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Call Me Callous if you like....but maybe i'm not.
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Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »Nope....not the case!!
Jackie owes me nothing!!But it stops now!!!Cos i'm not a fool!![/QUOTE]
Thankfully, neither is Jackie!
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So if the O.P. falls out with Jackie because she insists on getting to make her own decisions, how is this going to affect Disco or kiddy dress-up business? Ooh, better add that to the spreadsheet, eh?
If I were Jackie, I would steer well clear. Suppose she moves in with you, subsidising your house, and then you split up. What then? Is Jackie then homeless? However, I'm guessing that Jackie will have more sense.0 -
The son sounds like a cuckoo in the nest....26 and still clinging to mummy...
My point entirely....http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2009/dec/08/young-adults-living-parental-home-ons
The Office for National Statistics says many young adults in their mid-20s and early 30s, and especially men, are increasingly postponing the transition to adulthood.
I too love my Mum dearly.I left home at 16 and have never lived there again.I've had some difficult times but would consider it abject failure to go home and live there again.Having supported me through School my Mum (and Dad....RIP) deserved some time on their own.
Whats he going to do If Jackie has an accident???0 -
Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »My point entirely....
Whats he going to do If Jackie has an accident???
Getting ominous now. Jackie is 52, hardly the age to fall and break a hip or two. Why should she have an 'accident'? How much of her independence are you planning on taking away?!3.9kWp solar PV installed 21 Sept 2011, due S and 42° roof.
17,011kWh generated as at 30 September 2016 - system has now paid for itself. :beer:0 -
Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »My point entirely....
I too love my Mum dearly.I left home at 16 and have never lived there again.I've had some difficult times but would consider it abject failure to go home and live there again.Having supported me through School my Mum (and Dad....RIP) deserved some time on their own.
Whats he going to do If Jackie has an accident???
Can we be so sure, though, that Jackie doesn't like him living there? My mother chose to move in with my brother when my parents got divorced as she couldn't bear the idea of living alone. He would have been fine on his own but was happy to let her move in as now he doesn't have to worry about her and has the advantage of being able to cut costs.
You haven't answered people's suggestion that you get a lodger. Financially, it makes a lot of sense. Also means that if you change your mind, you can do something about it more easily.0 -
BornAtTheRightTime wrote: »Getting ominous now. Jackie is 52, hardly the age to fall and break a hip or two. Why should she have an 'accident'?
Is that the only way you can have an accident.What about a terminal RTA.
You haven't answered people's suggestion that you get a lodger. Financially, it makes a lot of sense. Also means that if you change your mind, you can do something about it more easily.
I definately do not want a Lodger and were we to stay together neither would Jackie.It would seriously affect the dynamics of the weekend when she visits......
Nope....the more I think about it...the more I'm convinced that I have to stand firm!!!I have wasted enough money on this.Whatever the equation is we are wasting money by not being together.Lets move things on......
Is this situation going to prevail when we are both 65 and her Son in his 40's????
So why not bite the bullet now???0 -
Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »
Maybe I am a victim of two broken marriages.
TBH I would not be in the least surprised.0 -
Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »I definately do not want a Lodger and were we to stay together neither would Jackie.It would seriously affect the dynamics of the weekend when she visits......
Nope....the more I think about it...the more I'm convinced that I have to stand firm!!!I have wasted enough money on this.Whatever the equation is we are wasting money by not being together.Lets move things on......
Is this situation going to prevail when we are both 65 and her Son in his 40's????
So why not bite the bullet now???
OK, but if you're determined to talk to Jackie about it, try going down a more romantic route...
"I'd love to wake up next to you every day"
"I'd love to share a meal with you at the end of the day"
"I want to share my life with you, all aspects, even mundane things because having you next to me makes me happy"
etc
You might find it's a little more successful than
"You are wasting my money"
"I need you to pay part of my bills"
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One thing I don't understand, if the two of you have a business together, surely she will have an income from that so why do you feel you're shelling out for her independence?
OP you haven't answered this? I still dont understand what money you shell out?Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »
So why not bite the bullet now???
Perhaps the fact you've been married twice before has a bearing on her decision.
I don't think you're all that deperate to have her company 24/7 tbh, I think you think you'll just have more money in your pocket and that's the most important thing to you....more important than she is.Herman - MP for all!
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Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »we share a Disco and Kids Party Business.
This week I have put my foot down....**** or bust.
Why the thread if you've already taken action? If that is true you'll have your answer pretty quickly...........
Probably time for you to end this unsatisfactory relationship if she doesn't; split the business half each and walk away to whatever else you wish to do with your life.
Of course this may all be a figment of a warped imagination designed to stir up certain sections of the MSE community - who knows?0
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