Call Me Callous if you like....but maybe i'm not.

DoWhatULove-LoveWhatUDo

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Is that the only way you can have an accident.What about a terminal RTA.

If heaven forbid Jackie should have terminal RTA, I shouldn't imagine there will be much either you or her son could do for her.

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Is this situation going to prevail when we are both 65 and her Son in his 40's????

Why not? What difference will more time make to the situation?

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Does living on your own cost you 5 Grand a year or not...as per the BBC article??:beer::beer:

It depends on a person's circumstances. Without running the numbers there is no way to tell.

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

I'm far too busy to run the figures.I trust what the article says....It certainly feels like she's wasting 52 x £100 a week renting when there is a bed (or two) here for her to start with.

With respect, that's crazy talk. The article isn't about you. Your situation could be completely different. I live on my own now because sharing cost me more in increased bills.

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Do you think that this is an acceptable arrangement when we are both 65 and the Son is 40....be honest please!!

I don't understand what you're getting at. If it's been this way for five or six years then why should things be any different in a few more years?

It's ludicrous ans cruel to harass Jackie to make massive life change and put aside her very reasonable fears based on a single news article.

You don't even know if *you* would be better off if Jackie moved in, so you have no leg to stand on saying that Jackie would be.

You're talking abject nonsense man!

aliasojo

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

However, if you want me to agree with you that she would be better off financially moving in with you - in the short term at least - then all you need to do is post two numbers.

I don't think this has anything to do with whether Jackie would be better off financially or not........I think it's a lot more one sided than that.

nutsohazelnuts

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

This would suggest that you are quite interested in matters financial also.....

We're all interested in, and knowledgeable about, financial matters, that's why we all persist in requesting some financial information so that we may answer your question. Unfortunately none has been forthcoming.

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Jackies doing OK....but she could be £5000 a year better off living with me!!

She could also be considerably worse off. You have no idea which.

It is no wonder you wanted to keep the discussion on a purely financial level because as soon as emotions enter the fray it becomes apparent that they and not finances are the deciding factor for your good lady.

Having learned more about Jackie's history my post below still stands but now I think even less of you for trying to browbeat the poor lady into disregarding her own feelings on the matter. :mad: I'm quite disgusted.

nutsohazelnuts wrote: »

As I understand the situation, you are in dire financial straits and you would like your lady love to move in with you in order that the financial contribution she will then make to the household will help pay your living expenses and debts.

You are unhappy that the aforementioned lady seems reluctant to give up her family home, her son, and her financial security to throw her lot in with you.

Moving in with you would put your lady friend in a less secure position than at present, but you want her to do it because it would help you.

In fact, you go further than that, you seem to think she has some obligation to do so, and is costing you money by not doing so.

Furthermore, you are rude to the people who respond to your plight because they don not seem to agree with you that the best solution to your situation is somebody else's money.

Mustbeananswer??

I'm sorry I can't hope to answer all your queries now and want to leave the thread fo the weekend.Some of your posts are actually quite sweet now.I particularly like post 147 as it should answer all your doubts.(you can't knock a bit of good advice from someone who's been in the same situation).

I run a fairly small but profitable Disco Business.....I never have or never will do any numbers for it....If I weren't making the margins I'd know it.


Similairly....

Everything I do is on Gut Feeling....and my Gut Feeling here is that Jackie and I between us are wasting a lot of cash by living apart.It may also be counter productive emotion-wise....we shall have to see....when I have something to compare it with.

Please don't think it's rude if I don't respond over the weekend....it is my busy time.I'll let you argue amongst yourselves...

I hope you all have a nice weekend!!!

Jacks_xxx

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Some of your posts are actually quite sweet now. I particularly like post 147 as it should answer all your doubts.(you can't knock a bit of good advice from someone who's been in the same situation).

Post 147 was a few pages ago and I'm really sorry my lovely but it didn't answer anything for me. It doesn't even seem very similar to your situation. Quoted here to save newcomers from searching back:

serious_saver wrote: »

My OH spent over 5 years delaying moving in wiht me in order to save money. I persuaded him in the end and to be fair we have a healthy deposit now.

If we're going to take one person's post as the answer to everything then I choose this one:

DoWhatULove-LoveWhatUDo wrote: »

I live on my own now because sharing cost me more in increased bills.

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

I run a fairly small but profitable Disco Business.....I never have or never will do any numbers for it....If I weren't making the margins I'd know it.

You don't need to keep records for the taxman?

Mustbeananswer??

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

You don't need to keep records for the taxman?

Not when I have an Accountant;););););););)

Besides the Posters on here want projections.....The Taxmen tend to look at whats gone!!;););););)

giddypenguin

Your disco business' profitablity seems to change depending on where you post. In some of your past posts it's been struggling, now it's profitable?

You have said you love your partner, explained her domestic abuse past, and have told us all she doesn't want to move. Seems she doesn't want to move for emotional reasons - somethings are more important than money, her living with her son is more important to her than helping you out financally. Leave it, the more you pressure her to move in with you the more likely you will lose her.

aliasojo

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Please don't think it's rude if I don't respond over the weekend....it is my busy time.I'll let you argue amongst yourselves...

I hope you all have a nice weekend!!!

I had to laugh at this bit Martin, I think this is one of the few threads on MSE where all the posters have pretty much all agreed with each other....so we're hardly likely to be arguing amongst ourselves. :rotfl: We need you for that.

Happy DJ'ing.

aliasojo

Mustbeananswer?? wrote: »

Besides the Posters on here want projections.....

No we don't, we just want you to back up what you're bumping your gums about. :rotfl:

poet123

aliasojo wrote: »

I had to laugh at this bit Martin, I think this is one of the few threads on MSE where all the posters have pretty much all agreed with each other....so we're hardly likely to be arguing amongst ourselves. :rotfl: We need you for that.

Happy DJ'ing.

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