Trying for a Baby Part Six

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

ok ladies - can we all breathe and have a group hug?

calamityclare

QQuaver wrote: »

So there is something to that relaxing thing:think:
Any SS?

Congratulations!!!_party_

Thanks QQ yes i definately think that had a lot to do with. I had a feeling but darent believe it as my body plays tricks on me, i had but not sore b o o b s, very heightend smell and this feeling similar to af cramps but not painful at all just like a deep low grumbling, best i can describe it, still have it now! hope thats normal!

Also it was only last month i think that i found out (on here from some very helpful person) that you shouldnt take ibuprofen/nurofen while ttc as it effects the egg release. I suffer from headaches and these were nomally the first thing i reached for as paracetamol gives me a stomach ache. Obviously stopped taking these soon as i heard this and ......ta da..... BFP! coincidence maybe? but as ive said before still grateful for info like this.

I dont want really want to comment on the negativity as i am on a high at the moment but i would like to say that i agree with what gg and phunkles have said and feel they have been personally attacked quite a bit for being honest and saying what a lot of people thought. I do understand that comments posted by non ttc/exciteable newbies are not meant to hurt but they are very insensitive at times.

Anyway so much for not commenting on negativity, but i didnt want to ignore it completely neither just disappear with my bfp without acknowledging the fact that i have enjoyed sharing my journey with this thread even though ive not always had time to post and keep up

I wish every single one of you your BFP, i have left it late, have one ovary and struggle to control my stress at times and i now have my BFP......keep the faith girls!!

fannyanna

I've not been here that long but until today I'd found this forum great. Brilliant knowledge and everyone so far has been very kind and well generally lovely.

Is it normally like this because as another relative newbie I'm now feeling extremely uncomfortable and am actually scared about posting anything for fear of upsetting someone. I'm testing on Sunday and whilst it is highly unlikely that I'll get a BFP (as I'm not 100% I ovulate) if by some miracle I do what should I do? Should I post the results and be flamed for being insensitive or should I just disappear quietly so that I don't upset anyone?

I completely appreciate people needing to be sensitive to others feelings but unless I've missed something I haven't actually come across anyone rubbing their "fertility in anyone else's faces". I've just seen some peoples messages about getting a BFP. And of course they are excited. And you know what I get excited for them and it gives me hope. I'm not sure what they're doing wrong?

And I'm not good with my words so I hope (really, really hope) this doesn't end up offended anyone.

SusanC_2

emsbet wrote: »

I totally agree but sensitivity and consideration work both ways.
I've not set out to hurt or upset anyone but feel that I and others have been but in a box, labeled and then attacked. Just because names have not always been used doesn't mean that people can't be upset by those comments.

I'm not saying you have set out to upset anyone and I never said anything about naming names. I was only replying to your comment, "I do not think it is fair to for you to try and delvalue the feelings of others" because I don't think GG was trying to devalue the feelings of others. Maybe she did upset you but that does not mean it was intentional or that she was trying to invalidate your feelings any more than you intended to upset anyone else in the first place. I think it's okay to say if people have upset you and I do hope that whenever I upset people they feel able to let me know either in public or by PM as I would like to be able to apologise and also hopefully be aware of how to avoid doing so in the future.

sexymouse

Evening all,

Didn't pop in yesterday, as Moon and I decided to BD early, and I ended up staying in bed for the rest of the evening (Moon cooked me dinner after, and I had dinner in bed).

Anyway, I'd just like to say how pleased I am to see that we've had 2 new BFPs, so well done calamity, and mimi! Hope you both have a happy and healthy pregnancy.

We won't be BDing tonight as we need to go and vote, and then we're going to dinner at my M&D's, so we won't have time. I also need to save my energy for the nightmare class I'm teaching all day tomorrow.

I'm having wierd problems with AF too. Normally she's only here for 7 days, but I've still got brown discharge, and she appeared first on 24th April, then disappeared 2 days later, and then came back on with full force on 27th. Don't know if this means that it was a chemical pregnancy then or not, as normally I'm very regular?
Also having seen the definition you gave QQ on what is CD1, I'm not sure if I should have counted from 27th as that was when it was full red flow?

Fingers crossed for everyone who is testing today.

sexymouse xx

RebekahR

emsbet wrote: »

I don't think Rebekah was trying to be rude she was just mearly stating that there was a specific thread for those TTC for a long time and that this thread is bound to get lots of people new to TTC and inturn a few people who get lucky early.xx

Nail bang on the head. It was not meant in a you should go here you should go there way. It was mearly a suggestion but actually I can see other points of view such as what QQ said about those who haven't had appointments/can't afford etc might get upset by that thread. Hadn't thought of that all.

I knew my post would offend some and I knew for sure it would GG. I am happy to apologise to all. I am also more than happy to leave the thread if this is what people want and create a waiting to concieve thread. But then as it seems I am far from the only one on the "wrong thread" I don't think I am going to take any suggestions of such to heart!

fannyanna

I think those that are waiting to start TTC should be free to post on this thread. Whenever you look up information on TTC it talks about preparing yourself and your body before starting to TTC.

I don't really see what the big problem is.

RebekahR

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Euro, I share your sentiment. I've 'known' you for quite a while now and I think our timescales are similar. Should we start our own thread, even if it is in the Arms?

Message me on Facebook if you like (and if you remember who I am on facebook)

Pm me if anything gets made on the waiting to ttc front and if I am welcome.

fannyanna

Can we go back to the happier times of posting PMA's?

emsbet

SusanC wrote: »

I'm not saying you have set out to upset anyone and I never said anything about naming names. I was only replying to your comment, "I do not think it is fair to for you to try and delvalue the feelings of others" because I don't think GG was trying to devalue the feelings of others. Maybe she did upset you but that does not mean it was intentional or that she was trying to invalidate your feelings any more than you intended to upset anyone else in the first place. I think it's okay to say if people have upset you and I do hope that whenever I upset people they feel able to let me know either in public or by PM as I would like to be able to apologise and also hopefully be aware of how to avoid doing so in the future.

Sorry I was on my phone and trying to remember who said what.
I think I was replying to phunkles comment re: not naming names.

I'm rubbish at wording my sentences when I'm trying to type quickly

When I wrote "I while I feel greatly for you and Phunkles and the countless other women who have been TTC for a long time I do not think it is fair to for you to try and delvalue the feelings of others just because they haven't been trying as long." I was referring to them bot;h but thinking mostly of this intitial comment of Phunkles last night

"Yes TTC is hard but when people are going oh im not preg ive been trying for one month its so hard how do you do it for so long"

I felt that was invalidating people's feelings. I was upset by this. I was upset of the news that DH's SIL is pg but I also said in my initial post that I knew I was being selfish.

Sorry if my post got confusing

xx