40 and Foolish!

NewLeaf_2

Thank you so much for all the support!

I am tempted to send her the bill, however as she is on JSA. What is so upsetting to me is that last month, just 5 short weeks ago I gave her a loan ( which was 1. substancial, and 2. I never give money with the expectation of giving it back) to bring her bills up-to-date, including her home telephone which had been cut off.

The phone is cut off again (how can that even happen in 5 weeks!) and I just cant bring my head around how someone can help you and then you steal from them. As OH said: Live and Leran

1 more day to diswasher reapir man. I may be looking more forward to this date than I did my wedding date!

PinotGrigio41

NL that is appalling, I am so angry for you that this happened . :mad: You have been so kind to her. Grrrr ! Lots more angry words are wanting to pop out but I wont let them.

I do hope that you will feel better about things soon.

Enjoyt that hot date with the dishwasher repair person !:D

grannyx2

Am I missing something here or has your dish washer blown up as well as your washing machine or do you in fact have a really new fangled type machine that does both your smalls and your cutlery?

X

Rainbow_Bridge

Hi Newleaf,

So sorry that your kindheartedness has been repaid in such a dishonourable way.

Personally, I wouldn't let her get away with it, as she will likely repeat the offence on someone else.

Could you speak to her about how this has made you feel pointing out that she has committed a criminal offence, then work out a repayment plan with her, put it in writing, get it witnessed and hold her to it, even if it's £5.00 a month for the next 100 years.

Tough love is called for now!! I have helped out so many people in the past, lending them money, but they always seem to go on and get themselves in exactly the same situation again. Now I send them to MSE and CCCS for help. We are trying to get our lives into order and so should they!!

NewLeaf_2

RB I will give it a think. Right now I basically just never want to see her again.

Granny I have no idea why I said dishwaher when I meant washing machine.

grannyx2

NewLeaf wrote: »

RB I will give it a think. Right now I basically just never want to see her again.

Granny I have no idea why I said dishwaher when I meant washing machine.

That's ok then, for one moment I thought you were having machines failing on you all over the place. Hope it got sorted x

grannyx2

Rainbow_Bridge wrote: »

Hi Newleaf,

So sorry that your kindheartedness has been repaid in such a dishonourable way.

Personally, I wouldn't let her get away with it, as she will likely repeat the offence on someone else.

Could you speak to her about how this has made you feel pointing out that she has committed a criminal offence, then work out a repayment plan with her, put it in writing, get it witnessed and hold her to it, even if it's £5.00 a month for the next 100 years.

Tough love is called for now!! I have helped out so many people in the past, lending them money, but they always seem to go on and get themselves in exactly the same situation again. Now I send them to MSE and CCCS for help. We are trying to get our lives into order and so should they!!

I think your solution sounds a really good idea and definitely worth a go.

The only people I lend money to these days is DS and DDIL2B, although I occasionally pay for things for DM, DF or DD with them paying me back when I see them. I stopped lending to friends years ago after getting my fingers burnt more than once. Never is such a drastic way as poor NL though.

x

Piquant_2

grannyx2 wrote: »

Am I missing something here or has your dish washer blown up as well as your washing machine or do you in fact have a really new fangled type machine that does both your smalls and your cutlery?

X

Ah I thought the same :rotfl:I thought our lovely NL had access to some wonder machine that the rest of us could only dream of...

How useful it would be....I wonder if it could wash floors and clean the car too...

grannyx2

Piquant wrote: »

Ah I thought the same :rotfl:I thought our lovely NL had access to some wonder machine that the rest of us could only dream of...

How useful it would be....I wonder if it could wash floors and clean the car too...

and make the beds and cook the tea and...... well I'm sure you get my drift x

NewLeaf_2

I feel really lucky to have you all in my corner.

Today I am awaiting the locksmith at 9 am and the washer repair person between 8 and 6.... really! 8 and 6!

After they fix it (notice positivity here) I will be known as..

"our lady of the perpetual laundry basket"