Help seeing a male's point of view?

mikey72

I'm not defending him, or sticking up for him, I was just thinking when the op said she would never ask for money, ever.
Sometimes you have to speak up if you need to speak up.

Mrs_Jojo

Poor you Jax, but well done for taking the hard decisions and and making sure everything is right for you and DD - the right man will come along - I was a single parent for 8 years before meeting DH and we have now been married for 5 years..... he's cr*p with money though, generous to a fault - lucky his salary goes into the joint account I guess :-)

LolaMadeline

I haven't read all, but almost all (start from back to catch up). I see autism mentioned. An aha moment for me, as I think he has Asperger's Syndrome. It is on the autism spectrum. People with it can't read emotions, fixate on a subject and bore others with it, don't know the give and take of conversation, talk loudly, often are geeks, no offense. They often have a harder time in life than autists, because AS people try to fit in. Congratulations on moving on! Now he can shop and cook for himself. On $100 (or 70) a month. Yeah, right!

judy2357

In my opinion when you go into a relationship, all the money goes into the pot and whats left after the bills have been paid (life has a way of equalling this up over time - illness, redundancy etc etc) you can spend between you!!!

myothercarisaferrari

how you can decide he has Austism or AS based on him not wanting to give any more money?

Allegra

myothercarisaferrari wrote: »

how you can decide he has Austism or AS based on him not wanting to give any more money?

I think I was the first to mention autism (as AS is an autistic spectrum disorder, I do not feelm it necessary to distinguish between the two, it's really only a matter of degree), and I assure you that I did not base my opinion on "him not wanting to give any more money".

Incidentally, LolaMadeline, my daughter has AS and she does not fit the stereotype you depict. I appreciate that the stereotype does have some grounding in reality, especially in the way the male of the species can be affected, but on the whole, I do not think that perpetuating the stereotype is particularly helpful. Just expressing an opinion, btw, not having a go....

GEEGEE8

OP - Sorry to see that it didn't work out for you. I've been following this thread and it's a shame that after all that worry and hassle he has decided it was just a 'trial' anyway. I should think you are very disappointed, and after 5 years pretty angry too. Well I would be.

Good luck to you and your daughter - sounds like you are a really lovely person and I'm sure in a few years and hopefully a much more dedicated OH, you will look back and see how abnormal the relationship was.

notsayingaword

I have been following this thread and asked my husband his opinion. He couldn't believe how badly the guy has treated the OP and commented "he's a kn*b who needs to grow up"!!!!

spike7451

notsayingaword wrote: »

I have been following this thread and asked my husband his opinion. He couldn't believe how badly the guy has treated the OP and commented "he's a kn*b who needs to grow up"!!!!

Your hubb's is right,OP's partner is a throbber who needs a good shoe'ing up the jaxie!!Bet he'd rather buy games for his PS3 than help his partner out.

If I was the OP,it'd be 'get a grip or get out!'

cloudy-day

Right descision OP.

All the best.