MSE Pregnancy Club 19

Krystaltips

I was registered with Bizziebaby last year and got 3 things, worth £12, £15 and £35... So I got my moneys worth... I do know a couple of girls on the parent thread that didn't do so well though and just got things worth the bare minimum fiver... I suppose it's a bit of a chance...

I was going to re-register with them after christmas when this one is a bit closer to due, I'd rather have new baby things than pregnant Mum things...

moneysaver, I'm sorry your Mum is treating you so unfairly... I know my Mum favours my children over my sisters, but that's mostly because I live down the road and have let my Mum have a lot of input with DD1 (I was a single mum for 3 years and we used to spend Friday nights at my Mum's house up until I got married 2 years ago) whereas my sister is very bitter about our childhood and the way my Mum and Dad split up so she's very standoffish with her and only lets her see the children if she needs a babysitter and turns her nose up at any clothes my Mum buys her children...The result being my Mum resents babysitting and rarely buys them anything... It makes me feel bad for the children but it also makes me wish my sister would just let things go a bit more and make more of an effort...

I'm not for a second saying you're like my sister though lol, but maybe when the baby is here, make a point of really involving your Mum and try and foster a bond, maybe she'll be a bit more like she is with your neices towards your baby too

ethelsmum

Sammy_Girl wrote: »

Giz - Bizziebaby linky:

http://www.bizziebaby.co.uk/membership-at-bizzie-baby.asp

I would be interested to hear others thoughts? Is it worth signing up for and the membership fee?

I registered with them round about May time and so far I've had a cd to review - pop junior or something, ds and dd both love it so I think it was worth the £5 reg fee. I'm hoping when baby arrives I'll get something else to test.

rach

lilian1977 wrote: »

I do wonder whether some people are just embarrassed to offer in case the pregnant woman is just fat...although M-i-3, you would think your location would have given the game away

sadly I think this is rarely true...even when I was wearing an obvious 'baby on board' badge people would ignore it, and even last week on the bus I had my crutches and look literally about to drop, was still left standing.

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Although I'm happy to be getting the grant, I do see why the Government is scraping it. If they really wanted us to use it to buy fruit & vegetables or join an exercise class they should have given out vouchers rather than cold, hard cash

completely agree, very grateful for it but completely understand why it is being cut.

2girlsforme wrote: »

Oh and forgot to say yesterday I got my Boots changing bag for free and also had £3 of my pack of nappies, and also I got the Tommy Tippee CTN starter set from Argos for £10.99, 2 big bottles, 2 small bottles, 2 spare teats, 1 trainer cup and a dummy, very pleased, only need a small amount of bottles for expressed milk as I intend to BF again (but need some for DH to take over!).

And!!! my (o)(o) seem to be huge these days!! never noticed that before with the girls either! :rotfl:

That's a great deal, sadly out of stock at every argos near here, but have reserved one about a 20 min walk from DH's work...will see how he feels about going to collect in his lunch hour tomorrow.

Had lunch out, could do with a snooze but tesco order is coming 3-5pm so I can't. Have a lady picking up a netmums freebie (i ended up with 2 sterilisers) at about 4pm too.

moneysaver12

Thank you Krystal. I can understand why your mum wants to spend more time with your family. With my mum i don't really understand and don't think i ever will. My mum has always favoured my brother and sister, as a child growing up me and my brother could tell that my sister was the favourite. My mum admited this a few years ago. When my brother or sister need my mum she is always there for them. When i have needed her there has been very few occasion when she has been there, it has been like this since i was a child. My mum does something that makes me think that she really does care about me but then she goes back to been her normal self with me. My brother lives a ten minute walk up the road from me and my mum goes there every week yet she can't walk down the road to see us. On occasions she expects us to go up there. For example when it was my birthday she dropped my card and a cheque off at my brothers. When i asked why she had left it there, she said she thought it would be at uni, she knew that i was off revising for my exams at the time and she could have checked to see if i would be in. Also she knows my dh works from home most of the time so he would most likely have been in. Yet when it was my brothers birthday and his fiances birthday she went round to visit them on their actual birthdays. Now i don't expect her to visit me on my birthday it would just have been nice if she could have dropped the card off at my house. Yet that weekend she had time to go over to my sisters who at the time was living in a different town to her to take her shopping.

