Affair ???

KarleyMarie

No advice to give but couldn't just read & run..

I really hope you get it sorted. Whichever way you go, you'll always have support here on MSE

Thinking of you..


Karley xx

Lara44

(((Hugs))) voodoo I read your previous thread. Perhaps you might consider relationship counselling if you make it through the weekend?

****kara****

Can you not call his bluff and tell him you have found a babysitter for that weekend and that you are going with him? obviously if his plans are not with you

It must be very difficult for you

Pollycat

****kara**** wrote: »

Can you not call his bluff and tell him you have found a babysitter for that weekend and that you are going with him?

It must be very difficult for you

From what I've read, the OP doesn't actually know that her OH intends going anywhere without her at the weekend.

It's all hypothetical suspicion at the moment - which is why it's so hard for vodooelephant.

minnie123

He sounds like a right piece of work - looking on the csa website and saying it would be a bargain what a complete idiot. I hope you manage to get the situation sorted and find happiness - he does not deserve you!!!!

slightlyconfused1

Hi

Waiting to see what he is doing at the weekend must be agony. Why not tell him that, as the calander is clear, you have booked a table at a nice restaurant and arranged a babysitter for Saturday night? If he tries to wriggle out of it then you can pin him down and ask what else he has planned.

You do sound very unhappy and even if nothing is going on with this other woman you really need to do some thinking about your future. As scary as a life alone with three children may be, a life with someone who treats you and your children like this sounds even scarier (sp).

Hope you get some answers as I always find that once you know what you are dealing with life becomes easier.

bellrooster

Hi OP

Like a lot of the other posters have said, I would try and find out what he plans to do with £200, if my oh took that much money out of the bank then i would insist on knowing what for.

Don't put yourself through another few days of wondering what he may or may not be planning, i know what that's like and it feels awful.

take care of yourself

jackieglasgow

Don't wait to see what he's doing. Make this entirely your decision! Pack his bags. The man refuses to bond with his own flesh and blood, has already checked to see how much he would have to pay via the CSA for his own kids, he keeps secrets, he lies, he makes no effort from the sound of things for you to have your own social life, it sounds to me like he's been a single man for a long time. If you get rid there is no need for you to fall out with your in laws, they will want to keep you onside for the kids' sake anyway, you can get a job or study and get a life of you own. Don't let this bad relationship hold you back from living your life any longer, you deserve a life that makes you happy every day. Do you have that just now? X

doodledoodle24

Sorry Op, i cant read and run, i have been in your situation, found a couple of texts, a lot worse than the one you found (very explicit), all turned out to be way over the top flirting through text, still really harsh, but i was not willing to throw away 10years and my sons father over it.......i asked him to delete her and have no contact with her, which he has done, and that was 3 years ago:)

Depending on how your weekend pans out, i really think talking is the best option on this one.

loads of hugs and xxxxxxxxx

happybaby

Hi,

This is my first post and i've actually registered just so I can reply to you. I really feel for you. Everyone on here has given some really good advice. I feel you need to find someone who you can sit down and talk to, decide yourself about how you really feel about things. If you decide you want to try and make the marrage work you need to sit down with your husband and make him understand just how unhappy you are, how unsupported you feel. If you decide to leave, speak to your inlaws, i could be wrong but it sounds like you get along with them okay, from personal experience I know in laws can be supportive, especailly to ensure they still get contact with their grandchildren. They may support you over your husband, but obviously that is not guaranteed.

Just try to remember who you are, you're already a strong woman as your a mother to 3 very small children, you will cope and survive and thrive with what ever decision you make, and there will always be people who support you

XXX