Wedding Issue

Becc4

Having briefly read through the posts I feel some posts are being a little harsh on the bride, nobody knows how she has felt for the past few years, etc. only knowing one side it, it difficult to advise.
Long story short: My parents divorced when I was 8 I intially stayed with my 'mother' however as I grew older and wiser (I think divorce makes kids grow up too fast) and realised why my parents divorced and chose to live with my father and his new partner. For many years I was forced to visit my mother on weekends, eventually I requested to stop visiting as I felt she didnt uphold the morals I had developed. Contact was ceased on my behalf, however I didnt receive anything from her at anytime after this. This is nearly 15 years ago now, however when I got married 3 years it never even crossed my mind to invite her or her side of the family. I would have been horrified if she had turned up, she has known my true feeling for long enough and has never tried to force me into a relationship with someone I class as a stranger because I dont know her, she had no part in my life for over 15 years, she doesnt know the first thing about me or my life now. Being a parent isnt about a name on a certificate or csa payments it's about being apart of that child/young persons life shaping them, and helping them in life choices. These are my views and whilst growing up have cut my nose off to spite my face many times, but thats what makes me , me.
A wedding is all about the bride, I'm sorry to say but chosing now to try and make contact could taint her day and it is her day. If husband is set on doing something, could he not do it a few days before, weddings are emotional enough with a card from absent father to set bride/mother of bride off etc.. just a thought.

ps what 16 would want to go shopping with their father anyway, I love mine dearly but we have never gone shopping!