I have tried with my mum over the years only to be disappointed and to feel rejected by her. I did reach a point in June when she had a go about me not having my nieces as much, that i said enough was enough and i told my self that i didn't want her as part of my life. Then she texted me when i got my exams results, making an excuse of she hadn't texted before as she didn't have my new number. When i knew that she did as i had messaged her on fb with it and she had replied.

An example of my mum favouring people is that every week she always phones my brothers fiance to talk to her. Now last week my sister split up with her gf and has moved in to my dads (brother and fiance live with my dad) When my mum phoned their house she spoke to my sister and then one of my nieces as one didn't want to talk. Niece gave phone to brothers fiance and my mum didn't even want to speak to brothers fiance, she wanted to speak to my sister again. This has hurt my brothers fiance. Now i know that this is a difficult time for my sister spliting up with gf and my mum wants to be there for her, but my mum always babys my sister. Also when i have been in a bad place mentally my mum wasn't there for me.

Also on the sunday when we dropped my nieces off my mum said hello to us asked about c section and was more interested in my sister even through she had spent most of the day with her. She went outside to play with nieces for about ten mins and then she went not even saying bye to me, my dh or brothers fiance. Only really bothering with my sister. I had not seen my mum for three months pior to this. Also before we took nieces home, i got a text from my mum saying when will you be dropping nieces off. Apparntley my mum wasn't happy that nieces were not at home when she got there. My oldest niece earlier that day had asked to come to our house and we had her sister too. We were just about to take them home at that point anyway but if we had not been planning on taking them home at that time, she would have probabley moaned about it.

I really try not to let it get to me and i have a wonderful dh who is always there for me.

gizmodo_2

Just a quickie to say been to midwife (she's great), she made me feel so welcome and I didn't once feel like I was wasting her time. She thinks the pink discharge is nothing to worry about, probably just over doing things. She checked the heartbeat and baby is still there although he's been kicking me to !!!!!!y this morning so knew that already So all good. Thanks for all your support everyone. ((hugs)) to you all :A

rach

does anyone have an example of a birth plan that they don't mind sharing?

**confuzzled**

Rach here's one CAFC did for little L's birth LINKY

ETA: mine will probs be similar but will be in bullet points to make it easier to read:o

MERFE

fantastic news giz x

moneysaver my mum can play favourites too, she normally swaps round who it is and its not nice for any of us and means I don't get on with my sisters as well as perhaps I would have if she didn't play these silly games. With the grandchildren my daughter is so very clearly the favourite, I think I'd cope better if it was one of the others because I do not cope well with the way DS is left out, ignored spoken badly to when they are so good with lucy. We don't tend to visit anymore and its possibly we may move to be closer to OH family in the future who are able to treat the kids equally. What can I say most families are not easy. Mums booked a holiday for when the baby is due, she says all the right things about caring but I think her actions speak volumes sometimes. Would never dare say anything though, some have said I should but I think it would just start ww3.

Leopardlady

Sorry you are having such a hard time with families! I am very lucky so will stay quiet on that!

Can you tell me how do i get hold of a free changing bag from boots?

lilian1977

Birth plan - you can fill one in here, I think it's quite good as it asks questions so you don't forget anything, but I haven't actually finished it yet so it might end up being rubbish! http://www.nhs.uk/Planners/pregnancycareplanner/Pages/BirthPlan.aspx

Leopardlady - you need to join the Parenting Club ( you can do this online) and they'll send you the voucher x

Giz - really pleased everything is ok