Wedding Issue

Person_one

Any wrote: »

Yep... For years.

Divorce was much better then staying together for the sake of the kids. They were never suited to each other.

Why has the fact that you coped well made you so scathing of others who haven't? Not everybody deals with things in the same way and different things hurt different people to different extents.

If my dad had betrayed my mum (or vice versa) I would have found it almost impossible to forgive.

Any

Person_one wrote: »

Why has the fact that you coped well made you so scathing of others who haven't

Because the daughter is not only upset, but being nasty and mean.
What would change if he dumped his girlfriend? Would that mean that he would suddenly fall back in love with her mother?

How would that change what he has done?

red_devil

Person_one wrote: »

Why has the fact that you coped well made you so scathing of others who haven't? Not everybody deals with things in the same way and different things hurt different people to different extents.

If my dad had betrayed my mum (or vice versa) I would have found it almost impossible to forgive.

yes but as another poster said !!!! happens and its not uncommon to part company these days. They were happy to take the money i notice.

Sounds like she is trying to control her dad as well by insisisting he never has a gf! cheek or what?

One day she might split up and know what its like what would she do if her child didnt want to see her etc!

I stick with my post that says have one more go then leave it. It has to be a 2 way thing. Life is too short to keep getting people to want to see you if they dont?

Bubby

As could have been predicted this thread will just turn into a "you deserve what you get if you cheat" debate;)

red_devil

Bubby wrote: »

As could have been predicted this thread will just turn into a "you deserve what you get if you cheat" debate;)

maybe its the mothers fault he cheated has daughter bothered to hear the other side!

Even so why cant she just accept !!!! happens and move on.

Person_one

Any wrote: »

Because the daughter is not only upset, but being nasty and mean.
What would change if he dumped his girlfriend? Would that mean that he would suddenly fall back in love with her mother?

How would that change what he has done?

Maybe the daughter's message was along the lines of "I can't have a relationship with you while you're with the woman you left my mum for, if that situation changes, things might be different"

I just can't bring myself to be judgemental or harsh about this girl, she's had a tough time and its obviously still affecting her.

Person_one

red_devil wrote: »

maybe its the mothers fault he cheated has daughter bothered to hear the other side!

Even so why cant she just accept !!!! happens and move on.

It is NEVER the fault of the cheated on partner if somebody cheats.

Even if the relationship is bad, they should leave first, tie up the loose ends and THEN start thinking about a new relationship.

Any

At the end of the day we are only human and we don't always do things right.
We can forget ourselves and we can screw up. Big style.

Love is very difficult thing. Love of 2 people ie girl and boy is different from parent love. Because one betrays a lover doesn't mean they no longer love their own blood ie child. It's about what comes next that counts.

red_devil

how many times does that happen in the real world?

how does the daughter know she wont get divorced?

Person_one

Bubby wrote: »

As could have been predicted this thread will just turn into a "you deserve what you get if you cheat" debate;)

Well you do