Help please

northernrocknufc

Padstow wrote: »

Whilst you're clearing up the mess, who insures the car? Dad or you?

Car was insured by me with only myself and my dad named to drive it. Car is no longer insured as i am not using it.

northernrocknufc

Loretta wrote: »

. I think he is probably lying about it all and trying to scare you

Thanx Loretta.

Now ive had time to think and calm down, you are prob right.

I think he wants his hands on the car and because i wont hand it over he is trying to scare me and threatening me with our home.

I just wish it wasnt bank holiday tomorrow. I have so many people to contact (solicitor, housing !!!, council, dvla). I just want to know where i stand.

gravitytolls

northernrocknufc wrote: »

When they interview him and viewed our old house i was at work and didnt think anything of it. Same with the tenancy agreement. They phoned him to go to the office to sign and i was at work again.

If this is correct can i remove his name and add my name onto the tenancy agreement or do i have to apply to be housed again?

I very much doubt that they will evict you ~ and he certainly doesn't ave the power to do so, especially as he was effectively subletting to you without permission or declaring the income!

Presumably your bank account, driving licence etc. are all registered to your address? Thereby confirming that to all intents and purposes you have indeed been living at the address.

Although different departments, I daresay HB and CTB will want to have a little chat with him, not ot mention the DWP.

He's timed this perfectly, as he's clearly intended the panic and the long weekend will ensure that not only do you not have time to get advice, but you will pack up and get out before you have the opportunity to do so.

Can your dad change the barrels of your locks? Or a friend/brother? Nip to B&Q's and pick up new locks, so you can keep him out while you're at the offices of the HA with your proofs of residency on Tuesday.

I think a trip/call to the local constabulary may be in order as well ~ for all you know he could have been a bigamist for the last 11 years.

As I've typed, I may have forgotten whether or not you mentioned another woman, but as he wants you out, I presume that's because he intends to move back in. As he voluntarily left, it makes me think he doesn't intend to be moving back alone.

northernrocknufc

gravitytolls wrote: »

Can your dad change the barrels of your locks? Or a friend/brother? Nip to B&Q's and pick up new locks, so you can keep him out while you're at the offices of the HA with your proofs of residency on Tuesday.

As I've typed, I may have forgotten whether or not you mentioned another woman, but as he wants you out, I presume that's because he intends to move back in. As he voluntarily left, it makes me think he doesn't intend to be moving back alone.

Locks have been changed on front & back door on Friday gone.

He left me for another woman. Im guessing she has her own home because she has a teenager.

BallandChain

How long have you lived at your current home? When the housing association came and saw your husband were you renting privately at the time? I'm wondering as I would have thought they would want to know who is moving with him and to see a current (at that time) tenancy agreement.

shellsuit

northernrocknufc wrote: »

No one that i know of has ever came out to our home apart from the housing assoiciation when he was interview for the property when i was at work.

Yes i had holidays but we took them together and always went away.

He has 2 bank accounts. 1 with halifax and 1 with Lloyds. I dont have any statements here just credit card statements but i cant never remember seeing anything from DWS. It was all what he has paid in & what was coming out.

Do you think he was claiming on the side and working too?

Why would he put himself in it now? Obviously if he's told you he was claiming this this and this, but you knew him to be working, he's already fcked up if he was actually working.

When you have a meeting for HB and CT they do actually ask to look at bank statements, so if he has been working and getting paid into one account while benefits have been going into the other account which he wasn't entitled to, gather all that info and evidence together and bubble the !!!!!! up.

Infact it doesn't matter whether he was working or not as by the sounds of it, he never declared that you were living with him, but I can't understand how he would have got HB for a family as he would have been down on the forms on his own as he would never have been able to prove your child was living with him without a child benefit number ~ child benefit which you claim.

It's all a big massive mess and I stilll don't understand a lot of it!

thatgirlsam

northernrocknufc wrote: »

It would be so much easier if i could hold my hands up and say yes i know he was claiming benefit & working but at this point i dont know if he is or isnt. I just have is word at the moment.

Yes i washed his clothes, yes his mobile never stopped, yes he would paint the same old dears houses every xmas but from him picking our daughter up from school at 3.30pm & collecting me from work at 6pm he had showered and there was no paint on him. The outhouse is still full of his painting things and paint.

maybe you could ask the DWP if he has been claiming?

its a difficult situation as they might want to know why you didn't know etc

i think it probably is a pack of lies

maybe you could call his bluff and say you are going to get that checked out as you don't want to be caught up in any wrong doings

good luck anyway

Nelski

Just a thought but were you on the voting register at that house? If not why not? did you never fill in the forms we all get every year as to who is resident?

ViolaLass

thatgirlsam wrote: »

yeh i know it does happen

just how can someone who was supposedly self employed as a painter and decorater pull that off for 11 years?

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just sounds like the OP might have known what was going on to me

sorry OP

My dad, admittedly in a very different line of work, pretended to go to work for two weeks after he was suspended (for being a prat, to put it simply). He would put on his suit, drive me to school, go to work and appear to be reading papers, making notes etc in the evening. Everything looked normal.

It was only when I read one of his letters, because I was a nosy teenager that I found out about the suspension and told him I knew that he stopped pretending. OK, it was a much shorter time but until I saw the letter I had no idea (even with hindsight I can't say I suspected).

That said, if the OP is telling the truth, then I'm not convinced her ex is. Why would he have bothered keeping up the pretence?

sammyjammy

I think he is just one big fat liar.

I don't believe for a minute that he has been able to fraudulently claim benefits for 11 years without his partner knowing, for starters if heh ad been claiming for that period of time he would have had lots of activity/visits/interviews from DWP/Council.

If his daughters name is on the tenancy and she still lives in the house then surely it is safe for the mother and daughter to live in the house.

OP I think you need to sit down and write down the sequence of events that have happened and what action you've taken so far. The more active and organised you are the more chance you have of sorting this sorry mess out.

I'm a bit concerned that you have cancelled the insurance on the car and if the ex has stopped making the payments then the finacne company are going to come and get the car if its on HP rather than a personal loan.


Best of luck, you sound like such a strong person I'm sure you'll come through this.