The Giving Up/Cutting Down Alcohol Support Thread - Numero 9!

hiney777

Aaagh wrote: »

Hello

I've dipped in and out of these threads over the last couple of years, and started of with good intentions at the beginning of this year but lasted a couple of weeks, if that.

I've gone from being a weekend binge drinker in my 20's to a daily, mostly at home in the evening, drinker now (just turned 40). I'd be quite happy if I could just get back to the Friday/Sat drinking, but once 8.00 pm comes I get an irresistable urge to open a bottle. I think I'll just have one glass, but it's usually 3 or 4, or more (large ones) every evening.

I knew it would happen one day, but earlier this evening my son (5) said he didn't like me to drink as it wasn't good for me, and said couldn't I drink water or milk as it was good for me. I tried not to, but got all tearful and said it was because the programme I was watching was very sad.

I found myself trying to justify it to him, saying everything in moderation, and one glass a day is good for your heart. I knew I had more than that and said I would only have one glass a day in future. I often say this to myself but I have never been able to stick to it. I hope that I will this time.

Hello Aaargh
8 yrs tomorrow is when I picked up my last drink and my son was also 5 at the time (he turned 13 last week). I would often look at him and my 1 yr old daughter and wonder why if they were meant to be the most important things in my life how comes I couldnt give up for them, and this would make me feel bad and drink more and the cycle would keep repeating.
One of my ways of staying sober is to be totally selfish, I stay sober for me and only me. Not for my beautiful wife and children, but just me, And the big bonus thats comes with my selfish attitude to being sober is I'm a better Dad and Husband, and my kids love me to bits, but if I choose to drink again I will lose it all

Good luck

jo1972

Thank you for that post hiney777

A huge well done for tomorrow, HUGE :T

365days

I've done it! One Year sober for me! Have a slice of cake everyone..

Lurkio

365days wrote: »

I've done it! One Year sober for me! Have a slice of cake everyone..

:T :T :T :T :T :T :T :T

Brilliantly well done!!!!!!

:j :j :j :j :j :j :j

A fantastic achievement!!!!!

365days

StressedOutSue wrote: »

Morning all

17 AFDs for me please, Shaggy
Completed Day 1 on the Pen challenge, please Jo

Have a good day everybody.

I can completely identify with Aaargh and Shoppy.

Hoping to have got out of my pattern built up over many years by the major work changes I have made over the past few weeks, involving mega decisions - and just acceptance of who I am and what I am capable of, allowing myself to accept that I actually could have a high earning job (just resigned from it in fact) but that I'm not the type of person who can combine this with being a mother and giving enough attention to my teenaged children. I understand that teenagers need lots of undivided attention. So I've accepted that I am lucky to be able to freelance from home and still earn a decent amount. I think this acceptance will stop me from running to wine to blot everything out. Or at least, to be moderate, without the need to go overboard.

Right, got that off my chest!

xx

SOS that is so true. I accepted I couldn't be wonderwoman. I accepted that something had to give and it wasn't going to be my health this time. I now earn a third of what I did a year ago, but life is better (generally) for it.

hiney777

365days wrote: »

I've done it! One Year sober for me! Have a slice of cake everyone..

That is great news :T:rotfl::T
Well done

365days

Lurkio wrote: »

:T :T :T :T :T :T :T :T

Brilliantly well done!!!!!!

:j :j :j :j :j :j :j

A fantastic achievement!!!!!

Thanks Lurks, Wouldn't of ever thought it could happen and it probably wouldn't of if I hadn't stumbles across this thread.

StressedOutSue

365days wrote: »

I accepted I couldn't be wonderwoman. I accepted that something had to give and it wasn't going to be my health this time. I now earn a third of what I did a year ago, but life is better (generally) for it.

You are a true inspiration to me, thank you

jo1972

Wow 365!!! Well done, passes cake around:bdaycake::bdaycake:

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SimIsOnTheUp

Good Morning Ladies and Gents.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uLtPp_xIpC4

Enjoy ;-)

Sim xx