Help please

northernrocknufc

Im getting some where. A local solicitor that works of a Sunday. They have emailed me back and offered to see me on Tuesday.

IHD

I dont want to raise your hopes too much , but how long have you been in the 'new' house? If it is over 12 months im sure you can take over the tenancy. I used to live with a Walter Mitty character, but not as bad as yours. Mine was more about things he had done/owned before i met him and that was bad enough when i found out it was all lies. I hope all goes well for you.

ecgirl07

northernrocknufc wrote: »

Im getting some where. A local solicitor that works of a Sunday. They have emailed me back and offered to see me on Tuesday.

As something practical to do collate all evidence that you live there, banks statements, electoral register, etc etc. Collate evidence of you paying towards the household, highlight cash withdrawals for bills there would be a 3 monthly/monthly pattern and regular amounts. They might not be needed but doing somethign will be better than doing nothing.

As mentioned it sounds like he was working cash in hand and claiming IB, you could contact the DWP and have him investigated for benefit fraud. What are the grounds of his claim to IB? Was he claiming these as a single person or were your details on his claim? Again if you are on his claim then its evidence you lived in the home.

good luck.

bulchy

northernrocknufc wrote: »

I have no where to go. The only family i have is my dad who lives in a 1 bedroom flat for over 35s.

I have sent an email to the housing association asking if i could see a housing officer ASAP or even a phone call on Tuesday to see where i stand.

I cant believe how well i had coped with the break up and 1 little knock back has got me falling to bits.

I wouldnt call this one little knock back, I feel for you. Sorry, no real advice to give, just want to wish you good luck. Also, someone I know recently left (amicably) there partner, they were living in privately rented accomadation, and the partner who was left in the home was able to take over the tenancy, I know different landlords have different rules etc, but hope this is of some help to you.
Sue

ifonlyitwaseasier

is it possible you have "lost" your front door keys and need new locks fitted?

kittiej

I would go to the Housing Office first thing when they open after the BH. If he has been gone for 4 weeks then he has abandoned his house, I would see what they say.

Just make sure your daughter stays with you. If he wants to see her tell him she's too upset atm and that he'll have to wait until she's come to terms with him leaving. In the mean time see the solicitor and secure your position re your daughter.

Just to get it clear in my head - did your OH take the finance out in his name? If so i would let him have the car as he's responsible for it and certainly not give him £3k. Is it on HP? if so he could get into trouble with the finance provider as he hasn't got the car registered to himself and therefore won't have it insured fully comp? just a thought.

good luck with it all, like others have said spend the next day or so compiling 'your case'.

lloydlf

It sounds to me like he's trying to scare you into moving out so he can have the house - sounds like a lovely bloke!! If it isthe case you aren't on the tenancy still don't panic presumably you have bank statements and other paperwork which proves you have been living there the whole time. Take thesealong to the housing assoc, explain the situation and ask about taking over the tenancy. Mr brother was in a similar situation when my mum died and was allowed to stay in the house as he could produce bank statements showing he'd been living there.

Sit tight, don't panic and make a plan of attack for Tuesday morning

jackieglasgow

kittiej, that situation with the car isn't neccessarily as you see it. Any car we've bought on finance has been in financed in my OH's name but I've been the registered keeper and insurer, simply because he was the main wage earner but I was the only driver in the house. When you insure a car it only matters who is the registered keeper when purchasing insurance.

kittiej

I suppose it depends on the finance co then. I know that reading the small print on my documents it says the person with the finance should also be the registered keeper and insure the car fully comp.

foreign_correspondent

I bet he has been working and claiming on the sick for the past 11 years!

Hang in there, the council will have to rehome you if you do move out (as you have a child) so it would make sense to keep you where you are.

Hope the solicitor can help - keep us posted, and look after yourself.