Trying for a Baby Part Six

lazarou_true

((((Hugs rebekah)))))) It's wierd how much you notice about your body when you are TTC.

I think your diary is a good idea, it will be really nice to look back on. Hopefully there won't be too many entries though.

bigzippy

praline wrote: »

And I don't want to hope I am as disappointment is a killer. And (I'm sorry if anyone gets offended by this, but I am in a bit of a state) I don't even get disappointed in any massive way by this because.... I'm scared of the responsibility of motherhood and if I am worthy.

This isn't the place to ponder that and we are trying for a baby, but s**t, if I am my life, our lives are going to change.

It's normal to be scared Praline. Like the others have said, worrying shows you take it seriously - the impact you could have on another being, and they on you.

Either way, you'll be ok. I promise. And either way, you'll get what's best for you both right now.:) Your husband also sounds lovely and will help you through whichever way it goes :A

colli wrote: »

I quite like the idea of adoption too, there are so many children out there who need a mum and dad. hope you're feeling better bz xx

Thanks Colli I'm not sure (with my health) whether we'd pass the screening process for adoption, which is what worries me... but since my later teen years I always had a picture of myself having a house full of kids, biological and not. I think it would be lovely (and challenging!), and DH loves the idea too - so my biggest worry really is whether my health is up to it.

RebekahR wrote: »

I have been writing a ttcing diary. This is my first entry:

" Thurs 7th July:
...We are both 30 this year and my eggs are beginning to go stale!...

Rebekah, I understand that you were just quoting from your diary, and I respect that - and that your post was a supportive response to Praline, but this is the second time that you've said in a post on here about "stale eggs" at 30.

I would appreciate it if you could just take a minute to recognise that there are people on here who have been trying longer/are older/are having more fertility issues than you probably realise... and not keep banging this particular drum...?:undecided

ETA: I hope you get the answer you need soon so you can stop the wondering and "what if"s

Candlewax

I know I am new around here and sorry if I am speaking out of turn, but have to agree that comments about "stale eggs" at 30 are upsetting to me.

RebekahR

bigzippy wrote: »

Rebekah, I understand that you were just quoting from your diary, and I respect that - and that your post was a supportive response to Praline, but this is the second time that you've said in a post on here about "stale eggs" at 30.

I would appreciate it if you could just take a minute to recognise that there are people on here who have been trying longer/are older/are having more fertility issues than you probably realise... and not keep banging this particular drum...?:undecided

ETA: I hope you get the answer you need soon so you can stop the wondering and "what if"s

Sorry. Post amended.

Lurker1972

so, been trying not to obsess about it & chill this month, so much so I actually removed the app from my iphone that was in theory telling me when the best time was.....

anyway am fairly sure we didnt get lucky again this month, boobs are seriously painful so am expecting AF any day now.
We are starting to think that IVF is the way forward, which is a scary thought in many ways.
but before that, we've said we'll see how we go with ovulation kits......& continuing too keep fingers crossed.....

also considering booking a holiday.....in the most £ friendly way of course since this is MSE......maybe getting away from everything & chilling out will do the trick!!

emsbet

praline wrote: »

Oh enjoy the meze.... We go to Greece/Cyprus every year (bar this one ) and the food is definitely the highlight of my holidays ) Enjoy Emsbet! (Is the restaurant in London?)

Still waiting. Back from B&Q (not a BBQ unfortunately ( ). But I need to go back tomorrow for a screwdriver as mine are all too big.

still no movement. Now got a stress headache. Calmer though.... And still cramping. To be honest - I think AF will be here later as the cramping is fairly strong.

Thank you all for your support during my meltdown earlier.... I was online while stressing hence my posting and stressing at the same time.

The Greek restaurant is in the town where we live in the North West. We've just got back and we are stuffed! I'm glad we haven't been out too long as I'm shattered again tonight.

Hope you get an answer one way or another soon.

Don't worry about stressing on here, we all do it - I certainly have many a time. What's the point of us posting on here if it isn't to offer and receive support.

Lurker1972 wrote: »

so, been trying not to obsess about it & chill this month, so much so I actually removed the app from my iphone that was in theory telling me when the best time was.....

anyway am fairly sure we didnt get lucky again this month, boobs are seriously painful so am expecting AF any day now.
We are starting to think that IVF is the way forward, which is a scary thought in many ways.
but before that, we've said we'll see how we go with ovulation kits......& continuing too keep fingers crossed.....

also considering booking a holiday.....in the most £ friendly way of course since this is MSE......maybe getting away from everything & chilling out will do the trick!!

Fingers crossed your sore boobs are not AF and a beanie instead.

A holiday is a good idea - lots of people who have been trying for a while end up pg on holiday most likely because they are not worrying about TTC.

Hope AF stays away Nora

xx

Lurker1972

having spent years trying not to conceive, its frustrating that its not as simple as you might think.

I keep thinking that I would feel different, even before AF's a no show, that I would somehow magically know that we were pregnant. but then again I'm not really that in tune with my body!

I am analysing every little tummy gurgle & thinking maybe thats the reason I.m putting on weight (& nothing to do with the flapjack I've been munching!!)

hey ho, time to shop for kits to predict our best time to get down!! hope they realise I am not a morning person!!

littleme82

Good evening ladies

Hope you all enjoyed a day of summer. I went to a theme park as pretty unlikely caught this month and had one of the best days out in a long time!!

Can't remember the lady who said about adoption but I feel that sometimes the vetting that they do is wrong. Whilst I completely agree some checks are necessary, if you can offer a lovely home to a child who wants parents to love them then that's all that matters!

Sorry rant over. X

norabatty_2

Well I've had a fun evening! Spent all day cleaning the house, namely to stop me from going to the toilet every 20 minutes to check whether AF had decided to grace me with her wonderful presence. I decided last night that if there was no sign by 8pm, I'd drive to Mr Ts and get a pregnancy test. 8pm came and went, no AF. So decided to go to Mr Ts. Then realised DH's car was blocking my car - so went in search of spare key to his car - no luck. He's away at a festival today, sent him a text asking where my backpack was (cos I keep the spare key in there), he then informs me that Amy Winehouse is dead and that he has my backpack, with the key in it. He's not due home til 2am, Mr Ts would be closed by then and doesn't open til 12.30 on Sundays - something tells me i couldn't hold FMU that long! So decided to do the 4 mile return trip by foot to Mr Ts, taking in one or two dodgy areas en route. When I get there, I find the tests, in a huge transparent security box, as in I had difficulty holding it with just one hand! Then had to make my way to the one checkout still open, being operated by a spotty 20 yr old bloke. There was no way of discreetly purchasing this item. There was a 40 yr old woman with her 14 yr old daughter in front of me. The girl spotted the huge box and started giggling, her mother then started asking her what was so funny and when she saw it herself, she was mortified on behalf of her giggling daughter. I personally couldn't have cared less who saw me purchase this item but all I could think of was "What if I was a 16 yr old girl, scared out of my wits of being pregnant and scared of people knowing I was buying a pregnancy test and I had to go through all this just to get the test?" It was a bit ridiculous.

Anyway, I am now back home. Thought it would be highly predictable after my late night escapade to Mr Ts to come back to discover AF had turned up en route, but no sign. DH isn't home til 2am. The test is kinda calling out to me....should I wait til the morning just incase my temps drop? Or risk the loss of £5 by using one of the tests prematurely? I'm 14DPO.

emsbet

At 14DPO I'd give it a go

xx