Cancer is a bastárd

mehefin

Been there (twice) and one near miss with the OHs breast cancer so you have every right to vent your spleen in language.
Try to remember the good times and banish the black feelings to a little locked room who's key you have lost.
HUGs

funky-footprints

huge hugs to you at your loss at this sad time.

at 32 Ive lost a grandad, Uncle and best friend (27) to the disease.
My dear Best friends sister while grieving for her big sister in a space of 6 months also lost her Gran and mother in law.

Queenie

((Heartfelt Condolences))

Lost my mother to cancer so I can relate.
My dh lost his (younger) brother and father within 7wks of one another through cancer.
Currently a dear friend of mine has just begun radiotherapy.

Be gentle with yourself and take time to grieve. ((hugs))

notakid

My mom is the same age, I don't know how bad you feel I can only imagine.
Thinking of you.

foreverskint

Thinking of you and yours at this terrible time.

StartingAgainKayla70

Yes cancer is a !!!!!!!, I lost my granny to it, she had breast cancer and had them both removed but she also got bowel cancer and she died, this was over ten years ago and it feels just like yesterday. My thoughts are with you xxx

bud-miser

Looks like a lot of us are in the same boat. I lost Mum last year at the age of 72 to this foul thing. She was young-hearted and just a delightful woman - she was robbed of the chance of experiencing a whole stage of life i.e. the chance to be a litlle, grey-haired old lady!

I'm no medical expert but, whereas I can see the evolutionary purpose of things like bacteria and viruses - living organisms, in other words - I can see no 'raison d'etre' at all for cancer. It's a vile enemy of humanity and we must do our best to hunt it down.

Please note - those who follow this distasteful modern trend of decrying scientific progress and seeing something trendy in semi-superstitious, 'alternative' claptrap - it ain't gonna be your reflexologists and homoeopaths who finally come up with the cure. Oh deary me, no.

Sorry - that's my rant for the day against the ongoing dumbing-down of society which is taking place. Gotta have at least one or I don't feel I've done my bit for the cause...

Mumstheword

My thoughts are with you. I was in the same place as you 4 years ago. At the time, all I could think of when I thought of mum was the dying mum. Gradually, those thoughts stopped being so dominant, and now when I think of mum, it's the living vibrant gorgeous mum I remember, My mum too was only 65, and, in her own words, hadn't finished living yet.

The only advice I could pass on is that you can't get over this, you need to get through it. Allow yourself to go through your own greiving process. Acknowledge it, allow time for it, and get through it.

Best wishes.

MrsMW

Love and prayers to you and your family. I understand what you are going through.

twink

love and hugs to you x
i too have lost people to this awful illness, my dh and my mum when i was two years old, you get through but you never forget