Burnout? can't cope with daily problems

amalis

Hi! I went to Samaritans office today because I felt I on the edge of breakdown . To be honest i was a bit disappointed, I did not feel better at all. I understand that it is not counselling and all they do was letting me talk without any advise or smthg. It was not enough . Am at home all day , crying

RacyRed

Sometimes things take time. Maybe you are still very raw from talking about things with them. It takes time for things to settle in your mind.

Please don't sit crying, keep yourself occupied, it doesn't matter what you do, but try to keep your mind occupied. I know that sounds rubbish, but it really does help.

goodgirl80

ERICS_MUM wrote: »

Exactly so. I found myself getting up earlier and earlier for my 90 min commute into the City, until my alarm clock was going off at 4.30am and I was leaving the office at 11 pm :eek:. Eating a sandwich and bag of crisps for lunch as I dashed halfway across London for meetings after meetings. Being held in meetings by senior managers until 7pm and then driving up to Leeds to run a training course the next morning.

It's done for me - after 5 years of long-term sick leave my company have pensioned me off at 54 on medical grounds. I'm fit for nothing now, don't think i will ever be able to work again. I have no attention span, can't bear to be rushed or have any sort of routine. By 3pm every day I get overwhelmed by all the stuff I have to do - laundry, gardening etc so I have a nap for 2 hours.

I have no solutions only empathy and sympathy. As some frenchman said "hell is other people". Boy was he right.

Hi,

I'm a previous lurker on this thread and what Ericsmum said there really struck a chord with me. I'm sorry for barging in/ hijacking but I'm getting desperate. I'm 30 now, and have been exhausted almost as long as I can remember. I haven't had the stressful jobs that others have had, but I feel drained most of the time. It gets to points where I don't think I can carry on and just want to cry/ sleep. I sleep for most of the day at weekends, and still go to bed by 10pm at night. My face is sagging and I get 'woozy'/ dizzy spells. Some of my colleagues have told me I should go to the doctors but I just feel I'm wasting their time, like I've brought this on myself by doing something wrong - diet/ exercise/ smoking. But I also know that not everyone feels like this, despite those things. I just wanted some advice really - if any of you have had success in beating these symptoms, what the doctors have said, if you've seen them, and just to say you're not alone

belfastgirl23

goodgirl80 wrote: »

Hi,

I'm a previous lurker on this thread and what Ericsmum said there really struck a chord with me. I'm sorry for barging in/ hijacking but I'm getting desperate. I'm 30 now, and have been exhausted almost as long as I can remember. I haven't had the stressful jobs that others have had, but I feel drained most of the time. It gets to points where I don't think I can carry on and just want to cry/ sleep. I sleep for most of the day at weekends, and still go to bed by 10pm at night. My face is sagging and I get 'woozy'/ dizzy spells. Some of my colleagues have told me I should go to the doctors but I just feel I'm wasting their time, like I've brought this on myself by doing something wrong - diet/ exercise/ smoking. But I also know that not everyone feels like this, despite those things. I just wanted some advice really - if any of you have had success in beating these symptoms, what the doctors have said, if you've seen them, and just to say you're not alone

You have absolutely got to see a doctor, this sounds like there is more to it one way or another. It could be to do with your mental health - some of what you identify sounds like it could be depression related. But it's entirely possible that it's a physical health problem too - especially the dizzy spells. Ok maybe your lifestyle isn't perfectly healthy (and I have always found that docs first of all try to get you on smoking, then on drinking and if you neither smoke nor drink excessively then they start on your weight, so don't take it personally if this is your experience) but you still deserve help.

Do you have anyone who would go to the doctor with you?

goodgirl80

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

You have absolutely got to see a doctor, this sounds like there is more to it one way or another. It could be to do with your mental health - some of what you identify sounds like it could be depression related. But it's entirely possible that it's a physical health problem too - especially the dizzy spells. Ok maybe your lifestyle isn't perfectly healthy (and I have always found that docs first of all try to get you on smoking, then on drinking and if you neither smoke nor drink excessively then they start on your weight, so don't take it personally if this is your experience) but you still deserve help.

Do you have anyone who would go to the doctor with you?

