big debts / big plans - would welcome some moral support

ftbworried

I haven't read the thread in the greatest detail so apologies if this point has already been raised....

...but why on earth are you seeming to be paying all the food, petrol, council tax etc. for you family on £380 per month? Where is your husbands money going?

black-saturn

ftbworried wrote:

...but why on earth are you seeming to be paying all the food, petrol, council tax etc. for you family on £380 per month? Where is your husbands money going?

Forgive me if I'm wrong but I'd guess it's being poured down his throat in the form of a golden coloured liquid and/or frittered away at the pub and nights out while she stays at home with the children.

itsarichmansworld

I'm new here too well long time lurker but I finally admitted my debts and to be honest feeling so much better about it now.

Keep your chin up and lots of hugs x

gravitytolls

Ah, Benas on Toast, how I share your feelings. Since hubs hurt his back, I seem to be constantly suffering from racing heart, unable to sleep, and my thoughts dominated by the feeling of impending doom.

The thing is, you're not dealing with debt alone are you? Right now, in my opinion, you need to stop worrying about the finances, beyond your needs, and concentrate on yourself and the children. Your partner seems to need help that you are unable to give.

Can you keep your finances separate? A friend had a marital breakdown. They continued to live in the same house, as the council considered she and the children to be adequately housed. But he spent the cash, leaving nothing/little for her to manage with. She contacted Social Security, and they gave her her own money. Perhaps you should contact them and see what help you can get. The CAB are also available for advice.

Good luck pet.