Burnout? can't cope with daily problems

amalis

Hi, I dont know where to start or how to explain what I feel.
I just can't cope anymore with daily little problems. Right now I am sitting at work and crying without a reason and there is a lot of work which I must do, but I don't. I just can't force myself to start. I used to love my job so much and I still do, but gradually I felt that I am losing interest and now I just can't cope. I have a deadline and I am well behind and I don't know why I can't start. At home, I had high level of stress during last 9 month due to illness of a family member and I have constant money problems . It all was killing me softly for a long time. I had my ups and downs, I had times full of hope and dark times, but now I just can't force myslef to do anything and right now I need to be strong! There is so much to do!

romylou_2

I go through periods like this too. My job is very demanding and I have meet deadlines on a regular basis, and it does mount up. Although I do seem to meet them, and if I don't - hey the world doesn't end!!!

The best advice I can give you is Do Not Stress about it!

Write a list with your priorities and put them into order of importance. (Your shortest deadline at the top)

If you can delegate to someone else - Do IT!!!

Ask friends to help you out - if its applicable.

If you need to write down your issues, sometimes it helps to see it in black and white, post it up and see what advice you can get.

A problem shared is a problem halved and all that......

Good Luck

suseb_99

Hi Amalis,
First of all (((Big Hugs)))
You have had alot on your plate for a long time now, and coping with it all brilliantly i'm sure,
but sometimes it all just catches up with you!!
Try and take one thing at a time, Don't look at all the work you need to get finished just take one task at a time and concentrate on that.
Try not to let it overwhelm you, also I would suggest seeing your Dr, You may be depressed and your Dr will be able to help you with that.

Sorry I can't be of more help.
Suse x

romylou_2

Oh almost forgot - If you think you have a medical problem, go and see your GP and explain your symptoms. They may recommend either, medication or a short period away from work. Both of which may help you.

xx

Chin up Amalis xxx

amalis

I am very grateful to those answered! I am reluctant to go to GP at the mo because once I spoke to her and she wanted to refer me to counselling which I think is great, but I can not have this record in my medical file. I want to try my best to solve this problem on my own.
I had enough time to finish my work, but I did not do anything. I felt I just lost interest in work and in life in general. I was just sitting there and looking at papers.
I usually talk with my mum on the phone every day, but I haven't called her since last week. I just can't force myself to smile and to pretend I am ok.

amalis

due to my work I would have to disclose it.

Youdontseeme

I nearly posted something very similar this morning, but couldn’t put it into words without sounding like a total nutcase (congrats on that!)

I have felt like this for a few weeks now, will cry at any little things, can’t seem to get motivated to do anything, whether its cleaning at home, trying eat better, drink less, exercise more, at work stuff is piling up cause I just can’t seem to concentrate for more than 5 minutes at a time.

I am irritable (well maybe I always have been!), I can’t sleep, I lie awake for hours going over stuff in my head, if I do sleep I can’t get up, I literally ache all over and just on the whole feel blurgh!! (if this isn’t a medical term I believe it should be!)

I am already on AD's and really thought they were working but this cloud is just hanging over my head at the mo and I just can’t seem to shake it off.

I find it really hard to talk to people, and I just feel like I'm moaning all the time.

I know I need to pull myself together, I even know what I have to do, but actually doing it...... I don’t seem able to.

Big hugs
YDSM

sassyblue

Amalis, goodgirl's right no-one can see your medical record unless you give permission. Besides l'm an employer and if l saw 'counselling' on someones medical file (l never have asked for medical files either) then l wouldn't assume anything by it, it no-one elses business, same for anti-d's.

You do sound a little depressed but l would also take romylous advice and write down what you have to do, believe me the list is always shorter than you think in your head, then tell yourslef you're going to put all thoughts out of your head and give yourself half an hour to work on A, and perhaps start B later on but the other things can wait until tomorrow.

Tonight, do something that YOU want to if it's a bath, watch a movie, read a book, whatever - anything to treat yourself short term.

If you can't cope then please see your doctor again, you might benefit from a mild anti-d for a few weeks or have some time away from work.

You are NOT a failure (before you think you are!) they say depression is a sign you've been too strong for too long.

You might benefit from going over to the debt free boards and seeing if you can get some ideas over there.

I know what you're going through and you will come out the other side

ka7e

Stress at work, trying to hide it and getting more stressed! Not coping and feeling depressed. These are getting very common in the workplace at the moment and you can't go on bottling it up. If you felt able to discuss it openly I bet you'd find many workmates are already seeking medical attention.

It's not only your GP that can refer you for counselling, you can pay and go privately. If you work for a large organisation, I expect HR will be able to refer you too - and they get things moving much faster! A well-trained, valuable member of staff is worth keeping and they would probably rather you addressed the problem than having to take long-term sick leave due to stress-related illness.

"Owning up" is the biggest hurdle, but unless you have evidence of your employers being totally unsympathetic to "burnout", you need to seek help.

amalis

Thank you, Sassyblue! i really started to fell that I am not good enough and anything I do is just.. not enough. I was cheering up everyone at home for a long time, I was the one who was saying "it will be ok, look at me- I am smiling". And its too big pressure now on me, I have no right to be weak now.

ka7e

Youdontseeme wrote: »

I am already on AD's and really thought they were working but this cloud is just hanging over my head at the mo and I just can’t seem to shake it off.


YDSM

YDSM, go back to your GP. Your ADs may need adjusting or changing! The same drugs/dosages don't work the same for everyone. Ask about counselling, too. Unfortunately there is often a long waiting list for it, but it does help some people and can give you coping mechanisms for the occasional black cloud .