I am on anti-depressants, have been on them for years. I may be wrong, but I instinctively feel its not that. Thanks, you have made me feel like I'm not just a pathetic timewaster. I will go to the Dr next week if I don't feel better x

miss_independent

goodgirl80 wrote: »

Hi,

I'm a previous lurker on this thread and what Ericsmum said there really struck a chord with me. I'm sorry for barging in/ hijacking but I'm getting desperate. I'm 30 now, and have been exhausted almost as long as I can remember. I haven't had the stressful jobs that others have had, but I feel drained most of the time. It gets to points where I don't think I can carry on and just want to cry/ sleep. I sleep for most of the day at weekends, and still go to bed by 10pm at night. My face is sagging and I get 'woozy'/ dizzy spells. Some of my colleagues have told me I should go to the doctors but I just feel I'm wasting their time, like I've brought this on myself by doing something wrong - diet/ exercise/ smoking. But I also know that not everyone feels like this, despite those things. I just wanted some advice really - if any of you have had success in beating these symptoms, what the doctors have said, if you've seen them, and just to say you're not alone

Please see a doctor, you are not wasting their time. My mum let similar symptoms go for years and it was only after a blood test related to something else she found out she had a thyroid problem. Her symptoms; falling asleep as soon as she got in from work, anxiety, depression, shaking, palpitations, bursting into tears, dizziness etc she thought were all due to stress and bringing it on herself but they were all to do with the thyroid. My cousin was a similar age to you and had a similar experience and it was her thyroid too. It may be nothing medical, but if it is then all the "de-stressing" and diet and exercise adjustments won't work if it is actually a physical problem that needs medical attention.

I read this thread because I'm having similar feelings. I'm 27 and permanently stressed, my mind is racing and I get little done. I burst out crying the other day when I realised I am not getting enjoyment out of anything, my mind is always elsewhere and its draining me. I couldn't go to my friends birthday party this weekend as I was totally burnt-out. I am putting much more focus on de-stressing. I'm reading the "Feeling Good Handbook" and thinking about taking up Yoga and meditation.

Lets hope we all get better and find some balance in our lives soon.

Always_Harassed

There are 2 great books which might be able to help you look at the effects of your diet on your mood. See if your local library has a copy.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Potatoes-Not-Prozac-Depression-Cravings/dp/1847390536/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1298401522&sr=1-1

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Mood-Cure-Charge-Emotions-Supplements/dp/0007323697/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1298401874&sr=1-1

goodgirl80

miss_independent wrote: »

Please see a doctor, you are not wasting their time. My mum let similar symptoms go for years and it was only after a blood test related to something else she found out she had a thyroid problem. Her symptoms; falling asleep as soon as she got in from work, anxiety, depression, shaking, palpitations, bursting into tears, dizziness etc she thought were all due to stress and bringing it on herself but they were all to do with the thyroid. My cousin was a similar age to you and had a similar experience and it was her thyroid too. It may be nothing medical, but if it is then all the "de-stressing" and diet and exercise adjustments won't work if it is actually a physical problem that needs medical attention.

I read this thread because I'm having similar feelings. I'm 27 and permanently stressed, my mind is racing and I get little done. I burst out crying the other day when I realised I am not getting enjoyment out of anything, my mind is always elsewhere and its draining me. I couldn't go to my friends birthday party this weekend as I was totally burnt-out. I am putting much more focus on de-stressing. I'm reading the "Feeling Good Handbook" and thinking about taking up Yoga and meditation.

Lets hope we all get better and find some balance in our lives soon.

I've had people suggest a thyroid problem before...thanks. Have you seen a Dr. about your issues or do you think you can sort it yourself?

goodgirl80

amalis wrote: »

Hi! I went to Samaritans office today because I felt I on the edge of breakdown . To be honest i was a bit disappointed, I did not feel better at all. I understand that it is not counselling and all they do was letting me talk without any advise or smthg. It was not enough . Am at home all day , crying

I hope you feel able to give us an update soon amalis, it really sounds like you need some proper support :grouphug:

jpwhittle

I'm so glad i came across this thread tonight. I'm in such a bad place right now. Not through work but through bullying (and im 30 so shouldnt get bulied at this age). I've been seeing a CPN for a while over it and things were getting better for a while. I had started to manage my thoughts about the bullying and was coping but then we found out we were moving and things got 100 times worse. We finally moved on monday but for the last 4 weeks i havent slept due to recurring nightmares about me being shot or me killing someone and not being able to get rid of the body. Last night i dreamt i was shot in the head, wasnt killed but was shot. Every time i woke myself up in a panic i could still feel the bullet in my head.
My OH wants me to see the doctor to help me sleep but im so frightened ill sleep and not be able to wake up from the nightmare. I feel so stupid, Ive moved away from the bullying now so dont know why its effecting me still. Today was hard as the kids have done nothing but be naughty and pushed well passed all their limits resulting in me completly losing my rag tonight. Just spent ages crying as i feel ive completly lost the plot. I would see the doctor tomorrow but my little boy is having an operation in the morning wich is adding to my worries. I hate what im about to put him through even though i know its essential. Its only a minor op but thats what makes it worse, he isnt hurting now but he will tomorrow and i feel so guilty.
I just want some peace and some quite, i want the pain in my head to stop and to just relax a little.
I dont know when ill next see my cpn due to the move, he said he would pick me up at this med centre (we have only been here 3 days) but i feel si desperate, I m ean what kind of person dreams these dreams, im certainly not feeling normal right now.