Clearmydebts - new chapter to becoming debt free before moving home

wendz86

Only just read the second bit as well. Does sound like you are really homesick, fingers crossed for you that you get to move back to Ireland. Sounds like you really need it!

I know you aren't really close to people where you live now but are there any of your 'mummy friends' that could look after Max in an emergency if you went into labour early? Remember it is a small percentage of babies that are born early, he/she is much more likely to come when your Mum is there.

I bet you will surprise yourself at how you cope with Max and the baby.

Sorry i can't help much but sending hugs your way xx

Dinah93

Oh gosh you sound very stressed love. Could your mum come over any earlier? If you were to go into labour early do you not have any friends who could take Max for the night, or could your mum get an earlier flight/ferry if you do go into labour early? Does the hospital have a creche so Max could spend a couple of hours there so your DH is with you at least some of the time?

Can you go to your bosses boss, discuss her behaviour as it really isn't on. Failing that all you can do is console yourself that you may well never have to see her again in a few months once the LO is born.

<hugs>

clearmydebts

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

CMD, you can only do what you can do. Yes we all have busy times at work when we might stay late every night for a week to get things done but it shouldn't be the norm. If it's a full-time job packed into part time hours then that's her problem as your manager not yours. She should NOT be contacting you on your days off - just as an example, I was off on Monday not doing anything special, just at home. One of the venues I deal with called my colleague about something relatively trivial and asked for my personal mobile number to call me on my day off to go over it, to which he replied "absolutely not!" and that's how it should be.

Please try not to let work stress you, it's not important. Really will anyone die as a result of one thing not being done? No. Some things are trivial enough to just not be done.

Could you ask to meet with her formally to express concerns over your workload? And if this fails, go on the sick with stress and then she'll realise how much you DO do! (very NIM-esque!)

Lol - I like the NIM-esques! I have never gone sick before and don't even know what I was meant to do or say!

I have mentioned the workload on several occasions but she just brushes it off and says to speak to other colleagues about how they manage theirs. When I do speak to other colleagues they say that they are putting in extra hours as well. She is just impossible.

I am feel like I am constantly apologising for not doing things even though I am putting in 110%. It's never happened in a job before.

clearmydebts

wendz86 wrote: »

Only just read the second bit as well. Does sound like you are really homesick, fingers crossed for you that you get to move back to Ireland. Sounds like you really need it!

I know you aren't really close to people where you live now but are there any of your 'mummy friends' that could look after Max in an emergency if you went into labour early? Remember it is a small percentage of babies that are born early, he/she is much more likely to come when your Mum is there.

I bet you will surprise yourself at how you cope with Max and the baby.

Sorry i can't help much but sending hugs your way xx

Thanks Wendz xxx

I just have the one Mummy friend but is due quite soon after me. The lads I know very well and are great friends but wouldn't have a clue about what to do with Max. I know I probably won't go over but it just worries me a lot. That and how I will get there.

clearmydebts

Dinah93 wrote: »

Oh gosh you sound very stressed love. Could your mum come over any earlier? If you were to go into labour early do you not have any friends who could take Max for the night, or could your mum get an earlier flight/ferry if you do go into labour early? Does the hospital have a creche so Max could spend a couple of hours there so your DH is with you at least some of the time?

Can you go to your bosses boss, discuss her behaviour as it really isn't on. Failing that all you can do is console yourself that you may well never have to see her again in a few months once the LO is born.

<hugs>

Thanks Dinah.

My bosses boss sounds even worse and more pedantic than her so I defo wouldn't be going to him.

My Mum can't come over any sooner due to work but she will be here for 3 weeks in total so that will be great when she is here.

I will check it out about a hospital creche. That is a great idea. I can also ask Max's creche if they could take him in an emergency if it wasn't a day he usually goes.

Tete_en_l'Air

I've never been on the sick either so I'm not sure but if you go to your Dr and say what you've said to us I;m pretty sure he'd sign you off. Not sure if this means you'd have to start your maternity earlier than planned (there's some rule about it isn't there?) but if you're hoping to be back in Ireland by the time your leave is up then it wouldn't matter anyway...

Try not to worry about what'll happen when you go into labour, take things a day at a time. Your mum will get here to look after Max, and if she doesn't something will work out - is there not a creche at the hospital for example - surely you can't be the only woman ever to have their second child and no one to look after the older one. Who looks after Max when you're at work? Do you have a rota with OH somehow?

(Edit, didn't see Dinah had mentioned a creche - great minds...)

Edit again after your above post - I'm SURE Max's creche would take him!! Worth asking now about it though to give you some peace of mind? x

tirlittan

Sorry to hear your job is so annoying at the moment. I'm sure it's hard with everything else on top. But please try not to stress, I'm sure things will find a way of settling down. Hope your OH will hear about the Ireland job soon. Have my fingers crossed for you.

clearmydebts

Thanks all.

Have just spoken to my OH and he didn't realise how upset I was. I have asked him if he will call a meeting with his boss and request to work from home on a Friday. That would mean that he could fly home to Ireland on a Thursday evening and go back on a Monday morning. He would only be away from us from Monday morning to Thursday evening. Not ideal I know but he would have 4 nights with us.

I don't know if I can stand living here much longer.

tirlittan

Oh, it's so hard when your heart is set up living somewhere else and you just can't do it straightaway. Hopefully all this sorts itself out soon!

Tete_en_l'Air

As in. move back to Ireland as soon as poss rather than wait for OH to get a job there? Is it likely he'll be able to work from home? Fingers crossed for you, sounds like a good compromise for the time being x