Trying for a Baby Part Six

Fellpony_2

Wow loads of thread to catch up on!

How nice has the sunshine been this week??

Well I have been taking the soy since CD1, waiting for OV.

Gonna go watch the new programme on BBc, inside the human body. Hoping for a small insight as to what I need to do... (don't think they do sniffing winkies, or rubbing tummies!!)

SBDT EVERYONE!!
xxxxx

Wonder_Womble

smash7 wrote: »

WonderWomble - :hello: How are you doing?

I'm grand thanks

Always_Alone wrote: »

What is the best ahem position for ttc? I've always read/been told man on top, is this what you ladies stick to?
The month I got my BFP we did it 'doggie' each time, rather than missionary we had done all the previous months.

Also, i am a little concerned about the err 'leakage' after the deposit has been made :rotfl:Anyone had the same problem and found any solutions??
After DTD I lay with my head down, bum up in the air for an hour, from 'doggie' position. This involved the least amount of movement therefore the least amount of leakage.

emmylou83_2

Evening all! Spent ages and AGES reading back....Not sure if i should comment or not. I do agree it must be heartbreaking for those that have been TTC for a long time when someone trying just 1 month gets a BFP, but, thats the nature of the thread i`m afraid. Those with a BFP shouldnt be made to feel guilty for having it!!! I feel guilty posting here, as i am very lucky in that i have 3 DDs, but that doesnt mean i want a baby anyless than anyone else on here. I`m stressing after 4 months of trying as dd3 was so quick, but equally, dd2 was almost a yr, so i know i`ve nothing to worry about yet. I`m sorry if i offend anyone posting here, but i`m very excited for those that get their BFPs! Sorry if i ramble a bit, and very, very tired!
Anyhoo......on a PMA note......its my DD3 3rd Birthday 2moro!!! ARGH!!! Wheres my baby gone????? I love my girls birthdays, its the few days in the yr when i could actually tell someone whilst under interorgation where i was/what i was doing "x" amount of yrs ago!!! Hahaha!!!
Also, off on hols Monday, yay!!!!!! Hoping everyone has calmed down again by morning....
Hope everyone is ok?? Whats everyone got planned for this weekend? Its gonna be a wet one here in Shrewsbury i think
Sbdta xxxx

SusanC_2

fannyanna wrote: »

I had to google to understand your post :rotfl:

Hope you're feeling better x x x

Probably would have helped if I'd spelled it correctly.

While I'm not pregnant I don't have it so I'm okay at the moment.

fannyanna

SusanC wrote: »

Probably would have helped if I'd spelled it correctly.

While I'm not pregnant I don't have it so I'm okay at the moment.

Doh. Sorry if that came across as insensitive - more stupidity x

SusanC_2

fannyanna wrote: »

Doh. Sorry if that came across as insensitive - more stupidity x

No, not at all. Actually some people are unlucky enough for it to continue after pregnancy so although I don't still have it, it's not impossible although rare.

ETA: It is also rare to have hyperemesis gravidarum in the first place - I don't want anybody to be googling it and then worrying about it as it's highly unlikely you would get it.

phunkles

emsbet wrote: »

Sorry I was on my phone and trying to remember who said what.
I think I was replying to phunkles comment re: not naming names.

I'm rubbish at wording my sentences when I'm trying to type quickly

When I wrote "I while I feel greatly for you and Phunkles and the countless other women who have been TTC for a long time I do not think it is fair to for you to try and delvalue the feelings of others just because they haven't been trying as long." I was referring to them bot;h but thinking mostly of this intitial comment of Phunkles last night

"Yes TTC is hard but when people are going oh im not preg ive been trying for one month its so hard how do you do it for so long"

I felt that was invalidating people's feelings. I was upset by this. I was upset of the news that DH's SIL is pg but I also said in my initial post that I knew I was being selfish.

Sorry if my post got confusing

xx

How is that invalidating your feelings?
I was pointing out when people who have been trying for one or two months make the comment - how do you do this for so long- as if its an option to still be here is insensitive and hurts the long timers feelings!Whether they all admit to it or not is a different matter but being made to feel like the fact im still ttc is a personal option and a choice I made is insensitive no matter how its looked at.

Emsbet - i acknowledged your post last night by thanking it I simply didnt have the words to post a thanks for your support post.

