suit her better and give her that one to one attention she may need

We are having problems with our little boy at the moment and school he was fine last year in reception but this year has been a nightmare and he doesn't want to go to school gets into trouble when he does doesnt want to practice his reading spends ages getting dressed he has a thing about his socks being too big at the moment probably because he streches them to death and just drives us mad he is very sensitive the only thing we can do is try and give him lots of reassurance and cuddles (although he is not particularly a boy who likes cuddles) and try not to get mad with him. Don't always succeed though we are human after all!

So you are not alone mac and he is a poor eater too:( and you are not a bad parent :A

PAxx

taxi73

looks like you've got some good advice from above and nothing more I can add so just sending hugs xx

Keeping_Motivated

What a stress for you both its so emotioanlly draining but lucky that DD has you two as parents because you are going to help her all you can xx

How about Martial Arts? This is energetic plus they teach respect, behaviour etc?

Or what about trampolining, pure fun with no pressure?

You'll find what works for her, speak to the teacher and get all the help you can plus also YOU need to help the teacher understand DD because its you who knows her better so you can educate the teacher too.

Take care
KM x

macgirl

Thanks all, lovely ladies :A:A:A:A

Well, I spoke to the teacher this morning. She said DD is no trouble, plays well and is "lovely" in class - phew.
She did say that she talks and messes about during lunch, and never eats much, so ends up staying in the lunch hall for 1 hour and 20 mins :eek: and therefore never gets to play out. I'm kind of frustrated that she didn't think to stick a note in her bag :cool: I did explain that I know DD is quite a forceful character, but she is also quite sensitive and feels she always gets told off and this affects her too.

She laughed (kindly) and said she doesn't get told off, but understood DD might feel that. She seemed very nice and didn't seem to think it was a problem, so I'm going to try and let it blow over and concentrate on positive activities instead.

We have considered Tae Kwondo, as she's very energetic (and aggressive ) so it would suit her to channel it in a sporting way. We just wanted to let her settle into school, as she still is only 4 and I think we can "over-schedule"our kids, which is another form of pressure....
We took her to swimming lessons a few months ago, but she sat at the side of the pool refusing to get in and clearly wasn't ready so we'll wait until after Christmas - swimming lessons are non-negotiable with DH.

Anyway, he's emailed a gymnastics lady today, so they're going to take a look on Saturday and we're going to an open day at the tennis club on Sunday. Plus we bought a piano off the previous owners, so are planning on them having lessons too (£££'s )

I had to go into town this morning for work, so bought myself lunch in M&S to cheer me up, naughty but my first lunch spend this week.
Received a cheque for £290 from Scottishpower today, so that's good. Just have to email our details to the house insurance to get that back, so cash is flowing into our joint account at least.

All ok with the bank accounts, so things feel semi-in control there.

Hope everyone's had a good day and thanks again, I really do appreciate all your wise words xxx

Positive_Attitude

Glad that things are better at school than you thought:j

My little boy was in trouble again today I did manage to speak to the teacher who said he might be getting the blame when he is not responsible:( and she is trying to separate him from those that he seems to be getting into trouble with at the moment she has made him a chart so we will have to see how it goes

PAxx

hypno06

Glad that things don't look so bad today And excellent news on money flowing your way - long may that last :j

gilligansyle

macgirl wrote: »

Also, she mistakes hunger pains for tummy ache and says she feels sick, when I think it's really just low blood sugar.

Anyway, sorry for going on and thanks for taking the time to read and reply, it's much appreciated as always x

macgirl wrote: »

Good morning and thanks Hypno

Today is a new day. I cried for most of last night, DH was upstairs watching CSI - I don't like it - so when I went to bed he'd been thinking about it.

He said, there's nothing wrong with her, he thinks she's just not engaging with *her* life. On a Saturday she has to follow her sister around to ballet and swimming (she has tried both, but didn't like either) and he said, makes a game of going to the toilet, then gets told off for that.

She is a different character to her sister, of course, so he said he will try 5 more activities to engage her and if she doesn't like those, he'll try 30 more until we find something she enjoys.

As you say, today is a new day, some good ideas above.

My sisters 2 boys are so different in personality that she always struggled to find something for the younger one to do. He got bored so easily, team stuff just wasn't him. It took a while but they got there - drums! So maybe the piano is the answer.

macgirl

PA - sorry about your son things are never straight forward are they? I guess that fact that we care and are doing our best will mean we turn out well-rounded individuals eventually. Here's hoping

As for drums Gill - that would be a deadly combo with little DD :eek: :rotfl:

macgirl

I've just ventured onto the mortgage overpayment calculator. If we could repay £100 per month, we would knock 3.5 years off the term. Even £50 a month would take off 2 years, which is something to aim for....

Our interest rate is pretty high for 5 years - but we had to bite bullet make this happen. So if we could aim towards any kind of overpayment, it would boost our options when we come to remortgage.

Now things are settling here, I'm thinking again about Ebaying and other forms of generating extra income.

Anyway, should go to bed, but am so gripped by the miners being rescued - it's so good to have a positive news story!

macgirl

Good evening. Have had a carppy few days at work, so decided to go for a 6 mile run after work. It was my first one since the GNR and my knee started giving me jip at 4 miles Other than that it was good to be back.

Rushed home and showered, ready to go to school for an evening about phonics, but arrived to darkness and an empty carpark. It was last night - dur!

In money news, all's well spent 60p on breakie and bought a couple of Christmas presents :xmastree:

Other than that....DD was sick at lunchtime again I've been looking for answers on the internet and this seems most accurate.

Sensitive children may be overreacting with fear to a teacher's strictness or rebukes. Younger children tend to fake illness or make other excuses to avoid school.

She said she likes school just doesn't like eating at school. She said she can't eat much on a morning as she feels sick. I think that's fair enough, as DH is like that too. So I'm torn between thinking it will settle down if we don't fuss, or risking it becoming a bigger problem if we leave it.

Either way, I want to make sure all concerned handle it correctly to nip it in the bud. I might make an appointment with my GP (who used to be a Paediatrician and has kids of her own) to see if she has any advice...
I'm helping in school tomorrow, so will speak to her teacher and discuss an action plan.