Is this miserly or just moneysaving?

red_devil

could you earn a bit of money doing surveys at home. Have you checked th up your income board for ideas.

jess1974

I know its wrong but dark ladys post above has got me laughing....

lilac_lady

I had a (ahem) "gentleman caller" after my divorce and he turned out to be a tight wad. He would occasionally bring an opened bottle of wine when he visited, never bought a meal out, expected me to cook for him instead. Like a fool I did, for a while. He had an extemely well paid job so wasn't short of money. His highlight of the week was finding reduced food in his local Asda..

Meaness is a bad trait, usually accompanied by some form of control. I think the OP has to stand up for her "rights"now or she will regret staying with him when she gets older.

dark lady, your story would be funny if it wasn't true. I believe every word.

elisamoose

Is he not ashamed that his wife has holes in her shoes and no proper underwear?

dark_lady

Jess 1974 and lilac lady I know what you mean.Reading it back it does sound funny and i can laugh at bits of it now cos it was a long time ago but i was burning with fury at the time.
On a more serious note no way should the OP be walking around in old bras and holey shoes.Womens Aid actually called what i went through financial abuse so im sure they would say the same about what the OP is going through.Its about more than the money.He is being controlling and not respecting her.Lalalady i implore you to sit your husband down and have a serious talk with him otherwise you will start to resent him and could end up hating him.
If he believes he is in the right then he wont mind you paying a visit to his workplace wearing those holey shoes will he!
I seem to remember one poster telling Lalalady that she was lucky to have a man like him.!!!!!!. But i am willing to bet that if someone turned up to that posters special occasion like a wedding for instance in holey shoes said poster would be humming a different tune!

Watalie

Totally agree - how in the name of goodness can he begrudge you decent underwear? And holey shoes? I'm sorry but the OP needs to give him what for. Moneysaving is one thing being downright mean is another thing totally.

ess0two

jess1974 wrote: »

I know its wrong but dark ladys post above has got me laughing....

I'm literally splitting my sides,very graphic description:eek:

poet123

Dave101t wrote: »

if he is the bread winner, they what he says goes. but if you have your own money, why not just buy it anyway? if i had my way id never buy anything in my household unless it was absolutely necessary.

Is this 2010 or 1890?

Buttonmoons

The OP has never came back? I'd like to know if she is getting some shoes at least?

dark_lady

I would like to know how the OP is getting on too and i really hope she has got the shoes and bra at the very least.
Mind you from what the OP was saying about her husband i wouldnt be surprised if he has cancelled the internet connection just to save money!