And again other stuff I said has been twisted, I and its all my opinion and my thoughts, dont have a problem/issue/what ever you want to call it with people who are thinking about ttc in the next months posting here/lurking/being active members - medical advise is to take folic acid 3 months before anyways, my whatever you want to call it is with people posting here who arent ttc and wont be for the foreseeable future? Someone mentioned the wedding forum and people there who are engaged/not set a date etc but would a single person with no intention of getting married be welcomed there as an active poster?? Thats a question you need to answer yourself, and my opinion is its just strange to be on a thread where everyone is ttc actively/not preventing not trying/ stopping the pill regulating back into a cycle and be posting about having an iud fitted. Thats my opinion and if people dont agree with it then fine but dont be twisting what I said. and that person can carry on posting in here I dont care I thought it was weird and I raised it in public.

I wont be regularly posting here now.
I do wish everyone gets there bfps and everything works out for everyone.
And GG was right Ive been in bits today over this and other things.
Its nice to know I do have friends on here and over on the secret fb page and to those I appreciate it greatly.

RebekahR

This post was nicely worded. Thank you.

fantafan

!!!!!!???? I leave for 9 short months and you're all at each others throats!

You've all got the same common goals and are supposed to be here to support each other not attack. I did find this thread invaluable when I was TTC and found friends that I didn't have a clue who their names were and could off-load rather than b0llocks up my own relationship stressing DH out.

To refresh...go back to page 11/12 and see how everybody supported me (and Charlie) who got our BFPs. And back to the childhood days...if you can't saying anything nice, don't say anything at all. Remember, what somebody types can be read completely different than how you intended it to sound.

Start afresh from here and draw a line.

QQ, love ya x

Phunkles, don't let the bstards drag you down.

And for those of you who don't know me which is probably most, my first took 8 months ttc with the ladies support on here and I'm due Monday.

SBDTA x

emsbet

phunkles wrote: »

How is that invalidating your feelings?
I was pointing out when people who have been trying for one or two months make the comment - how do you do this for so long- as if its an option to still be here is insensitive and hurts the long timers feelings!Whether they all admit to it or not is a different matter but being made to feel like the fact im still ttc is a personal option and a choice I made is insensitive no matter how its looked at.

Emsbet - i acknowledged your post last night by thanking it I simply didnt have the words to post a thanks for your support post.

And again other stuff I said has been twisted, I and its all my opinion and my thoughts, dont have a problem/issue/what ever you want to call it with people who are thinking about ttc in the next months posting here/lurking/being active members - medical advise is to take folic acid 3 months before anyways, my whatever you want to call it is with people posting here who arent ttc and wont be for the foreseeable future? Someone mentioned the wedding forum and people there who are engaged/not set a date etc but would a single person with no intention of getting married be welcomed there as an active poster?? Thats a question you need to answer yourself, and my opinion is its just strange to be on a thread where everyone is ttc actively/not preventing not trying/ stopping the pill regulating back into a cycle and be posting about having an iud fitted. Thats my opinion and if people dont agree with it then fine but dont be twisting what I said. and that person can carry on posting in here I dont care I thought it was weird and I raised it in public.

I wont be regularly posting here now.
I do wish everyone gets there bfps and everything works out for everyone.
And GG was right Ive been in bits today over this and other things.
Its nice to know I do have friends on here and over on the secret fb page and to those I appreciate it greatly.

After posting a comment about how I was upset about DH's SIL being pg your that post came across to me as a personal dig and it felt to me that you were saying that I shouldn't be upset as I haven't been actively trying long (regardless of the fact that I've longed for a baby for as long as I can remember and haven't been able to ttc for various reasons). I accept that this may not have been your intention but that is how it came across to me. I also accept that an emotional me has most probably miss-interpreted what you wrote. It just goes to show how easily the written word can be taken the wrong way which is kinda the reason for the whole "bad atmosphere" and maybe highlights that it's not just newbies that need to take care with what they write. Anyway I accept that wasn't how you meant it so I apologise for the crossed wires.

Re: you thanking my post, I'm sorry again I must of missed that.

With regards to the non-ttc people posting- we will have to just agree to disagree.

This is the last I shall be posting on this matter as I am not here to argue (although I will fight my corner if I feel pushed) and I have spent too much of my time and energy worrying about this over the last 24 hours.

xx