The Giving Up/Cutting Down Alcohol Support Thread - Numero 9!

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alchera

happyshopper wrote: »

alchera - difficult to know what to say, but taking your post at face value and looking back to your first appearance on the thread, you presumably first posted on here a couple of days after your win. At that time you said "I'm new. I am extremely shy and socially awkward...but I am trying to stop drinking alcohol......." so my first thought is that if your problem has hugely escalated in the last 3 weeks, is there somebody you can talk to that knows your position and that you can trust?

hs

hey happyshopper - thanks for your kind reply - no it wasn't just after my win and my problem hasn't escalated in the last 3 weeks, it has been quite a few months. Fortunately I do have a couple of people i can trust...but you know, i have always been really poor and having money is so unreal to me....I haven't been able to get my head round it...I can't see the money of course, and looking at bank statements is still too weird. I have a financial adviser - I HAVE A FINANCIAL ADVISER!!! , oh lord....- but you know - my situation really proves that money doesn't solve all problems.

I am going to go to a posh rehab because you can stay there as long as you can pay and i think a few weeks off the drink will set me on my way. It just annoys me hugely that winning money to me the first thing I think about is how much bevy I can buy. That's f****d up....To be fair though, the second thing i think about is to help others.....I don't need 3 and a half million Euros...and i could do a lot of good with some of it.

man...so many people would want my problem.....sorry for whining....

alchera

cardboard_chewer wrote: »

Good point, I hadn't really noticed how the Carla drinking story line came out of nowhere until you said. Hopefully the writers won't have her celebrating her recovery on Thursday with a bottle of champagne in the Rovers ;-)

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

jo1972

Congrats on your win alchera, I can see your predicament and I know it's in bad taste, but you could send some over here if you like

Good luck in your rehab, I don't think it matters whether it's posh or not, just like I said to Charlotte this morning, I think it's all about the frame of mind.

Good luck xx

mumofboys_2

alchera wrote: »

To be fair though, the second thing i think about is to help others.....I don't need 3 and a half million Euros...and i could do a lot of good with some of it.

Yes - you absolutely could, and that is a lovely thought, but be good to yourself first, and try to work through your own issues. Then you will be able to do good for others with a measured approach. Work on you first - then your help elsewhere will be the most effective it can be.

Good luck.

MOB

cazzasmazza

Morning everyone,

I am ill AGAIN! I seem to be ill all the time at the moment.

But my shifts have now been confirmed down to 2 per week, on a Thursday and Friday night, which is GREAT! That starts after next week, hooray.

Hopefully that will sort out my life/work/uni balance and I will start to feel better, as I am still exhausted all the time.

Although I won't have much money to live on, it's manageable if I am careful. As long as I can put some petrol in my car, continue contributing to the household bills and mortgage while we still have the house, pay for my mobile phone and get a small weekly shop, I don't realistically need anything else.

2 more AFD's for me please.

I was feeling miserable yesterday so I did have a drink, but I don't feel too hungover today - it is just this damn sore throat and cold that is making me feel like poo.

Have a lovely day everyone.

Hugs
Caz
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maman

Wanna_Bee_Free wrote: »

Snap Maman, one more tonight, n'est ce pas?

Mais oui wbf, certainement, pas de probleme!

jo1972 wrote: »

Congrats on your win alchera, I can see your predicament and I know it's in bad taste, but you could send some over here if you like

Good luck in your rehab, I don't think it matters whether it's posh or not, just like I said to Charlotte this morning, I think it's all about the frame of mind.

Good luck xx

I don't have a lot to add alchera but I agree with jo. As you can afford it (:D) then by all means use posh rehab for a kick-start. I think what will matter most is that when it's over you need to have a routine in your life that doesn't involve alcohol. Boredom and habit can be as bad as some of the sadder triggers. And stick to your good friends, avoid !!!!!!!!!!s who will encourage you.

cazzasmazza wrote: »

Morning everyone,

I am ill AGAIN! I seem to be ill all the time at the moment.


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:coffee: this is a Lemsip for you cazza. Hopefully, you'll get stronger when your life calms down a little next week. I know you've been a bit short of money but I hope you're eating healthy food too?

Sorry to hear things are not good with you jo. Sending you a hug and it'll soon be the weekend.


Have a good day everyone, it's glorious here, perfect autumn day.

mumofboys_2

Wee quick catch up. I am afraid I have stumbled on the 100 day challenge, however only on the weekend. I have been holding strong during the week. Perhaps I would be better off setting myself a target and aiming towards that... I had Big Ben in my head last night, as DH is now leaving for work at 6.30am and not getting home until 8.45pm, and the kids in bed has always been a trigger for that "phew and glass of wine" moment.

Hope everyone is bearing up. I always feel this season change bit throws a bit of a curve ball - same in March for me.

MOB

Pippilongstocking

Goodluck to those trying to give up and detox

Pene I'm upto 3 days

shaggy I've been af all month so far - taking things day at a time - only way for me I think - MOB don't give up - I'm sure whatever you do will be best for you. If you think about it - whatever you get out of 100 is brilliant!

40sm - I'm still OK and uptodate.

Been a bit wierd here - I want to drink bells later on I'm sure- but I don't want the negatively and hassle of it all - its wierd - I'm half angry the whole time and half releived - we'll get there Jo honest we will.
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Hello to all - I'm off on the mainland for a week or so - might not get on much but will be thinking of you all and trying to be diligent. I've rearranged a couple of meet up with friend - would normally turn up wine/gin/etc in hand and go for it.

Now, my main drinking friend and I are meeting at a tree climbing place in the morning to do an activity with the kids for a couple hours - I don't want to stay there - my own fault - but I can't be in a house with open invitation to alcohol - so trying something different........................................................xx

Little steps - which I'm hoping might help.

alchera

randomname wrote: »

Alchera

Wow! what fantastic luck. Congratulations,

I guess the reason you are here is because you have an ongoing problem with alcohol.

If so, this seems to be your issue

alchera wrote: »

I am going to try a "posh" rehab.....but I still think that no amount of money will solve my drink problem....
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If you don't take control now, your win may not be so lucky after all.

I don't wish to appear cruel but you are now in a position to get some quality professional help but the desire must come from you.

Invest the money wisely and do think hard about your drinking.

RN

Hi RN,

You are so right..but nothing anyone can say to me about my drinking is cruel. Thank you so much for your congrats! And for taking the trouble to share your advice with me. I appreciate that very much.

You are very right - I am here because I have found myself in trouble with alcohol, irrespective of my win. Right now, my drinking is my priority, not the money. I have people I care about and who care about me and I don't want to inflict an alcohol problem on them...

Thanks again for being so cool.