can anyone help????????

ella05

nope its in his name only so i cant even log in online. i had to open a new account to get my benefits paid into as i didnt have a bank to put on the form

bubblegum26

If the house is in your husbands name you need to get in touch with the housing authority and explain what has happened as he could claim it back at any time leaving you homeless or giving up his tenancy meaning you will forced to leave, they will put you on a list and should anything happen they should be able to help.

You must inform the child benefit agency as soon as you can, i'm not sure how easy this will be as if it is in his name he may need to make that change but if you can get it done hopefully they will pay it to you weekly which would mean you'll have a small amount of money comming in each week.

Do you have someone you could trust that could mind the kids for a couple of hours for you, as you seem to have loads to organise and its allways easier if you don't have a couple of kids around you.

You've had loads of good advice given to you on here and I really hope that you find some will of been of help to you.

Good Luck to u x

alwaysonthego_2

Ella when you're ready you should see a solicitor, some offer half an hour free sessions initially, but you should get legal aid.

DX2

Would it not be easier to get into a refuge?

scootw1

Does the CSA still exist? Could they chase up with the father and get some money from him?

GlasweJen

CSA could take months to get involved especially as the father is claiming child benefit. To be honest with dads name on all the benefits this whole thing is going to take months to sort out and OP is going to have to prove that she has the kids, that they've really split up (if house is in exs name then they'll think he's still in it) and basically start from scratch with the whole system.

I actually think that DX2 is onto something with the refuge, the OP will be provided with shelter and will be able to apply for a house in her own right (as she could get kicked out of her house with no notice if ex surrenders it and she's not on the tenancy), can get benefits sorted with the help of people who have some clout and also make sure the kids go fed and help mum build up a network of friends away from the ex.

Although it may be difficult for OP to face there has been some definite emotional/financial abuse when you read this thread, not all abused people get battered OP, womensaid and the like can provide loads of support if you are willing to go down this road.

DX2

scootw1 wrote: »

Does the CSA still exist? Could they chase up with the father and get some money from him?

Not so easy when the CB is in the fathers name.

bubblegum26

When I had a housing issue I was told it could be three months before they would be able to offer a place in a refuge or hostel so that may not be an easy option.

I think the OP really needs to seek some legal advice as i'm sure to change the CB shes going to have to prove that she has the children in her care, with everything in her husbands name shes going to find it so hard to be able to claim any kind of benefits esp if shes still on an existing claim of her husbands.

Not knowing the reason of the breakup and the state of the relationship causes me an ickle bit of concern it sounds abit like their may have been control issues and abuse in the relationship, I just hope he doesn't use the fact shes having a hard time to take the kids........... This does happen ....

Jowo_2

If there are any abuse issues, then the OP should contact Womens Aid as their support services span benefits, debt and housing advice.

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/default.asp

It is often assumed that domestic abuse is solely about physical violence. In fact, it also covers what is considered to be 'financial or economic violence' and psychological/ emotional abuse inflicted on another, and this does include the type of control issues when a partner deliberately financially disadvantages another.

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-violence-survivors-handbook.asp?section=000100010008000100310004

Sample question

Has your partner ever kept you short of money so you are unable to buy food and other necessary items for yourself and your children?

bestpud

Could I just check OP - you have absolutely no food whatsoever?

Not any pasta, rice, bits in a freezer, canned food...?

And you literally have no TV, only a broken laptop, an old mobile phone and no other non-essential stuff...?

If that is the case, I think I'd be asking my health visitor or a social worker to come out and see me so I could show her how bare the cupboards are!

I can't get my head round you having absolutely nothing to eat or sell in the house so I think it is probable the agencies you are involved with think the same?

Perhaps you need to show them how it is before you can get some action?

Do you have things like toilet rolls, soap, washing powder...?